Wife wants to be used in bed

One or two posters said to ask her what she wants. Well, that might just take the fun out of it for her. Like just giving directions to a worker. The expectation of the unknown, and as always, anticipation is a large part of females' sexuality. It's a fine line to walk, but once involved in some physical activity, try some of these things.

Here are a few ideas based on my 'plain vanilla' wifes reactions over time:
If getting oral from her, hold her head, even weave your fingers into her hair and gripping firmly move her head back and forth, or hold it still and move in and out (not too deep). One thing she surprised me with was, while gripping it, I rolled over on top of her head and 'fucked' gently in and out of her mouth. I though for sure I'd gone too far, but not a sound came from underneath! I knew if I came with her helpless to move away like that it'd be too far, so backed off.
While missionary-ing leaned back and told her, 'get on your knees,...now.' Then with her on her elbows, I shoved her chest down and pressed her there while fucking.
It's kind of a cliche, but from behind, gripping her hair and pulling her up against you, then reach around and play with the nipples.

Now these are some mild versions of "use me" for starters, then see how it goes. FWIW.

 

I know she would go for many things. No pain' But I don't know what my woman would want. I would try light bondage. Maybe bring a stranger into play.

 

"..."But I don't know what my woman would want"...."

If you're getting some mouth activity. While Mr Happy here can no longer come to full attention, when my wife does me, I weave my fingers into her hair and grip her head. Then push it down but not into her throat which would trigger gag. Then move it around, then up and down, hold it still and pump in and out, again not too far. When it's come time I pull back a bit so she can collect it before swallowing. Seems to be just enough of a 'use me' thing but still with concern for her. She likes it.

 

I have tried to think of things, I could never use her in a bad way. I would like to see her use one of the fucking machines, that you can adjust speed and length of strokes. I know she prefers the real thing, but I'd like to see how long she could go, or if the machine would short circuit,or burn the motor up.

 

"..if the machine would short circuit,or burn the motor up...."

Funny, <grin>. Such a rascal.

 

Yes I was joking. But after our first threesome with a well endowed guy and my better than average size. I had to wonder, after a 4-5 hr. sex session, and she wanted more.
For sure would want one wired 220.

 

There's a female stand-up comedian I caught on a cable show. She, while delivering a joke, demonstrated how she uses her vibrator, and did the motions of starting a chainsaw. I actually laughed out loud. Funny stuff.

 

Before we married, my wife had a crazy girlfriend, who liked riding large objects, and dry humping. In public, her clothes on , funny for everyone, but her boy friend.
I would like to hear what others think, but not much interest in this I guess.

 

I find this interesting. In one way, I’m interested in the psychology of why a woman would like to be used like that. No doubt, they have their own reasons and preferences. In another way, I’m interested in participating in such an event; being just one of several or many others, using her for our own enjoyment, as a semen extractor and receptacle, and enjoying the show.

 

Yes, it's a complex issue, but in some ways also simple. You mentioned 'the psychology of', and as most things with us humans, it's a mix of both. The human body is incredibly complex in its thousands of mechanisms, but is also absurdly simple in the ideas behind them. Females, as society's evolved from the hunter/gather societies, to now when developing socially today, have a mix of both instinct-urged and learned-behavior. Both of which lean toward being 'submissive' to a male. Then throw in free will and, as you put it, "...their own reasons and preferences...", and it gets really complex for them. But yet again, as with the body, also absurdly simple.

Wow, I got on a roll there, sorry folks! As to specifics of "why", I've PM-ed with a 34 y/o in the UK who has been happily indulging in such, and to a rather serious degree. She writes well, and reading her thoughts about it are interesting. As to your 'semen ... receptacle', I could discuss my wifes experience before we married, but really shouldn't here.

Ok, nuff said.

 

When my wife wants to be used, she means that she wants several men to fuck her, cum inside her and then the next one continue. She doesn’t do it very often. Maybe twice since I’ve known her. Last time was a few years ago. We were out to eat and she just up and says, “I wanna get used this weekend.” I said, “Oh yeah. Got something in mind?” She said, “Yeah. I wanna call up a couple of fwb to use me as a cum dump. Just fuck me silly. Then I want you to finish me off and lick me clean.”

 

My wife occasionally likes very rough sex including hair pulling and pinning her down. She told me about an ex who also enjoyed this type of sex. It's a turn on to hear about what they did. He was well endowed and she knew she was going to be sore afterwards but it turned her on when he just "took it". Her words.

 

Im not so rough but mine has also expressed how she’s enjoyed the fact that I’ve sometimes just taken her whenever and wherever I want, without asking or sometimes not even saying anything, and without care for her interest, desire, or satisfaction.

 

My wife, when doing some mouth work on me, I'll run my fingers into her hair and grip. Then move her head up and down and around, but never thrusting too deep. I'll let her decide the depth when she wants to finish me.

Once she was kneeling between my legs, and gripping her head, I rolled both of us over to the side and wrapped my legs around her, with her head held under me. Moved in and out of her mouth awhile, basically fucking it. There was never a sound of complaint from underneath! Thought that if I came like that, her not able to move, she'd probably gag, so backed out a bit to her usual head-only. She never said a thing about it.

 

My wife will say that to me sometimes. I’ll get a text that says, “I really want to just lay back and get fucked good “. Ill respond and she’ll tell me “ ill be in the bedroom, just use and fuck me anyway and anywhere you want. Don’t ask me anything or tell me when you are going to cum. Cum wherever you want and then sit down and watch me make myself cum.
I’ll go in there and she’ll be in doggy on the bed with her hand reached back on her ass spreading herself open. I usually give her a good tounging and rimming and then while she is still spreading her ass cheeks , i will rub the head of my cock up her crack and down across her pussy and back and forth stopping on her tlight little asshole to judge her reaction. If she wants her ass fucked she will push back the next time i stop there. I’ll say “is that what you want? And she said, i want all my holes used.

 

Yeah I’d probably need to make sure if she has any limitations when she tells you that. It may not mean for you to do whatever you want to, may just mean that she’s wanting to be treated like a sex object or play a little rougher than usual. Trust me, if my wife told me that I could do what I wanted, she’d be getting my cock in her ass, but that may not be what she’s looking for.

 

Wow, communication is key here. Find out her boundaries, just how open is her request and what is off limits. Tell her you need more input from her to fulfill her desires and yours. Once you have a good idea of what she's wanting you can proceed to indulge her curiosity and fantasy. The sex talk itself can contribute to her getting what she really wants. Tell her to let it all out, don't hold back or be hesitant in letting you know her true desire, tell her you won't be judgemental or condescending, your goal is making her happy and giving her the excitement and satisfaction she is seeking. You really want to please her, but in the way she is expecting and wanting. Tell her nothing is off limits when it comes to her opening up to you. Your willing to listen, to provide her the opportunities she's looking forward too. Tell her to be her naughtiest in telling you her expectations and she'll get the hottest and most rewarding results she could hope for. Sex should be fun and exciting without remorse or guilt. This could be the first step on a fantastic journey so be bold and adventurous.

 

Yes indeed!!

 

Once you learn to drive, you want to go to a lot of new places

 

Wife always set up meeting, mfm, fmf, and mostly other couples. I had a couple of lady friends tell me they would like a threesome with me and my wife, but I never pressed it. Now I wish I had.