Would you reveal secrets of an organization that you belong to?

:2thumbsup:

You are right. Even I joked about it then and now, but I never told anyone outside the frat. I don't take the secrets themselves seriously only the oath. But maybe I really am taking the oath too seriously. If it got to the point that she was in distress over my not telling her I probably would tell her, but I don't think she will ever be distressed.

 

supernatural is a good show

 

i don't generally tell people anything they don't ask me. and you'd be amazed the things people never think to ask. not that i have anything to hide from anyone anyway.

i'll talk about things that interests me. but these are mostly things most people don't find that interesting and generally walk away fairly soon, unless they're interested in them themselves.

 

Ha! I knew it! My ex-boyfriend was a frat guy and I guess thought he was sooo daring by showing me their little handbook (basically just a book about etiquette). It was really silly. My husband was in the band fraternity at the same university and it wasn't quite as strict, but they had a few little secrets and junk. I don't care enough about them to ask about them. As for me, I've never been in anything of the sort, but I share just about everything and anything with my husband, so everyone should just know if they're gonna tell me some secret, chances are good my husband will also know about it.

 

Didn't you give you word?
How much is that worth to you?

 

You seem to be a very open and honest person. For most of my life, I've had the logical idea of the fact that there is no one correct opinion or one right way of doing anything. I think more and more I'm starting to realize that fact in a different way.
A lot of people could say that you should be loyal to the person or entity that has entrusted you with something, but on the other hand, as in your case, you are being loyal to your husband by not keeping secrets(which I admire).

I guess all we can do at any moment is the thing we think is the best thing to do. I made an oath and for the time being I will keep it, even if it means not telling my wife - and I won't feel bad about it. Maybe sometime down the road I will show her the handshake - and still, then, I won't feel bad(as long as no one is hurt).

I don't take oaths lightly, but at the same time, some things are more important than an oath.

 

If you were a chick, and you were my girlfriend (not sure about wife, never been married) I'd kick you to the curb. Sorry that's ridiculous not to just show her. But I also don't understand why your wife is so adamant about knowing a frat's 'secret handshake'. That's also ridiculous.

 

She's not really adamant about it. I think it just bothers her that it is a secret that I'm not sharing with her. I'm pretty sure that it's not the information that's important but the fact that I'm not telling her. She has not brought it up much - only after conversations with her coworkers have involved the subject.

 

Do you tell your wife everything besides this one thing?
(sorry I didn't read anything but the first and last page)

I think it really depends on the type of person you are and the type of relationship you have. If you have a very open, talkative relationship where you share lots of things(like everything) with each other and you're not sharing this one thing...well it seems odd, especially if it's something that's not important. I'd guess that she thinks it must be something more important by the fact that you're keeping it from her...it could perhaps make her paranoid about what it is that you're hiding.

Personally, I don't really know what should and shouldn't be shared with friends, family, in relationships...it all confuses me.

I guess I'm also the type that will tell anything if asked, but like themnax mentioned, it's pretty odd(to me) what people don't think or dare to ask.

 

Sounds Like Her Co-Workers Have Been "Stirring The Pot", So Why

Not Suggest To Her, That She Share Her Life With You, Instead

Of You, Her, And Them..???

Just A Thought...



Cheers Glen.