Why that slightly heavy girl is hot (while others are not)

there's that old fat chicks and mopeds joke...at any rate, having typically been at the heavy end of the spectrum, not well dressed and still sought out, i have no idea. maybe it's the oral fixation, the hedonistic tendency, the fact that we feel like the worlds most comfie couch and can usually cook well, or the ice-age survival tack of having a woman heavy enough to feed your child. who's to say?

 

one thing that i HAVE had told to me in a moment of drunken honesty by a man is that the fact that i wasn't so desperate for approval from men that i killed my joy with skanking-out, dieting and exercising was attractive. i still went out, i still liked myself, i wasn't going to be put down by anyone. hell, half the time i was more surrounded by women trying to cop a feel than men. began to think i was some sort of fertility fetish.

 

I concur. This goes for thin women too. If a thin woman doesn't have the confidence, I think that makes her less attractive to guys, and other females alike.

Although I don't swing that way, I know what sexy is... And when I see a skinny girl at the beach who is clearly self concious and covering her waist with her cross arms and walking with her head down, she's not someone I would consider sexy or admirable... A bigger woman on the other hand, who struts her stuff in a hot two piece, who feels comfortable in her skin is way hotter.

To me, I don't think it's a physical thing at all...I don't think it's their skin or nails or the way they dress, but most certainly the way they carry themselves.

It shows strength in character, and I think everyone finds that sexy.

 

Everybody wants to bang KC

 

it's a smooth ride with a lotta horsepower and low mileage, what can i say?

 

How does that old joke go...

Why do fat chicks give good head?

Because they have to.

 

Coupled w/ 'Honesty and women'?

Should be similar to what we've had
for the last several days w/the age threads, eh? *L*

 

It should be said, that most women that get fat - are usually at a state of comfort with themselves and relationships in general. It's comforting to know that when a man introduces his wife to his buddies, they don't all want to fuck her. And the same thing applies to men as well. We don't all need attention from the opposite sex, when we have someone that loves us for who we are on the inside.

 

I wonder why this is only a topic for discussion about women. What about men? There are many overweight and flat out fat rolly poly men out there, right. And men "let themselves go" in a long term relationship just as much as women do because of the comfort factor. I'm just curious, why the emphasis is always on women. Has it ever occured to men that not all women want to be with a fat disgusting slob who can't walk around the block? I really do think it is about confidence and how one carries themself. And no everyone doesn't have to be attracted to the same type of person, that would be awful, but the point is that the reason some people appear to be more attractive to others is because they put themselves out there as such and don't hide or act as if they are ashamed of themself. I honestly believe it is about confidence.

To address what spooner was talking about a few posts back, one can have excess fat on their body and still be in good aerobic health. True, Boston marathon runners, are generally slender, but that is only a fraction of the population of this country alone, and that is what they do, they train for that all year long. We aren't talking about them, we are talking about the general population. If you want to date a marathon runner, then go for it, but they are not the norm and they are most certainly not always the most healthy people.

I'm larger than average, (both in height and weight) but I have a lot of muscle on my body, so I have more of an athletic build, but I do have excess fat. I can also squat 200lbs (for those of you who don't know I'm a personal trainer) and run 5 miles with no problem, mountain bike, take kickboxing 3 times a week and play 5 hours of volleyball on a Saturday afternoon. However, my sister (whom my boyfriend refers to as homely and boring) couldn't run from a burning building if her life depended on it and she is "average" to "thin". So, really fitness has not everything to do with it, some I would imagine, but there are many many thin or average people out there who get little to no exercise at all, eat crap daily and have no aerobic capacity and there are people out there who do have some extra fat on their bodies who are more physically fit. You can argue with me if you want, but I have numerous articles to back up my point that I'd be more than happy to share with you.

 

My cousins a bit over wieght shes not the typical skin chick, but she absolutly beautiful. Shes also a great person.

 

very well put, speaking as an overweight woman myself, I am never short of men who think I'm sexy, and it's because I myself know I am - my mind is sexy, not necessarily my body but it carries over and people don't notice the weight in the end...

 

i told this one to my husband. he totally knew it. i was sad. i thought it was the best ever.

(though there's something to be said for a girl with an oral fixation, even if you have to put up with fat chicks & moped jokes.)

 

I know the threads gone tons of places but initially I thought....
"I think its the fertility... yes the fertility, I have definitely experienced this, actually only in the past 2-3 years... and its a very strong lust, but not some perverted sexual thing, its more like the urge to emerge as one... damn thats an odd one... but its right on"
...and reading more I realized that it is the attitude, sometimes the aloofness, the "can I even come close to knowing 1% of this amazing person?" question burning in the back of your mind as soon as you meet them...
I dunno how it would be turned on guys, since I am one...but I know that my past two girlfriends have loved my little chubby belly, not that I'm fat, its just that I'm not all flat stomached and sixpacked, being that im lazy and happy enough not to care... a little yoga goes a long way and I dont feel the need to keep up a 90 minute routine like I used to... some days, a nap is enough.... its definitely the person on the inside who's attractive and i guess you can see it from the first moment... even though that person may not be the real 'them' as ive known people to attempt to appear confident in order to hide their anxiety...

lovin'light... enjoyin the thread
adam

 

i like a little heft on men. when you wrap your arms around them, it's solid and big and warm. i don't want a man who spends all his time fussing over how he looks, no more than i wanna be that woman. morbidly obese is not an option, but the body of a man who enjoys his beer and isn't missing 2 hours a day to make sure that he'll still be able to turn the head of every high school chick in the vacinity is good. there's more confidence, more comfort. they're spending more time thinking about things other than obsessing over what size jeans they wear. my older brother was a model. he was a dick about it, too. he'd never let anyone do anything around him that would tempt him to the dark side. there's a huge difference between keeping active for fun and general well being and killing yourself to look good. some people can do a few things to keep active and stay very slim. other people will do those same things and not get quite so slim. but the glow of happy good health is pretty obvious.

 

men are attracted to women who take care of themselve's. any guy would pick a woman a few pounds overweight who always looked good and could fit in anywhere over one of 'perfect' weight who always looked kinda grungy and like she didn't care about herself.
Seems like forums replaced focus groups?

 

though i would beg the heavier girls to stop calling themselves "volumptuous." it's voluptuous, there's no 'm' in the word.

 

maybe the "lump" part is a freudian slip. LMAO!

 

Have you looked at Aphrodite picture lately ?

They simply look more feminine, and usually are funnier, and more easy going.

They look more Feminine.

Voice of course, plays a great role - at least with me.

 

Hey - you are perfect what 15 pounds you are talking about ??

 

No my dear, the truth is when it comes to men, the body is important.

clever roundich ladies, can do many things as you said, and be much better looking than the super models type.

Who said & promoted that brain wash about skinny women or fashion models,
it is not true with most men i think, a real man wants to hug a real woman with some curves if possible otherwise it feels as if i huged a man like him.

I bid you must be very very atractive lady, by the way, the answer to this thread is in your user name. oh it is even Bold by forum defaults. ha ha ha.

Look up.