Why Females Acting Like This To Me.

Everybody doesn't have schizophrenia and paranoid delusions about people trying to hurt him. In case it wasn't extremely obvious from this thread his thinking is pretty disorganized and I imagine he's visibly symptomatic in the real world. Are there problems with human relations? Sure, but that's not where I'd start to approach things in this thread.

 

I never said it would solve all his problems. Nor did I even claim it would "cure" him of anything.

I'm stating it as someone who has felt terrible anxiety speaking one on one to people because of our natural instinct to draw our own conclusions of what people are saying.

It's negative responses like that which cause the OP the anxiety that he is speaking of, I am simply encouraging him to TRY and take down his defenses and communicate openly with people. None of that could ever cure any mental disorder and I don't know how you got that out of my post.

There's no kind of therapy or diagnosis we can give OP here. That HAS to come from a doctor. The only thing we can do is give him advice to best encourage and deal with the people around him. Which is all I was doing.

 

im sticking to my theory, its always worked for me, and if people mistake your niceness for pussyness then its up to you to set them straight. of course im oversimplifying, if you want people to hang around you it takes more than niceness, but its a good start.

 

it takes honesty across the board...it helps to be kind, of course....^

and destructive interference by any other uninvited sources really sinks things at times...
i stay out of people''s shit and relationships unless I am invited in and asked my opinion or whatever....as it is none of my business....and I don't make it such...and if someone does involve me, i try to help as best i can and then tip toe away....

even when my own mother would ask for me for advice...i would ask her what she really wanted to do and to do that.....and that i would be fine with whatever she decided to do for herself. I never judged her.

 

i dont think it has that much to do with being nice ... and yea, being too universally nice will just make people wanna take you for everything youve got, then when theres nothing else left to take from you they lose interest. if your gonna be nice, then you have to set firm boundaries and be prepared to come off as a dick sometimes when people try to overstep those boundaries, because they will definitely try.

you have to know how to be assertive without being a total asshole, which relies on some subtleties of human interaction that might appear like magic to some.

 

nice..i hate that word...and that I am not.....
Boy can I be the bitch out of hell when someone oversteps their boundaries....
I would not want to cross my own path then....

 

As if you do.

This is why you are on the net, in these types of forums, these types of threads

You love butting in

 

That is your unfounded opinion, whoever you really are.

and I have been attacked by bigger bullies than you are before....so my thick skin does not even care.

 

But if everyone did have SP, then it wouldn't even be a thing and he would be boringly normal

If he was a successful artist with SP and a little whack then to everyone that would fit, even increase his cred

In the entire history of psychology, has there ever been one single individual 'cured' of SP to the point where others couldn't sniff it out a mile away

Wouldn't then the most effective advice be along the lines of either follow a career path where being a little strange is a good thing, or never tell anyone as the net effect of that stigma from everyone else is still going to be more detrimental than any effect of the condition itself

What if, the entire time, all those research papers, all the money spent, all those hundreds of thousands the world over that obtain some related psychology or medical degree......all means squat, because the main problem for those with SP is everyones elses attitude

Who doesn't have problems with human relations?

 

Who ever I really am, what do you think I'm Elvis being anonymous on an internet forum, I am someone you still wouldn't know if you knew my real identity

And I'm a bully now, because you love butting in to peoples personal lives, totally not true, I'm such a bully

 

so ur suggesting he take up painting? or become a musician? i think those are the only professions where its cool to be crazy.

 

proof please...where have i butted in?
any more than anyone else here in a public discussion?

back up your words.
At least, I do not go attacking people for nothing...i have done nothing to you, so please leave me alone.

 

At least some kind of job where he is kept busy all the time, the furthest away from like a boring office job or even a security guard i.e a job where he has too much time left alone with his own thoughts

 

OP ... you never mentioned what you are majoring in. (if you did i missed it). If you dont mind sharing, it kindof makes a difference. i would suggest something like CS or any type of IT major. Machines dont care if your a little off, and id actually say it helps a bit. You do have to be extremely rational ... but i get the feeling that your problems are mostly about your emotions being irrational, which is really of not much concern as lomg as you have good rational analytical and problem solving skills. Also, computer science teaches you to pretty drastically shift the way you think which can help in other places too when you start approaching other problems the same way. Every system has certain rules, you have to think about how to craft a solution that accomplishes the goal that conforms to those rules.

The worst thing you could do is major in something like business where your gonna have to deal with a lot of people that arent gonna understand you. You wouldnt like that, and you probably wont end up liking your peers. In CS your peers are likely to consist of a good portion of nerds hyped up on coffee and jolt cola, and are likely to be more accepting of people that dont quite fit societies idea of socially normal.

I dont have schizophrenia, i am a nerd though and tend to judge people more by their intellect than by how "cool" they are according to the standards of the dominant culture.

In any case, i suggest you to take up A GOOD HOBBY that interests you, and to devote as much time to it as you can. Make it something thats reasonably difficult to become great at, preferably eith a very steep learning curve that way it gives you something to keep you busy and interested for at least a couple decades before you reach the point that you camt possibly imorove at it further.

If your going to college though, you might wanna think about majoring in the thing you like to do as a hobby ... you have the opportunity to do so, thats why i asked your major, if you dont mind telling.

 

I'm really good with fixing computers and I love science.I have poor social skills I have low verbal and non verbal skills but in the same way. My IQ was 85 I was 19

 

Man, there has been some dumbass advice in this thread


Yea I was thinking that.also some missed up post just to make there self feel better.and this why I don't go public with this stuff cause people well act like how they acting.and I'm the crazy one who getting disrespected for trying to find help. Most post was decent some I just think was jokes but I do like to thank all for posting