The baby isn't his, dude. Gee. What does he care if it's hard work or not? The best you could say is she deserves to be paid as a maid, because she cleans and cooks for dude. Still, I don't see too many maids bring their children into work, permanently.
Here's the thing I know what the reality is here I work my ass off, I love my man and my child I keep up my home and I work from home We have known one another for quite some time and yes he did know what he was getting into He does love my son and we've discussed these things He has made a conscious choice to be part of this family The problem for me is purely that we seem to have huge value differences which to me are not negotiable He is a good man and I care about him immensely I want both of us to be happy and am not willing to put either of us through the wringer if it's just not going to work in the long run As for you people who have differing opinions, you're completely welcome to them But Cherea is not going to get another response from me after this one He just doesn't like me because of a certain incident with Stacy Lulu so he's just being shitty I refuse to get into anymore bullshit arguments in this place My time is much more valuable than that Thanks for everyone who understands what I'm saying
Call it what you want, it's a textbook case of codependency. You use me, I use you. She's a cute girl, so she gets the blank check, he gets to dig her, blah blah blah. The archetypal, thinly-veiled prostitution of gendered relationships.
No way man its soooo not easy. I am a single mother of 4 and always overdrawn on time, money, energy, freedom. I do my absolute best to take care of everyone often without thanks. When your a mother it's all an expectation and the list of things you have to do is never ending and ever replenishing. Easy? Not at all. I don't really have any advice to offer you, only support. I know when times are tough and you need money it can complicate things considerably. But ultimately you have to do what feels right for you or you will end up feeling very resentful and things can do down hill from there. Good luck.
No you dont have it easy. Cleaning house, looking after your kid and cooking are a full time Job. Not to mention adding time for your BF. Im still not sure if your BF has a job? Maybe he should get a second job if he needs the extra money. Im a single male and i know how much work it takes to keep my house clean and do all the cooking and I dont have a kid on top of that. Its not as easy as some may think. As for you going out and getting a Job? who is going to take care of your child? I bet he wont be. So any extra money you would make from said job would be going to daycare anyways.... Your best bet is to sit down and talk with him, let him know how you feel and see what happens. The worst that can happen is him deciding to leave coz he wants more money, in which case your better off without him. Anyways good luck and worry about you and your kid first.
Update on this It ended up not working but we gave it a good try He's a great guy and I don't regret the last year Moving on though and I'm sure it's best for all
Good for you. Sometimes things like that just don't work out and it doesn't say anything about anyone involved, it just didn't work out.
the issue is solved. have fun now. don't hover around leftovers of your relationship. a new life awaits you. best of luck.
