Would you approve of your child marrying outside of their race?

I understand having a bad association with people of certain races, but you just gotta remember that not atll people are same and white people, rob, beat and harass people too. So just hope that your daughters want to marry a good guy

I guess me coming from a country that the majority of people are multiracial, it's very hard for me to understand why people can think that someone being from "X" ethnicity makes them be certain way. Of course there's racism in DR too, the funny part is that is not towards white people.

 

He's not thinking quite that straight yet, Aut. Give it time.

 

Actually its technically in the south. The mason-dixon line is between md and pa. I cross it everytime I go snowboarding.

Yet most people here identify with the north.

Plus this isnt about my personal opinion. First of all I think most people are just too politically correct enough to state their true opinion on things and if they werent you might find a lot of people share the same feelings.

My issue was with your generalization about the south. You said it sounds like south, well I guarantee a mixed couple would get less stares in Miami than small town NY. And they would also get less stares in NYC than small town FL. So you sounded ignorant.

 

I agree and him being good is what is most important. But it would still be more comfortable for me if he was the same race, thats all. I completely understand it when other races say the same thing also. I dont think that is racist. Now if I started calling him names when she brought him over that would not be good. But I wouldnt do that I just stated my preference.

Ahh DR. One of my good friends is from there.

 

I don't think the issue is race.
Its more about culture , and what would be expected of a husband or wife .
You sometimes see it with a devout Muslim of certain kinds coming over very Western before marriage to a Western woman.
Then afterwards he expects her to cover her face and all that...
That would be ridiculous IMO

 

stupidity is the one thing im intolerant of..

 

Cool, Dev. But Miami is typically not a racist part of the south.....So if I am not defining a truth in my original statement, I clearly was not speaking deeply accurately or looking to FIGHT about it....kay. It would do you good to let things slide a little easier.

HHB- you and I both.

 

i was referring to your ignorant statement...

 

It's definitely think is racist. The fact that someone from another ethnicity marrying your daughter makes you uncomfortable without any other reason for it, except that they are from another race is racist. You dont need to be mean, rude, disrespectful to someone to be racist. People are people and thinking of them as being different than you, to the point that it makes you uncomfortable is racist.

I always feel weird when Im talking about these things, because since Im Hispanic, I dont want to come across as you white racist people haha, because Im not at all like that, nor Im defending my own ethnicity or minorities, just because I belong to one. It's just something that I dont understand at all, I've dated the whitest Finnish boy to the blackest Dominican guy (with a lot of shades and nationalities in between) and I've never thought of them as being different, or felt uncomfortable. They were people, I was people.

Now, would I had ever dated some thugged out ghetto guy with some bling around his neck, who calls me his bitch and robs people, no, it would never happen. But not all black people are that.
As I wouldnt had ever date some white emo kid, who does nothing but fix his hair in the mirror and whine and cry and cuts himself to get attention. But not all white people are like that

There are bad things in everyone.

 

You might be surprised by the overall racism in the south vs the north, and I dont want to fight about it either. But as someone from the place, the constant generalizations become grating. The worst you hear people from the south saying about northerners is how they talk funny or are assholes. Or how they have snow. They dont talk about it with anything really good or bad to say and refer to the whole area as up north.

Then the people living outside of the region but close by talk about it with contempt and generalizations, and I dont understand why. Im aware that the rural south can be pretty bad. But a lot of rural areas can be bad everywhere, which is why I stick with cities or beaches.

 

I don't care personally. I have three boys, I also support gay marrage as well. As long as my children are happy with there lives I an fine.

 

it works

if it didnt they whould blow up if some other race touched some other race

i just used blow up for a comical remark

either you find it funny or you dont

and either way i dont care if you do

if i did i whould phone everyone up here and asked you if you found it funny

i whould be all like "he ..hey hey did you just see what i just posted?"

 

I agree with what youre saying and for what its worth the races that would make me uncomfortable are black and asian. Surprisingly the people who jumped me were always black or asian gangs. I would love it if I had a son and he met a nice latin girl. I think of racism as a behavior, like discrimination. But youre certainly right I guess it is a prejudice because I am pre judging. Once I got to know him I wouldnt care about the race if he was a good guy. And I certainly would rather it be an upstanding guy out of her race than some lame thugged out white guy.

 

my white brother is getting married next Summer to a black girl.....but they are both from the HUMAN race, and that's the only race that counts

 

i will not read the whole thread , but thats a very weird question.

 

how funny, i was just thinking to myself of the requirements i have for anyone wanting to marry my daughters. hardworking, gentle, loving, patient, somewhat chatty (for MY benefit), fun-loving, energetic. well, what they looked like didn't really come into it, except that i want healthy, pretty grandbabies.

 

I have one boy and i wouldnt even think about it if he wanted to marry a girl outside our race. i just want him to be a caring, loving, good-natured, giving person that will give me grandchildren.

and no, i wouldnt care if he married a man either, im not against gay marriages, but i would want them to please adopt so they can give me grandchildren

 

my dad was okay with my brothers "having" black chicks, but none of them were okay with me not dating non-white guys. i always was the smartest of the bunch. i'd call that HABITUAL racism. once they get used to the whole thing, they didn't actually care

 

in our generation, it was a bit hard for our parents to get used to the idea. my parents, i think would act like they were ok, but actually not be.

 

My problem isn't with who they would marry, but the fact that they would even consider getting married.