why the fuck do people get married??

(or no marriage no commitment and no security)

 

Very good. You express my feelings exactly.

In fact, I think the pressure of "foreverness" (whatever that really means) is, as far as I can see, a main reason why people break up --- paradoxically.

Also, Hollywoodian expectations of endless romance. A commitment to another has much more to do with the platonic than the romantic: helpmates rather than playmates.

Though both are not mutually exclusive at all times, of course.

Commitment for me is only possible if I can take breaks. And marriage only makes sense as long as it provides me with some practical, legal or economic gain.

 

shit, people, i don't have to be dave's only, i just have to be his numero uno.

 

I can dig it. Though I've never really tried to know if I could do it.

 

well, hell, man, you know how much time dave spends on the road? alone, in a hotel room, busting his ass for the family? it gets lonely and cold out there. a little enjoyment here and there can't be a bad thing. you don't need the love of your life all the time, sometimes you just need to feel still alive and human.

 

According to Texas laws, I'm apparently already married. Our district manager went through all sorts of hell when her son got charged with polygamy because he and his ex-girlfriend had introduced each other as husband and wife in public and seems that's all you need to be "married." So, when he found a new girlfriend, his ex slapped him with polygamy charges. What a load of crap. I'm not sure what all happened with that, but some thousand dollars later, he swears up and down he'll never marry. He has a family, but he and his girlfriend refer to each other as "partners," and have no wedding bells in their future. Understandably, of course!

I just want to get married so I can have the fancy ceremony and all that. As far as I'm concerned, we already have made the commitment, but I've been planning my wedding since I was old enough to know what a wedding was, so I'm certainly not going to let the fact that in America's society today marriage is a joke, get to me. I still have to be princess for a day and Daniel's gotta be prince for a day. We haven't done it yet because I'm only 21 and want to wait and because we don't have the money to pay for the ceremony I want. Even though it won't be terribly expensive, we're still looking at $1,000 at the very very least. And with the bridesmaid dresses and the groomsmen tuxes, that's going to far exceed that thousand, I'm sure.

So, yeah, I think marriage is an institution that's been spat upon and stomped into the ground by American culture and media, but I still wanna do it.

 

Didn't marriage itself exist before the legal part? I mean, in prehistoric times getting married meant having sex and cohabitating. Maybe I'm traditional, but I want to get married.

 

teehee! and let same sex couples do it, too!!! no reason they should be spared our agony just because they have the good sense to find someone of the same sex to love and understand!!

 

I know.. people should be able to do what the fuck they wanna do.. who is the fucking government to tell anyone to marry or not marry someone, whatever sex they are? like what difference does it make, honestly, to let two men or two women marry? as far as legal papers go, I mean - cause religion-wise.. you can't expect religious people to be that open.. being religious in itself already is close-minded..

 

I don't like how some women are saying that the marrieds are more committed to their partners than the non - this is so untrue! And generalizing way too much. Every couple is different (married or not).

As far as having children..... I am willing to give birth maybe once (From what I hear the epidurals work quite well). But I don't think I should, or will, for several reasons.
For one, I have some health problems that may or may not affect a pregnancy. Two, I think there are enough children in this world who need to be taken care of than to keep popping out more into an already overcrowded world.
Also I think if I find a life-partner who was a lady we could not make babies together. So why not adopt?

 

a cultural thing, nothing more/less.

A pointless as it technically is, when you say your married it does send a message.

 

I think ill one day give a girl a ring, but i wont go through the process of making it a legal biding thing. I think love should be between 2 people, not courts, family or child molesting preists.

 

I wanna get married to an American to get a Green card.. hehe

 

^ thats actually a popular thing now, and americans marrying canadians for healthcare.

 

Penny, you're not an American? That explains why you're funny and can spell, I guess.

 

if it's not such a big deal then id be offended if someone didnt want to marry me if they were in a long term loving relationship with me... its just the cherry on top

 

Someone will make an honest woman outta you Ruski.

You're funny and mad beautiful.

 

they got a lot coming to them if they tie the knot with me teehee

mad is right!

 

we get married because it's what the other person in the relationship wants. (many times... the female)

because they believe that a piece of paper means...commitment. Why? I have no idea. But it puts them at ease for a little while... then they're back to thinking you're sleeping with everyone.

I did it for the free honey moon though.

 

why get married if YOU don't want to? i don't get that. you know now you're just going to get a divorce and lose a buncha money, right?