yesterday was the worst day of my life(hope you dont mind this posted in this forum)

yup it sure is, i just am praying and hoping and wishing that when it happens it sticks!!!!

 

Both my step-mother and step-sister have that condition. My step-mom has 5 children, and my sister has a 2 year-old and plans for more.

 

that makes me even more hopeful
Hubby and I are TTC so hopefully things will work soon!

 

Having a child is not going to cure your depression in the long term. It's not fair to your future kid to continue going untreated for depression while raising him or her.

 

oh brohter...for the 6 millionth time the having no children IS WHAT IS MAKING ME DEPRESSED
so what u said makes no sense

 

Thank you at least someone spoke up

 

Sweet- final straw w/ u- i just got back results that I WILL NOT BE able to have a child, so therefore i have to have alternatives. If adoption or fostering is what you have to do to fulfill your life so be it.


IF i have a child the more risk me and my child will be at. Miscarriage, heart attack, high blood pressure, cholestrol, etc, ... I'd be more than happy to raise a 14 y/ o childs baby or a baby that doesn't have real parents. I've taken on roles before and child care for almost 9 years. WAKE UP to reality. Its not the same , but you have the role modelling, TLC.

 

Having a child is not going to cure your depression in the long term. It's not fair to your future kid to continue going untreated for depression while raising him or her.
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thats what i said but its like its going through 1 ear and out the other .

 

Wow, I just read threw this forum and I must say I have yet to see someone be as down right rude to people who were trying to comfort or help them. Sweet, I understand your pain I do, I was told by doctors at the tender age of 19 that I could not have a child. HOWEVER, I am aware that having sex and carrying a child to term is NOT the only way of becoming a mother. IMHO you have alot of inner trouble to deal with before having a child, if you were truely depressed it would not be one thing that would make it all better. I'm speaking here as someone who's husband has suffered from depression for years and has even been hospitalized with it. Your acting very childish with your "I want it and I want it now" mentality. But whatever it's not my life, I just react badly to seeing so many wonderful people being spat on because they arent telling you what you want to hear. Good luck with having your child, I really help the entire process helps you grow up, cause god knows if your going to have a child you'll need to.

 

I think that people don't speak up anymore because it is a losing battle. It has been with every one of her threads. People trying help her, offer suggestions, share experiences, consoling her, but it always turns negative. It is depression, and depression harbors negativity. Unfortunately, it seems that when a person is negative all the time, it brings on bad things. So we can try to help by offering our words and positivity, but when over and over, you are slapped with negativity, you stop trying to offer kind words.

 

this pretty much sums it up for me. Its like banging your head against a wall.

 

thats ok ive found better groups of women who have actually experienced what i have ben through and who actually understand..they are much kinder then anyone here who "claims" they r....sorry but this group with the exception of maybe 2 people who still come here sucks these days

 

Sweet - you think that... we are SUCH Terrible terrible people . Just think all the time we have devoted to your yelling negative replies and tried are hardest to flip it into positive ways for you to think.
The way you thik-is the way your going to act the way your going to act is the way your going to challenge yourself
Go get professional help-it will help your mental process through this time

 

I hate when people look down their noses on people who're depressed. sweetdreadlover has my sympathy.

 

I hate when people look down their noses on people who're depressed. sweetdreadlover has my sympathy.
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I hate the fact i can't have children because ...
and i'm 26 and had to 3 more years just to find out i can't have children.
And I can't because of everything else i was diagnosed with. But you know with everything that goes on in life; theres always positive to a negative . Sure let me drag my whole entire life on and on because i can't have children. No!@ let me reflect on why ? what would the chances be if?? I can adopt WOW ?
I work with Children WOW?
I'm becoming a Social Worker!! Bonus!
Even though its not the same you have the bond with the child and you get to send them home!! Even better!! And councel them to make the parents life better. Try to get to know someone before you say HATE . I never look at someone and say your stupid your dumb or ugly get a life . I'm straight w/ them. I am very honest with them, sure i know how it feels to have a miscarriage too. Want me to go on?

 

Honey, no one is looking down their noses at her AT ALL. I've been depressed, I've been on meds, I've been in hospitals.. believe me when I say I am the last person who would ever look down on someone for having emotional or mental difficulties.

What we are frusterated about is that we've been trying to help her see the way out of her depression for months now, and its not working. And while I am not judging her, I am done trying to help her when she seems unwilling to help herself.

 

Maybe you can choose from these tips.All the best.

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