Why Do Some Men Crave More Than One Woman???

nice answer to you as well.

 

You could cut the tension in here with a knife, lol.

 

I believe even if the wifey is doing her job or is satisfying her man in bed, I believe most men will still be attracted sexually to another woman. It's like if he drinks pepsi for years and loves it, it doesn't mean he won't feel thirsty for some Coca Cola and Dr Pepper.

It's just that he shouldn't act on it and should stay loyal to the woman he is with if they both agreed that they are exclusive just for each other.

Personally though, I don't believe in all this marriage holy matrimony bs. Or promising you will love a person your entire life. How can anyone promise something like that? You can hope for it or want it, but you can never tell what's going to happen in the future. I think all that stuff is wishful thinking. And half the marriages fail. That's not a good percentage to gamble on. Be loyal to the one you're with, the future is unpredictable, if it doesn't work out, so be it. Be loyal to the next one.

 

Some people here just don't get it, do they?

 

Would you like to elaborate?

 

I've said this on another thread, but I'll repeat it here: For many men, monogamy simply does not work. Indeed, there is strong evidence that men are "hard-wired" by Nature to be non-monogamous.

That evidence was compiled in a 1983 book, "American Couples: Money, Work, Sex" by researchers Phillip Blumstein and Pepper Schwartz.

The researchers grouped four types of couples: unmarried heterosexuals living together; married heterosexuals; gay-male couples and lesbian couples.

In a chapter on sex, relationships and fidelity, Blumstein and Schwartz found that the lesbian couples were by far the most monogamous and the gay-male couples hands-down the least monogamous.

Among the heterosexual couples studied, the researchers found that the male partners -- whether married or unmarried -- were more likely to have outside relationships than the female partners.

Unfortunately, the researchers did not include bisexuals in their study. While it's well known that not all bisexuals are non-monogamous, I can say, as an openly bisexual male, that monogamy does not and cannot work for me. I'd be feeding one side of my sexuality and starving the other side. That's not acceptable to me. There are certain levels of erotic intimacy and fulfillment that I can share with a woman that I cannot share with a man -- and vice-versa.

Moreover, there is a slowly-growing community of people, regardless of sexual orientation, who openly practice polyamory -- the ability to maintain deep relationships with more than one person with the full knowledge and consent of all other partners involved. I count myself among them.

I've always been polyamorous, but it's only in the last 12 years -- concurrent with my coming out bisexual -- that I've been out of the polyamory closet.

I already have a boyfriend -- we'll celebrate our 20th anniversary in July -- and we've always maintained an open relationsnhip, as I'm bi, he's exclusively gay and ours is a long-distance relationship. I don't have a girlfriend -- and I'm not likely to have one for a long time, as I refuse to give up my boyfriend. I won't accept a relationship with a woman unless it's an open one that allows me to maintain my existing relationship.

I categorically reject the notion that one can love only one partner at a time -- let alone only one partner for life. And it's high time that more men and women who are polyamorous "come out." Honesty really IS the best policy; it spares you from a lot of grief and disappointment.

-- Skeeter

 

So, when you have a boyfriend, you immediately find no other man even remotely attractive but him?

No, a man is not an asshole for craving multiple woman. It is when he acts on those cravings that he becomes an asshole.

 

And that is assuming that the woman doesn't approve, though I think in most cases she won't.

 

Sure. You are arguing that all men have overactive sex drives, and can never be completely satisfied with one woman. I say that's a load of bullshit. Cheating is a CHOICE, it is not some sort of "second nature" to men. Women have wants and needs as well. I myself have a high sex drive and have been very tempted at times, but have chosen not to cheat. The difference between us and animals is that we are conscious of our choices, and I think that using biology as an excuse is insulting to all the men and women who prefer to rely on our brains and emotions rather than evolutionary drives (which I might add are only theories and not facts).

Here's the deal: men often find themselves attracted to other people besides their partner/s. Women often find themselves attracted to other people besides their partner/s/ It is NOT a male trait; it is a HUMAN trait. Some people truly never find themselves tempted by other people (though I would say these people are in the minority.) Besides, we must consider societal reasons: it is still much more acceptable for men to sleep around and even cheat on their partners, while women are branded as "whores" if they share the same thoughts and actions. Just look at some of the forums on Love&Sex, where men are encouraged to go out and "sow their oats" while women are being told that if they want to be promiscuous, they're slutty.

 

I never said that. You are putting words in my mouth. I never said men have "overactive" sex drives. I never said we can't be satisfied with one woman. I'd be more than happy to spend my life with one woman. I think you were reading my posts and defining it in your own way.

I never said cheating was not a choice. I have no idea where you're getting this from? Ofcourse it's a choice, what I merely was saying is that "having urges is not a choice." But what actions we take from those urges is a choice. Emotionally we have no control if we have an attraction, cause when we see something that we want, it's normal to have an urge for it, but logically we can also say, "Hey wait, I'm not going to cheat."

I agree. What you are saying is so obvious. I said men and woman sexual quantities are often determined by experience, influence, how they were brought up, etc etc, but I believe biologically, men overall, get more horny easier. But I do understand women can feel that way, too. It's just that on avg overall, men are more likely want sex just for the sheer attractiveness of a women, while a woman most likely wants to have a emotional connection with the man first.

 

I dont understand why men and wmen always need to lay blame. theres so much blaming going on here... blaming and justifying... why cant we all just ackonwledge that we all fuck up... I know I have cheated on 10x the amount of people that have cheated on me, obviously I am one woman who craves more that many men... so there goes that theory. Of course its not justifiable... no way is it, nor is there any good reason.

I think most people cheat because they are feeling unfufilled in some way or another, and its not always because their partner isn't giving it up.

 

people often cheat because they have low self esteem and feel unwanted unless they constantly have attention from other guys...