Would you date a fat person?

i would date a fat guy, yes.

 

I can't believe some of the responses in this thread! I don't understand how people can judge based on the physical! Being fat does not always mean unhealthy and being skinny does not always mean healthy. If you judge people purely on their exterior you run the risk of closing yourself off from some amazing individuals. This judgement promotes disunity and hatred.

 

We've already gotten past this part...we all know that a person should not be judged fundamentally based on their appearance alone. I also agree that no person should ever feel demoralized or embarrassed for how they look. However, this is a thread about whether or not you find a fat person attractive. I have been with men of different shapes and sizes myself, but I can attest to the fact that if I'm not sexually attracted to a guy, I don't want to date him. I also can't date a guy who's sexually attractive but doesn't have a good personality. But I'm not going to fault a person for not finding fat people appealing; you can't help what your preferences are.

Honestly, I would probably not be attracted to a man who was severely overweight. A little pudge on someone who is otherwise healthy is not a big deal to me, but I personally want a mate who is healthy, who can keep up with my activity level. Someone who is severely obese will not be able to do so. If I happened to fall in love with a guy's personality who also happened to be that fat, then I'll address how I feel then. But generally speaking, I don't go for fat guys, even though I'm fat (at this moment in time but losing weight steadily). Part of the reason is that being fat was a big detriment to my life - I hurt my back and lost my mobility for awhile, and I had a breaking point in my life where I knew I couldn't continue to live like that. I don't want to date someone who has those bad habits that I have to be careful not to get sucked back into...does that make sense? I acknowledge that not all thin people are healthy, but because of the way I live my lifestyle, I'm hoping to attract a partner who shares something similar...you know?

You have to look at it more objectively. It's easy for you to get emotional about it and think that everyone on here is being judgmental and superficial. There are a few shallow replies on here, but the bulk of them are very matter-of-fact, and everyone is entitled to their opinion.

 

Thank you! That's what I've been saying all throughout this thread. This is not a judgment thread versus fat people, although some posters have made some judgmental remarks. This is about attraction and preferences. As I've pointed out before, I'm also fat and I'm attracted to petite slender (but not too much) girls. I don't think that makes me such a bad person, or *gasp* a traitor to fat people everywhere. It's just my preference, and it's not the only thing I look for in a girl anyway. I mean sure, I find my fiancee's slim body attractive, but that's not the only reason I'm marrying her.

 

damn!
Greengirl looks sexy as fuck.

 

I voted yes, because I am not usually attracted to body-type, but (physically) a face with character and (emotionally) an endearing personality. My last boyfriend was 6 ft. tall and almost 300lbs. I, by comparison, am 5'2" and 120lbs. Yeah. That relationship had people talking, lol.
My current boyfriend is average height and a little chubby, but nowhere near as unhealthily obese as the last one.

Actually, I had the shortest relationship with a boy that was shorter and skinnier than me by about 15lbs... Hrmph... I never really thought of myself as a shallow person, but perhaps subconsciously I am a chubby chaser? :tongue:

 

Most men believe it or not prefer woman who are a bit pudgy. Its the internal woman form thought. It is a natural thing to like the pillow soft rounded womanly figure. However, that is not FAT.

On a personal level, I have struggled with this thing for 15 years. I am not fat and my best friend who is male .. I am female .. is in love with me. He really gets mad because I won't give him some, but I am sorry, truly I am but I just am not attracted to fat people. Nothing I can do about it either . Its just not going to happen.

Loose the weight so I can try but until then there is just no friggen way. I know that sounds bad .,. but its the truth and I can not help it . The chemistry is just not going to be there.. In fact its a huge turn off!.

 

If it's barely any chubiness at all, maybe.

I wouldn't date a fat girl, if she doesn't have enough self respect to look good for herself and better health, then there is no way i can get with that. Sorry.

 

Normally and in 99% cases hell no.


But you know thoser attractive fat women??

Like how do I explain.

They don't have rolls and they have hot faces and nice plump breasts.

There was one girl in high school that was fat but I found myself attracted to her for some reason, her face was hot and she wasn't THAT fat.

