Why do we dislike others?

Hellow
We use our minds to decide everything right? I suppose even that is a matter of opinion... However, I do hold that opinion. I also think though, that you can perch on a tree up high above your mind - kind of keep a birdlike watch over it... By doing that, you can choose your own reactions with your own perceptions and intuition.
It is easy for our minds to run away with us because of all the stresses and negative energies floating about in this society - I think that is why hate can seem so uncontrollable sometimes. But even so, you can control it if you put your mind to it in a more meditative way. Everything is your own choice, even your reactions.. And your choices!
Blegh, i'm probably not making sense. Currently, I like the people i once believed i disliked, and i Love the people i once believe i liked! What a beautiful world
Love,
Sunny
xxx

 

etc etc, ad nauseum. plus the 'ad infinitum' I mentioned.

I'm glad you agree.

And this is where I say YES, I agree. If we were to speak in person over a pint you'd understand that I'm not missing the point; I just enjoy devil's advocate.*

The issue I had was with your first post being about semantics and not the subject to hand.
Please don't quote this last sentence and start at the begining of our debate again.
I said we could go round and round on this all day, and we have.
Greek people in togas put enough effort into all that stuff. I'm trying to upset the old categorising ways of western science with my arguments. Perhaps a good idea will come about. (I'm not too proud to not use the word 'perhaps'.)

You say I debate with myself as if thats a problem...
Do you mean that you don't?
*It is very unhealthy for a person to not debate with themselves. Otherwise their mind stagnates. Opinions turn to dogma and we get a troll on our hands. I will put forward silly ideas and toss them away again unless they strike a chord and cut through the miasma of semantics. Attack this mode of thought all you will. I'm secure enough with who i am and what i am about not to care for the approval of others.

I feel the best way to scupper my argument was given by Meng. Although I did say the only way my idea would work was if everyone did it at the same time.
Conversely, Sunny's post is along my sentiments.

Dok. Earthwhirler. What are your sentiments on motives for and the elimination of 'dislike'?


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You dirty cheat! You can't post something and then ask me not to comment on it!

My first post wasn't about semantics at all. It was about trying to understand the subtleties of our emotional reactions.

Indeed I do. But I think you were confusing your own internal debate with the external debate that you were having with me!

A common theme with hippies, but only healthy up to a point. Others serve as a reflection to help us understand our own selves. Being governed by the opinions of others is bad, but paying attention to the opinions of others is good.

 

bitch bitch bitch bitch bitch


wonder if you dislike me for that? ironic, huh? anyway, i'm getting sidetracked, my mind is on other things and other people, and the scaryness of this thread isn't my point...

the point is emotions are complex, but in a weird kind of way. they are instincts, they can be the gentlest softest thing, or they can be completely consuming. so why are they complex?

we often have little controll over them, because they are instincts. they can't be felt, or touched, or measured. you could try explaining them in chemical terms, but this doesn't explain what happens inside our minds

dislike is a colection of negative emotions, influenced by many things, much which has been included. for me, the breaking of trust and the lack of respect are 2 of the biggest causes of my dislikes

 

A common misconception. 'Dislike' isn't only negative emotions, it's also positive emotions. I 'dislike' the taste of shit, for example (educated guess for anyone tries to be funny ). I'd say that's a fairly healthy dislike.

 

Damn. I gotta try harder........

 

In my own experience, when i've disliked someone it started from first impressions, which i regret greatly as I found that i was very wrong. I dont want to go into that cos it's too long to explain.

right now i give people the chance to "show" me what they are. I tend to be nice to everyone regardless of what they are like, cos I'm not one to judge them, however, now that i think of it, i tend to dislike girls more than boys cos somehow i feel threatened.

for example there are these girls who go after every guy they see and i feel i dont want to be near them cos they're poison, seriously, i feel vulnerable cos i'm not that bitchy...besides we have nothing in common, so I just ignore they exist. It's not that dont like them, it just that i dont want to be associated with people like them.

 

Now that's an interesting one. There's a big difference between first impressions and intuition. I get a very intuitive reaction to people when I first meet them, and I've found that this feeling is correct 99% of the time. Interestingly though, my intuition often runs counter to superficial first impressions. There've been times when I've met someone, and all my impressions of them have been negative, but my intuition has still told me to give them a chance. In fact, this has been true of at least one of my oldest friends.

 

I think those sheep genes are impeding your perceptive powers. That was a JOKE. Y'know, HUMOUR.

There needs to be a point? What's the point to not liking sprouts? What's the point to not liking the Spice Girls? What's the point to not liking the colour indigo??? Not liking someone is a reaction to their behaviour and personality. It's a healthy reaction towards those who we instinctively mistrust. It's protection. It's self-preservation. It's an assessment of a person's value to us.

 

Because they're arseholes.

 

Shitting Jesus, the tension between you two... sparks fly whenever you write to each other on here, it must be some kind of sublimated sexual chemistry... if you weren't at each other's throats you'd be making sweet lurve, I'm sure of it!

(Joke - apologies to Earthwhirler!)

 

heh, I have been wondering how long it would take someone to post soemthing like that!

 

lol!!! Now it's deteriorated into sibling style 'he started it' couldn't get much better than this!!!

 

You ever notice how I keep putting her down, but she's always coming back for more?

 

Oh right. I just thought you were stupid

 

ooo the thread has moved on a bit since i last looked!

I'll forgo any comment. You guys are busy.

I'll just tell you a wee something:

I have a friend who constantly riles and spouts hate at any 'trendys' 'norms' etc.
He's always indignant at those that have 'souled their soul to society' etc.
Consequently, he's a miserable twat
I got past this teen stage with the cliquey dislike-from-ignorance bullshit and now say 'each to their own'.
Consequently, i'm a happy chappy . Empathy is quite powerful on this level.
It's not so powerful when someone walks up to you and punches you in the face though....

No, I'm not a hippy!

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*shrug* But you're a zummerzit local yokel

Anyway, spellcheck always corrects my name to 'Stud'

 

No, you type with an accent, and move back having once escaped. You've gone native.

So you reckon I'm hung like a donkey? Why thank you!

 

Doesn't really dangle as such... more kinda drags......

 

Eek! You both scare the shit out of me!