Would you date a fat person?

This is a tricky subject- how does one define "fat?" Overweight? Obese? Perhaps weight might be an issue w/ physical attraction, but I wouldn't say that weight is the only factor when I decide to date someone. I've dated heavier guys before, and I wouldn't turn someone down based on weight alone. Personality and grooming would affect my decision to date someone more so than their weight.

My fiance has put on a few pounds due to medication issues, but has lost weight since he's been off of it. He's still a little bit on the heavy side, but his weight has never been an issue during our relationship.

Weight shouldn't be a measure of a person's worth.

Peace and love

 

TYTYTYVM. BURN! us women BURN 120 cal per hr SHOPPING. So IF you guys weren't so friggin picky you could BURN more than that when we shopped too. ;-)

 

I dunno 'bout the rest of us heavyweights, but I for one do not want your sympathy or anyone else's for that matter. Why would I want to go out with someone who only agreed to go out with me or be friends with me because she felt sorry for me? I don't need pity.

That being said, I'd like to hear more from you because what you said is rather general and vague. Can you give some concrete examples of how sympathy for fat people "validates their excesses and makes them victims"?

 

LOL Maybe, but aren't there other cheaper exercise alternatives that don't involve the use of credit cards?

 

Of course that is one study out of many that concluded the opposite.

 

I'm kinda skeptical about that one myself. I have better stamina now than when I was obese.

 

well in my books fat is fat chubby is chubby BIG MOUTH IS BIG MOUTH RUDE is rude. So plz set your own boundaries and stop being so judge"mental" Haha.


I'm a lil overweight for my height if i lost 15 lbs and toned up i'd be good . But when i first met my hubby i was a lil too thin for my height i didn't properly eat. i didn't have a disorder of any sort but anyways ALL my family thinks i'm FAT. If we all sat back and thought what is fat ?? OUr mouths are because of how rude some words are. use them wisely.

 

I don't think any fat people in here are asking for pity!

I also don't think any fat people are telling you that you should be attracted to them.

For myself, all I was trying to say is that you shouldn't assume someone is overweight because they are lazy or an overeater.

 

ok i weigh 225 which is 20 pounds less than i started with this year. i am about 5' 10" and i dont give a FUCK what anyone has to think about me. im fat id say but see, i dont care what anyone says, i like the way i am. i dont think i could be any happier with my body. im pretty athletic for a chubster as well, i can outrun some skinny kids. i personally prefer skinny girls but i dont mind a little meat. i dont think there is anything wrong with fat people ONE bit, some just cant lose the wieght so its not their problem, and for the ones that can, maybe they just want to live that way, so be it, who is anyone to tell someone else how to live there life?

 

It depends entirely on how you define active.

 

Who gives a shit?!
Why would anyone want to base their decision for being with
someone on something as superficial as that?

 

How should the body be excluded from physical attraction?

 

I agree that people should be accepted for what they are-- but only if it's something they can't change. Usually, a fat person CAN lose weight, but they just don't want to or don't know how.

If you say 'I don't care that this person is fat', you're telling them that being fat doesn't matter, and that they don't have to change. Really, this just keeps them from losing weight, because if they're accepted as they are, then they're allowed to keep on being fat and won't ever discipline themselves enough so that they can one day lose weight and feel better about themselves.

If it's totally okay to be lazy about changing the undesirable things about ourselves that we could change if we really wanted to, we become complacent about becoming better people and feeling better about ourselves.

 

I don't want to sound like a shallow peron but for relationships I care about personality ánd looks. If they'd only have a great personality they'd just end up as good friends and not as a relationship person. There has to be phisical attraction.
And for me.. I'm not very attracted to severely overweight people. I'm very thin myself and I just kind of expect any person I'd be with to atleast be thin or avarage, although very slightly overweight wouldn't be much of a problem for me at all.
My current boyfriend is thin, but muscular. I think he's about the perfect looks. I must add if I'd ever meet a fat person who I truly loved for who they were and found beautiful even though the fat, I could surely be with them, and that'd be possible, just not as likely.

 

EXACTLY. Seems like a lot of people ressent their bodies on this thread. The body is "superficial", "unimportant", etc. et al.

And yet I've yet to see an AFFECTIONATE (as opposed to PLATONIC) relationship, in which the BODY hasn't played a major role.

 

hah. it is not your job to "fix" fat people. it is not ANYONE elses fucking business save for the person who is overweight, to deal with their weight.

you are allowed to not be attracted to overweight people. thats ok. trying to "fix" them as if they were broken, like objects, is complete and utter BULLSHIT

 

Why? I don't see how it is any different that trying to get your partner to stop smoking, drinking so much, or hitting rails.

 

who gives a flying leap. shut the post down so people don't make it that big of a FAT deal.

 

Yea, I tend to agree, enough of this not so nice thing.

 

Spooner,
Your partner has volunteered to join the partnership. A prospective date has not. "I want what is best for you" is a no good reason to get into someone else's business.

Again the distinction, your partner's business is your business (and your's their's). That's part of becoming partners.

But a date saying, "Yes, I'd love to see a movie." is not an invitation to join bank accounts or lifestyles.

Dating to "fix someone",.... that sounds close to "I'll marry you if you get a boob job." When looking for a date, if one is looking beyond pleasant dinner conversation, one should look for an equal, not an inferior who needs fixing. At least warn the other person that they are about to be fixed.