Thanx everyone I feel a lot better now. My mother's gonna arrange for someone to pick me up in the late afternoon now, hooray. I think I was overreacting a teeny bit,m though, I was up wicked late Tesday night worrying about the whole situation. Oh, well, the problem's been solved now.
You know it's gotten to the point that I get nervous following anybody down the street. Now people on line are encouraging people to carry pepper spray and brass knuckles. Shit howdie I might try to make pleasant conversion walking down the street and end up getting a face full of tear gas or a broken jaw. Just because I scowl when I think and look like the notorious hippy villan that want's to get all women stoned and make them my victim. And I think alot. So I scowl alot. I am completely harmless but I look like what the media has told you to fear. How would you feel if you broke someones jaw because they were saying excuse me as they passed? How would you feal if you accidentally teargassed yourself instead of your neighbor walking home because he walked behind you for 5 blocks? Because chances are that is where the pepperspray is going. Peace Out, Rev J
So she should wait around and see if something happens to her.. THEN she should be weary? I think it would be a smart idea to be aware just in case he is. Because unlike some idiot said earlier, rape isn't something you just live through and move on from. Be cautious, just don't let it run your life
OK statistically speaking if she is going to be raped she already knows the assailant. Stranger rape is about a one in one hundred chance and someone in the neighborhood especially the alleged "Unregistered Sex Offender" the chances are slimmer. But keeping the it can happen at anytime attitude and arming yourself is just asking for somebody to get injured when it doesn't need to happen. Peace Out, Rev J
Quote: "if you're going to be raped, you're going to be raped, everything happens for a reason. so if he rapes you, hey, that is an experience you have to live through and you just have to learn something from it about yourself..." Now that is some cold, twisted shit. Jolie, Nevermind about overreacting. The stakes are high and I'm glad you're being careful. Speaking from a span of years, my sense is that being careful is a good thing all the time. As for the guy, maybe helpful to ask your neighbor about the basis for the accusation. You may learn something about the guy - or maybe about your neighbor.
In Texas the age and sex of the victim is (or at least used to be) given. It's pretty horrifying to read down the list. And believe me, nobody is sent to prison for peeing in a bush.
Lol. My mom did that when she was drunk and someone was ringing the door bell and then running away/hiding.
Hey I don't appreciate people calling me an idiot because I suggest rape is something to be lived through. What kind of advice is: "If you get raped you should just give up on living and become depressed for the rest of your life"? I'm not suggesting at all that she will get raped because I think it is highly unlikely. BUT the sad truth of this world is that in fact people are raped all the time, and as horrible as this IS (and I know it is... my best friend in the whole world who I have known since I was a child, the woman he loves was raped as a child by her uncle) it is something you MUST overcome. I just don't get what I have said that is so horrible. I do not wish something so awful on anyone but the fact of the matter is it does happen... and you can't just give up after something like that happens. Take it or leave it EVERYTHING happens for a reason, trust me... everything experience is a learning experience... it is all about perception... without suffering there can be no pleasure... I really don't know what else to say if you really think I am so twisted for suggesting that all human experience is for the purpose of spiritual growth and that perseverance is a valuable attribute and that difficult experiences must be lived through and transcended etc. ultimately I am only trying to be positive. everyone dies, everyone hurts, everyone lives and loves... just accept it.
^^ Look dude I don't think you're an idiot. You're just inarticulate. As an Adult Survivor of child sexual abuse while I wouldn't suggest or recomend my experiences to anyone but personally I am thankful for them. I probably understand myself better than anyone else that I know. I probably know more about forgiveness than most people here. I know the stastics better than most so I don't get scared as easily. The most dangerous thing I own is my house keys. I have been nearly destroyed by fear. I've had flashbacks and nightmares. But I can smell a sexual preditor from a mile off. The statistic is that one in five women is raped or sexually abused ( I realize that is only what gets reported) and five out of seven of my girlfriends has been raped or sexually abused. I can deal with PTSD better than most. I am thankful for all of these experiences because they have made me what I am. I have found a sense of peace and contentedness with myself that is pretty much unmatched. I have forgiven my abuser and walked away. In all it wasn't a completley bad expierience. Peace Out, Rev J
I never said sent to prison. About 20 years ago James Hetfield the singer from Metallica was charged with indecent exposure for pissing in the bushes in Golden Gate Park. He was probably drunk and beligerent at the time. If you are arrested for indecent exposure that is a "Sex Crime" and to the best of my knowledge you do have to register as a sex offender afterwards. Peace Out, Rev J
Hempy, your words about someone else's pain and horror seem so casual - hey, it's just another experience to live through ... for the purpose of spiritual growth. I read little empathy or understanding in what you said. It would seem more productive to work on understanding others' experiences vs. interpreting or explaining them. Reverand JC offers his experience and responses in the fire. And even though it seems still to reverberate in his life, he has emerged in a place I know many wish they could find. You're right about peeing and prison. Namaste (I honor the place in thee which is the same as the most beautiful place in me)
Well, the fact is as I've worked through my shit I can honestly say the memories of my abuse now are about the same as memories of falling off my bicycle. There are memories with no emotion attached. After working through all of the crippiling shit I can look at steps and aspects and see great humor in them. I was doing a guided meditation for forgiveness where we were supposed to put ourselves in a moment where somebody hurt us look at them and forgive them. I got right up to the forgiveness part but instead I grabbed my abuser and started strangeling him. I wasn't ready at that point. Peace Out, Rev J
Yeah but I once heard Carrie Fisher say "Holding on to resentment is like swallowing poison and waiting for the other person to die." Peace Out, Rev J
My 14 year old carried pepper spray under the theory "better to have and not need than to need and not have." Wonder how many kidnappings/rapes could be prevented with a PS eyewash?
Yeah REV,I suppose she's right,but a serious case of righteous indignation helps cleanse the soul occasionally.