I had my chances and I kept second guessing myself if I really wanted to go through with it.

Titty fucking a chick with massive boobs has been one of my fantasies and skinny girls with massive boobs kinda....well they're freaky.

 

Most often, they're gross..
I'm not sorry for saying this. Is the sky blue?

"I don't like small cars or real big women... but somehow I always find myself in 'em"

~Kid Rock

 

fat chicks are cool.
they are friendly.
they always swallow.
I love 'em.
As long as they have a pretty face and are not super fat, its all good.

 

nope wouldnt even consider

 

this is an awkward thread...
if i had a gf ( if was gay ) and she wasn't so big that she could not walk then yes. See, I am chubby and I would DEF date me!

 

Yeah! Thats the spirit i had last yr., when i was a ramming giant truck...by the way, i may not offend a fat gal, if i had feelings for her...

 

I dont really have much other options but bigger girls are all I can get here cuz they are usually more understanding of how I feel.... all the hott-er girls are either taken or bitches. I know cuz I am a chubster!

 

OMG being fat never made me "desperate" for a male's attention...ugh, I hate that stereotype that all fat women are desperate for any attention they can get. I guess I don't let something like my body size make me have a low self-esteem. I am losing weight though...already lost about 30 lbs, need to lose about 40 more to get to my goal, so almost halfway there. I guess I'm a pretty attractive woman (one of those hot fat-chicks I suppose) and in certain situations (work, for one..eeewww) I used to get hit on a lot by really creepy/pervert guys when I was fatter. I think they thought that since I was fat, I must be desperate and would reciprocate their creepy come-ons...but not matter what size I am, I'm never desperate enough to give my time or attention to creepy, molesty dudes old enough to be my grandpa! haha...it's funny now that I'm thinner than before, I don't get creepy dudes anymore...there is this old hippie dude who has asked me out a couple of times, but I don't get the pervert vibe from him...I think he genuinely has a crush on me - but he knows the persona I have at work, which is a cheery and upbeat young woman working at a health food store...we have to be really friendly there, you know? He's developed a crush based on that image/persona...he doesn't know me at all. Also, he's like my dad's age, and I just don't date guys in that age group...the one time I dated a man close to my folks' age, it was a complete disaster, so I just don't go there anymore (even though there are some older dudes who are totally hot...lol)...but if you were graduating high school the year I was born, well, we're not a good match..lol!

 

I am really laughing to tears on the guys who thought u were a easy-to-get n attention hungry fat chick!!! Cheers 4 ur esteem and congrats on loosing 20 lbs...i really respect health-concious persons, just because Iam2. God bless u and may u reach ur goal soon...

 

Hey, I have tried and tried for all sorts of girls, one girl even tried to get a girl to sleep with me for Xmas... I used to weigh 290 and thought that now at 230 I could... Girls dont have to think about who is easiest. You could go up to MOST straight, single guys and hit the sack in a heartbeat if you wanted.... I think we have it tougher.

 

Yeah! I am with ya...but, think urself will u date a totally ridiculous n OMG-she's-a-ghost type of chick, even if u r fat or whatever. Now that i have developed my body in a much better way, i can feel girls eager to talk to me...it just differs the way u see n feel the world...

 

Another glorious would you date thread...And the crowd goes wild over it...


How can one get mad over someone's preference? I mean, is it because it is dealing with overweight people versus if it was dealing with super skinny people?
I mean look around, how many threads are there dealing with people's preferences. I see countless "would you date someone with small boobs" "would you date a guy who was shorter than you" and so on... But for some reason threads about weight seem to really go in a direction of arguing and anger. Of course people say some stupid things, but so what? That is what they like, and it shouldn't bother you, even if someone says something ignorant because chances are you have said something ignorant about how someone else looks. People all have different preferences when it comes to "dating" or "mating" with someone, that is something you should be happy about. Who really cares if someone doesn't find someone overweight attractive, I mean is that really going to keep you up at night or make you become a cutter?

Whenever there is a thread about not wanting to date overweight people everyone gets upset, but yet when people say they dislike super skinny people, no one gets upset and everyone agrees.