you are more passive aggressive or aggressive?

Dammit lady, all this talk of sex, and you're a no show? We're fighting.

 

I... I .... but I put you in my sig...

 

Oh.... wow. You did. I didn't even notice.


Wait a second; don't change the subject. I'm still horny here.

 

do you have to chat and have conversations in my threads of all places? its bad enough that you post in them but if you wanna have a conversation, do it in your own threads or pm the person.

 

me too but I can't very well drink and drive... you wouldn't want me to die on the way wouldcha?

 

How do you know I'm off topic of I'm on ignore? Oh wait... I can't talk to you because I fall on your ignore list. I'm sorry, it must've slipped my mind.

 

why does it bother you so much??? if you don't care... then stop caring.. I'm not trying to be a bitch but if its not gonna change why waste your breath.. or the energy to type it I should say

 

seriously stay on topic or leave this thread. if you look at the forum guidelines it is a rule.

 

I'm sorry, her majesty says I can't talk to you here

 

honestly i stay out of his threads and he goes in every thread i make to insult me... id prefer if he didnt post in my threads at all but he really doesnt have to make a home there. it annoys me when ANYONE chats back in forth in any thread but i really wish he wouldnt- he could make his own thread to you or pm you. sorry if i sound like a bitch hippylove... im asking nicely.

 

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*sniffle*

 

if i could ban him from my threads i would... i cant so i only ask that he doesnt make his home there and it is a rule, not just me. thanks very much

 

I guess I agree with whoever said that nobody can really be completely one way or the other, really. I think it was themnax actually. I mean if you're always passive agressive then you're eventually going to snap or have a break down of sorts. If you're always agressive you're probably going to be highly disliked or end up getting what you deserve.

To me I feel that, like everything else, there is a delicate balance that needs to be kept. To know when agression is called for, and when it's not. I guess though, as with most balances, it is hard to keep a good balance early on in life. You either go too much to one extreme or too much to the other.

As consequences for each extreme surface you learn why extremeties are not a good thing. Sure there are people that don't learn or learn too slowly, but they suffer tremedously because of it, in my mind. There's the kid that's always picked on because he never ever stands up for himself. Then there's the kid that gets hospitalized for telling a robber to get a job.

In the end, we are who we are, and nobody will ever balance passiveness and agressiveness perfectly. Atleast I would think not. Anybody who can has my envy.

 

On a second thought:

Who really decides when agressiveness is appropriate and when being passive is appropriate? I mean perhaps you think being agressive is an appropriate reaction for something, but onlookers do not. Then you come across as an asshole for something you felt was completely called for. Or vice versa and you look like a total idiot getting walked on when you just thought you were doing the right thing. So, I guess it doesn't matter if you're passive, agressive, or both at appropriate times because the propriety of your actions will always be a subjective matter.

 

the way i take the question is more like "do you act out without addressing the issue directly or do you address something directly right away so there's no confusion or mystery"

 

not even just that.... you can be more passive aggressive and still let the person know what you are upset about.... but it would be more like you express why you're upset but then pretend you're over it and then talk behind their back or purposly do little things to annoy them, etc....

where as a more aggressive personality might yell and scream but when they are done with that, they are truly over it