"You can find sex anywhere"

The passivity principle (for which many seek a biological, even superstitious explanation) is essentially a manifestation of the Virgin-whore complex:


Woman MUST reject a priori lest they should be the "whore." Man, MUST act at every opportunity lest they should desire The Virgin... Man also MUST pick up the tab to make sure he's going to fuck the whore that night, not The Virgin. Men-women relations in bourgeois society are almost always, at least partially, monetary.

Happy days!

 

The Virgin-whore complex, which afflicts Christian bourgeois society is essentially linked to the failure of resolving the individual's Oedipal complex. To wit: the Mother, is essentially both The Virgin and the whore. Man, in infancy, desires to kill the Father and wrest the Mother - The Virgin - for himself.


Problem is, The Virgin is no longer a virgin... She has ceased being The Virgin when Man came into being, and now can be none other than the whore. What are the possible solutions or paliatives for this psycho-analytic conundrum?

a) Man symbolically kills the Father through Christian marriage. The wife is now his virginal mother. But since the wife is doomed to become the whore after the nuptial ritual, Man still hasn't resolved his Oedipal conflict. He still desires The Virgin, even after the paliative promise that marriage presents to him. Libidinal supression still harasses Man;

b) Man kills the Mother through pre-marital, perverted, sinful, uncommited, bastardizing sex. Through the whore he becomes his own Man. The Virgin is now rejected a priori, only the whore exists. In the whore lies the future liberation of the sexual complexes of Judeo-Christian bourgeois society;

Thanks for listening...

P.S.: I deliberately avoided the topics of sodomy, sado-masochism, and neurotic psychosis in the interest of simplicity.

 

I'm not a good example here. I've always been the king of the long-term relationship. The periods of "dating" I did were terribly depressing at the time. But as I got older, I discovered several things. I think the first and foremost in importance was that if I ever went out trying to get laid, it wouldn't happen. If I went out to have a fun time and not worry about the sex, I had plenty of reaction.

Finally, I discovered that I could actually go out and, if I wished, never sleep alone. Find the place that attracted women who would be attracted to you and you're golden. It's not easy. The place I found wouldn't work for 95% of the men here, and didn't work for over 50% of them men who were there. But for me... I had to go to another century, metaphorically speaking.

Of course, I immediately got into another LTR. The story of my life. Just when I start to get popular, I get attached.

 

Poor Fox...KISSES....I could have intoduced you to plenty of hungry she wolves !!!!

 

Wish you'd introduced me to at least one-I just met one that acts like she's got anorexia.....

 

Just my Luck - PAST tense... *c*

 

No thanks... I think I found the she-wolf I needed to find.

 

Sometimes She wolves run in packs sweet fox... But I would warn you first !

 

The way I feel right now, I could use a pack or two myself....

 

Oh...but they might rip you apart !!!!!

 

Yea, I could use a few energetic she-wolves right now!

 

AWWW...how about one tame lady pup ???

 

Ruff ruff! Grrrrrrr......
I like puppies!

 

Hahaha....she's teething , so she likes to chew...but it doesnt hurt TOO bad

 

Ooo, chew me up, baby!

 

Hahaha.........your SO CUTE !!!!!

 

I have recently found out the same. It took me a while, but maybe I'll recover!

I'm not sure I'm quite clear on "I had to go to another century, metaphorically speaking." I understand the concept of finding a forum of women who would be into your type of personality. However, the key here is: "It's not easy." I'm a little unconventional and I don't compromise on certain aspects of my personality. For some it is much harder than others...

I'm only now becoming more comfortable in my own skin social situations (but also alone), so I expect my experience with women might change by quite a bit.

 

I'm actually not sure at all where a place in New York City is that women would be into "my type." Or, conversely, where I'd find my type of women...


I'm not a fan of the bourgeois human-relations triad: spectating (e.g., movies, concerts, etc.), consumming (eg, restaurants, shops, etc.), socializing (e.g., small talk). My most rewarding interactions with women, but also human beings in general, have been of a productive nature. That is, we actively DID something together, and that is the only way as far as I'm concerned for humans to share a genuine experience.

I don't hang well with the intellectuals, because I'm not "intellectual enough." Even though I am a fanatical reader of all things intellectual, discussing ideas seems to me one of the poorest human experiences to be had.

I drink beer a lot, but usually in those circles I'm considered "too intellectual."

I'm not a doctrinaire of any kind, so, even though I'm influenced by Marxist and anarchist ideas, I don't hang well with Marxists or anarchists.

And that is my problem, I don't fit into any one "scene." As a matter of fact, I feel dehumanized being a part of a "scene." I feel trapped in a box that couldn't contain all aspects of my personality.

So... I usually meet people in non-descript neighborhood bars, where no one is very adamant about any one particular thing; whether it be, dress, material success, intellect, ideology, behavior, ethnicity, or whatever.

 

I don't drink, so I've only been into a few bars, but I was hit on at least once in each one.

I think that the women that do get hit on can be a bit viscious in their rejections of guys. But I would say that most women who are average don't have that problem. It IS supply and demand though.

 

That's a faily balanced description... But could you explain a little more what you mean by "supply and demand?" This is exactly how I feel as a non-upper class male in this society: as a cheap product or, worse, a product without demand.

In economic terms, when a product floods the market to the extent that supply exceeds demand, its value drops. But the analogy holds only metaphorically because the number of men and women in western societies is approximately even.

So... there are complicating factors that turn men in post-industrial U.S. into cheap products. I'd say the service economy is one; prostution (whether it be formal prostitution or the informal kind which manifests itself in dates, favors women receive, etc.) is another. And, thirdly, the oppression of women's sexuality through ownership of her body by a male (otherwise known as "commitment").

Like I described in a previous post, in non-Puritanical Botswana, where the ratio is 10 women per one male (due to greater death rates and other socio-political factors such as migration), women actively encourage men to have more than one woman.