Your thoughts on divorce.

I think divorce can be bittersweet, or just bitter, but never a happy thing to go through.

When your marriage is keeping you from being the person you want to be, its time to move on.

I think its different if you have kids, but still, life is not something to waste.

 

I'm not a big fan of sham marriages.

Of course, I'd say a lot of relationships are not only built on lies, but started on them. So who am I to judge?

 

It was still an unforgetable week, wasn't it monster?

 

I'm a hot blonde with big boobs and a rich daddy.

Wanna hook up?

 

Love makes you a slut?

 

actually I am still technically married.

the real marriage was about 156 weeks

Seriously, it is hard for me sometimes even when i know it was for the best.

 

Fool me twice, Rubin.

 

Thank god I don't base my life on that. Planes are safer than cars, statistically, but I still prefer to drive my car over taking my private jet.

 

Stop scaring me

 

That's exactly what I was going to say, actually.

I think counselling can work wonders in MOST cases...but when there is physical or emotional abuse...I say get the heck out of there.

So this brings me to the topic of MARRIAGE. I think that's the problem...should one even get married???

 

Yes. Yes they should. The problem is not marriages. The problem has become the decision making process on getting married. It's not well thought out, planned, and considered. It's usually rushed into on the basis of, "I've never felt so happy in my life", only to find out that the feeling was not true happiness but instead bliss. Which we all know stems largely from ignorance.

 

But, really, why should people get married? If you're happy together and stable on your own (which you should be if you think you SHOULD get married)...what does a piece of paper mean?

 

I'm not speaking of the signed contractual agreement involved. I'm talking about the underlying, unspoken agreement to spend your life together. Not the, "We should" but the proverbial, "I do". Which, really if you've made that verbal agreement, in any form, would render any separation as being identical to divorce. The only difference is the medium in which it is handled.

 

As you've seen in my other post, I do agree with you...but saying that...

What if one party really doesn't want to try and work it out? Then what do you do? No amount of counselling will take the place of the "WANT" for it to work out.

 

As has been said before, you can't force people. I just find that kind of attitude to be selfish, cowardly, and lazy. Especially when kids are involved. I actually wrote one hell of a paper on this subject not to long ago(more to do with the effect on children than general divorce). Tis what prompted me to ask this question.

 

I was much happier when my parents got divorced then when they were together.

 

Same here...it was miserable being in a broken home.

 

But if you're parents could have co-existed peacefully, would that not have been even better? Not saying it was or wasn't possible for either, but that is the desire of most children, is it not? To be raised by both parents simultaneously?

 

If they could have gotten along, sure... but they never got along and I dealt with them fighting constantly and it was a living hell.

 

In which case it was probably best for all involved, assuming they tried. You know as well as I though that many fail to actually try. When I say try, I don't mean stay together and hope things change. I mean to actually compromise and work to be better people together. Something it seems like few are willing to attempt these days.