Working Towards Goals

Usually I'm much more focused on immediate goals than long term. I do think about the future and try to plan as far as I can - but life is unpredictable so I only have very general long term goals.

 

I could make more use of lists. But at first instance it appears not to be my preferred approach.

 

I rarely set goals because I rarely follow through with them. I just kind of do that I'm doing at the time, setting goals just feels really stressful to me. Though, I'll admit, my life currently is stressful because I never set any goals as a teen.. but at least the stress I've got now is the stress I know and love. Right?

 

If you say so

 

dreams yes. just it too easy to micro-plan, and then just not do anything. also diversity is the universe. it doesn't let micro-planning work. it has to be, for planning to work, it has to be opertunistic, and that means having to have a lot of flexibility built in. it has to be open to constantly shifting possibilities as they come up. other wise it just looking for walls to beat your head against.

 

Right now my goals are to make more friends that are physically near me. I moved to this state to be with my then-fiance, but then that didn't work out and he and my now ex-boyfriend are my only friends here. My other friends from childhood and college are in different states and have lives of their own now. We keep in touch, but it's not enough. I can't hang around my exes all the time, but I spend more time with them than I probably should because they're all I have. So this is a goal that I have unfortunately had to impose on myself, because I'm an introvert and it doesn't come naturally to me. I've already taken baby steps and I'm super proud of me even though my progress is excruciatingly slow.

 

i'd love to have 40 acres of timber bamboo, and raise families of red pandas for their species survival program. but its one of those fantasies for me, that's not even a priority really. there are other things i'd like to do even more that i don't ever expect to either. even owning my own little piece of dirt at all. or living where i didn't need to to build things on it.

that's why i build things in 3d on the computer. because that's the only way i really can.

now if i lived in the kind of free country america pretends to be ... but i'm pretty sure anyone with more then half a brain knows that's bullshit.

 

I used to make lists... But I kept losing them.

 

I was somewhat addicted to goal setting in the past. Planning everything from the music I would listen to each day, and what clothes I would wear and food, to of course bigger goals...but at some point I think I made too many goals, stopped trusting myself and intentionally rebel against myself.

I've found that I do meet my goals but it takes me a lot longer and just to create routines is good enough for me and the rest will come if I at least admit to myself my intentions for bigger and better things to happen. So basically, I think far in advance and I always have bigger goals in mind, but I try to focus on the day by day stuff.

 

I can relate to this part (although I often notice I also planned what music to listen to next day as well. But that is mostly when I am just into a specific genre and can't wait to emerge myself in it again). Also: sometimes routines pretty much create themselves I guess I just have a reliable subconscious
Good to see you around again!

 

I don't think there has ever been a time that I have not set goals or had short and longterm things that I am working on. I am a list maker and work from there toward making them happen.

They at times change because life is like that and things change but overall most stay the same until I accomplish them.