Would you consider me slutty?

no need to yell dude...
i wasn't asking if it's your opinion, i was asking why it's your opinion... out of curiosity - i am genuinely interested in the kind of mental programming behind a judgement like that

i am not saying your opinion is wrong (although i disagree with it) - i'm just wondering where it comes from?

 

I can understand where sweetleaf is coming from. I could never sleep around because I don't like the idea of having sex with someone I don't care about, and perhaps hardly know - so I don't understand why people would like that.

Whether it means that person have low self respect is debatable. They might do it for attention and to get the 'love', contact, they want - who knows?

Some people might just enjoy it. Like sam stoned said - it is hard to judge on the basis of one post. But keeping numbers would suggest that she enjoys it.

 

Somewhere on these forums I posted my list of sexual encounters and it is about 56 diff ppl. I sat and searched my memory just out of curiousity and amazingly you can remember all the diff ppl you have had sex with but not all their names. In fact one I never got her name. But, I am a product of the sexual revolution of the '60s and we would have sex indiscriminately just for the fun of it.

Some would consider 56 a lot and others would consider it not a big number considering it spans half a century. (altho for a quarter century I was in relations, so didn't do too many others) It is all relative to each person's perception.

I hate the term "slut." It is a derogation thrown out by ppl who have biases about sex. (Yes, even the dictionary ppl who wrote a definition)

However, like any derogation you can own it - just call yourself a slut proudly and ppl will admire you for being so candid, honest, defiant and prolly even wanna hang out with you.

Guys aren't usually called slut for having sex with the same number or more ppl - they are just adventurous guys doing what guys do.

Just remember - If it feels good, do it.

 

The sluttiest girl I know has more self-respect than average.

 

Shale, I get what you're saying, but I don't agree 100%

Free love is nice and all, but sluts do exist. And men are sluts too.

Apparently it's the cool thing to fuck without condoms. I think anyone who has sex with a good amount of people and is unprotected, is not only a slut... but a dirty slut.

There are fucking diseases out there. If you are okay with possibly catching something and spreading it around just because you want to feel good..... that's what a slut is to me. And yes, I'll treat you like one.

But if you have the self respect to take care about yourself and just like yo have fun, I have no problem with that. I'm kind of like that. But I'm not gonna stick my cock in any festering stinkhole... cause that's dirty.

 

That's not a slut. That's an idiot. Not cool at all.

 

Wait a minute, back up here and give me a clue.

Who said anything about fucking without protection? Not me. Yeah, we did - back in the '60s when the worse thing out there was syphilis and there was treatment for it.

But I agree that one must use protection while having sex with ppl whose sexual and drug shooting practices are not known. It is part of my HIV education program that I teach and even show ppl how to use condoms. And I emphasise that you don't have to be a slut to be at risk - the first time can do it, even with that nice healthy looking piece of ass.

So, what the hell are you referring to?

 

Damn dude, chill. Did I ever say i was talking about you? You were implying that there are no 'sluts'. Sluts you implied were just what close minded people called free love. I was disagreeing. Free love is great in theory, but in reality it can get pretty ugly. And it often does. I consider STD spreading people people sluts.

That's what the hell I'm referring to.

 

hehe I wasnt yelling, Im totally ok that you disagree with me..
Im really not trying to judge her its just that I do feel that girls that
''sleep around'' for ''fun'' really dont have self-worth because how
is a man suppose to respect you when your sleeping with other individuals for fun..I guess this comes from me being me..

 

I agree with you Tipsy Gypsy..
But I also ask how does a person have self respect when she wants ''attention''
so she decides to sleep around??? First of all she wouldnt need attention like that if she was had any respect for her self...
And why would the op post this thread asking people for their opinion if she really has a lot of respect?????
Now, having self-worth I think thats a personal thing..
But it really shows how self-worth someone is by just seeing the way they live..

 

please explain yourself...

 

What's to explain? She just has a lot of self-confidence. It's obvious when you talk to her. She is picky about who she sleeps with, but she has done a lot of people.

 

yea self confidence..
But the topic here is self-respect..

 

You don't think the two are related?

 

Well I meant that some people crave the attention of perhaps a certain person and believes sex will get them that. Maybe someone is trying to figure out who they are, or have nobody around them so sleeping with people is a way they believe of doing that. That doesn't necessarily mean that they don't have any respect for themselves, but are trying to grasp something deeper, and sex is a way of doing that.

I don't know if I am actually getting out what I mean to say - it's all in my head, just can't find the words.

 

not really its totally different..

 

NO NO i SEE WHAT YOU ARE SAYING..
Yea I can understand if someone is still trying to find themselves
and they maybe need sex to do this..
But some people do know what they're doing and they just have sexual
relations with others for fun and this by no means is respect..

 

Nah, I wouldn't call you a slut just yet XD.

 

Well you just said it there - fun!

Some people drink, take drugs, etc, it's not much different. It's their body and they can do what they want with it.

They are having fun, that does not mean to say they have no self respect. Everyone is different, what you take as your limits might only be another's starting point.

The start to understanding why people might, is not to be prejudiced against them.

 

I like what you are doing just make sure that the sex you are having is safe. They are having sex with others too so its not just you and them when you do it.