Why do so many women like to "fix" guys?

It seems it's been going on for longer than the photoshopping..

The only men I have seen really do it are the abusive controlling types. Maybe the women would be seen as abusive and controlling if they weren't women; but maybe they are subtle enough in their ways not to.

Everyone does a little though, I suppose. There are certain things that we expect and need out of our partners to make a companionship viable. Whereas, I might lower the importance that porn plays in my life and start cooking, maybe my girl will let some of my party habits slide by and take the laundry.


I didn't quote it and maybe someone's said it before; but I definitely think the whole romantic notion of the perfect man is a major factor. It seems like men generally expect to find either "a mate" or "a sex goddess" -- less full of expectations.

 

'cuz some of us need fixin'. Bad.

 

That's true too.

Part of the reason my brother is with his wife, is that he knows this.

 

-albert einstein

 

i for one have been in quite a few situations brought up here. ive been the victim in a verbally and physically abusive relationship, ive been used for sex until someone "better" came along. ive been with good girls and bad girls, girls that needed fixing, girls that wanted to fix me, blah blah blah. and what ive come up with is this: good girls are boring, nymphos are liars and overrated, bad girls are too exciting, and abuse isnt about strength, but about control.

but as for me, i fall into the same trap all the time. bad girls always pull me into their webs, and i guess on a subconscious level i want to fix them. and just like those girls you are so frustrated with; after it all falls apart i still want them, and am left a mangled remnant of what i once was.

i used to be just like you so frustrated by the girls i liked or loved being in a vicious circle of dating scummy assholes. and im sure im still a little mad about it. but im sure they look at some of us the same way. why are we always going for those skanky cumdumpsters all the time? etc. then again maybe they just arent attracted to you or think of you like that. relationships are complicated, and when they arent, you make complications to add excitement. shits fucked up, and so are all of us

 

cause women are natural handymen

 

'cos it's easier than fixing themselves