Why do people get married?

I don't know why other people get married, but I choose to get married IN GENERAL because it makes sense financialy, I want to have kids in a two-parent household, I want to be a stay at home mom, I do not want to have to do home repairs or mow the lawn or take the big trash out to the curb. I want someone to always do stuff with. i want a safe sex partner. I wanted to feel emotionaly, financialy and physicaly secure. I wanted to be able to afford a house in California. I bought a condo there and realized condo and single income living is not for me. I wanted the white picket fence (or stone retaining wall lol), the his and her's closets...the whole deal.

The reason I married Andy is I am madly in love with him. I have never fallen for someone so fast before, especially without holding back, he's never played a head game with me, I like how he looks, I love his sense of humour, I love that he's a 'rescuer', He has the hardest shoulders out of anyone I've ever been with and they are delicious to grab onto in bed, he has cute hobbit feet, he likes to take foot pictures, so I never need to 'powder my nose' prior to a pic or worry about looking fat, he knows how to fix EVERYTHING, he has a good job with good benefits and a good retirement, his credit score is the 800's, I love his family, especially his grandma.
I could go on and on...I had a lot of engagements before meeting Andy, but never got married. With Andy I was sure and didn't have the slightest bit of cold feet.

I think a lot of people who are anti-marraige will change their ming when they meet the right person.

 

i also love that he is generous, not just with me, but with everyone. He is always buying and cooking huge vats of food for his subordinates at work and always has their back, even if it causes him not to advance as quickly. I love that he will literally give you the shirt off his back.

 

I was married once and that was enough.

 

You need to find the right lady friend. You really shouldn;t be single. You need someone to love you romanticly and do stuff with and spend all of your money.

 

Been there. Done that.

 

That was not necessary, if you choose to live that way god bless you,
but you also make a very weak argument. From the time I come from
living together was the way. A private contract is PRIVATE, yes the government "has to accept" any private contact. It is stronger than the bill of rights. If you doubt this, break a contract that you have made, you'll find your self in court, and you will not be able to use the bill of rights because you contracted it away with your signature.

Subject: A :Marriage License" indicates to govenment that you "intend
> to intermarry" (i.e., "marriage between persons of different races,
> as between a white person and a Negro").
>
> A good friend of mine by the name of Bill, is being sued for
> divorce by his wife of 17 years in one of California 's family law
> courts. He is pro persona and his wife is represented by a liar
> aaaawh um lawyer. My friend challenged the corporate family
> court's jurisdiction on the bases that he is a sovereign man and
> therefore not subject to laws (statutes and codes) of his creation,
> government.
>
> Lo and behold, out of the mouth of a serpent spews forth the
> truth! In written answer to Bill's challenge to jurisdiction
> the attorney representing Bill's wife stated; "The Respondent"
> (my friend Bill)renounced his naturally acquired and naturally
> endowed personal sovereignty," when he applied for and executed a
> marriage license under the laws of the State of California so as
> to obtain the status of "marriage." Can this be true?
>
>
> MARRIAGE LICENSE
>
> DID YOU KNOW:
> On the day you happily filled out the application and PAID for,
> and were granted and issued a "Marriage License", that by doing so,
> you were indicating to the government and to the public that you
> "intend to intermarry" (i.e., "marriage between persons of different
> races, as between a white person and a Negro").
>
> QUESTIONS:
> Is that what you intended to accomplish, or to indicate to the
> government and to the public? Who would set up such a situation,
> using these little know and thereby deceptive "Legal Terms"? WHY
> have these "legal terms" been constructed and intentionally used
> in this way? Who gains from this? What do they gain? How do you
> feel about this (i.e., as in duped) - now that you have seen the
> evidence for yourself? (see below)
> HERE'S THE EVIDENCE:
>
> Black's Law Dictionary - Abridged 5th Edition - Page 502
>
> Black's Law Dictionary - Abridged 5th Edition - Page 418
>
> Black's Law Dictionary - Abridged 5th Edition - Page 723
>
> A goverment granted and issued MARRIAGE LICENSE is the prerequisite
> to a "public" MARRIAGE CONTRACT between you, your spouse (i.e.,
> of a different race), and the government (i.e., the state).
> This contact give the government (one party to the contract),
> very specific powers over you, your spouse and even over you children.
>
> By contrast, compare the PUBLIC MARRIAGE to that of a "Common Law"
> (non-public) marriage. A Common Law Marriage is a contract between
> a man and a woman, WITHOUT the government being involved in any
> way, and without the government having any authority over you,
> your spouse, or the children born to that man and that woman.
>
> The government attempts to mandate that you obtain a MARRIAGE
> LICENSE before you are can be married is one more example of the many
> misconceptions by common men and women, and a potential deception
> by lawmakers and attorneys, which have been created through the
> use of Legal Terms (i.e., legal definitions) which in many cases,
> have very different definitions and meanings from those commonly
> associated and understood to be the meaning of the same words as
> defined in a NON-Law dictionary.
>
> Many Legal Terms are not fully understood by common men or women
> and therefore they enter into contracts with the goverment (i.e.,
> the state), whereby they are not fully aware of the terms (words),
> and conditions to which they have agreed, nor would they have had
> the desire to become a party to, IF they had been fully informed
> prior to signing it.
>

 

In truth I expect to get married to someone for citizenship.

Meaning that I can get citizenship somewhere outside of the USA quicker by marriage than if I drop several hundred thousand dollars and get a investors residency and go through the process of getting citizenship.

I already know the 4 countries that I am looking at.

But it will be a few years yet as I have to accomplish a few things first.

Of course she will be a total babe.

 

yes, you'll end up in court if you break a contract

a court that is subject to the laws of the land

you are offering a circular argument

circular arguments don't work.

the same court that is issuing your marriage license, is responsible for maintenance, and enforcement of your contract, police, are officers of the court, as are lawyers, who draw up contracts.

your reasoning, and logic are flawed.

go home before you hurt yourself.

and the government doesn't have to accept private contracts..

your legal faerie fucked up that one, those contracts contrary to the law of the land are void.

 

Also, security. I had the policy that I would, never move in with a guy without an engagement ring. If for some reason things didn't work out, I at least had something to sell to get back on my feet, get a place, furniture, relocate to a new job, down payment for a car ect (break ups are expensive).
Guys who didn;t go for it, I considered the relationship dating instead of being together exclusivley and made no effort.

 

Getting married doesn't have to change a relationship at all. To me, it's just about legal and financial paperwork, and getting relatives (religious conservatives) off my back. I'm not going anywhere anyway, so it doesn't matter whether or not the paperwork for leaving would be expensive and complicated. My wife feels the same way.

 

Well, not legal here yet anyway

 

Are you saying that you can't legally shack up in Australia? Seriously?

 

i don't know about the rest of these dudes, but when i found a girl that liked me i figured, fucking ... i better seal the deal, you know? i'm gonna seal the deal to a point to where if she wants to leave me she has to go find a judge and an attorney and shit.

 

The part your missing is the fact that the government is not a party to the contract. What you do with someone else in a private contract is "PRIVATE".
If a dispute comes up either party can go to the courts, but the government is not a party to it.
When you get any license from the government there is a condition called
"implied consent". This means that even though you were not made aware of the terms of the contract you still are held by the agreement. Lets say that you get a drivers license, you sign all the documents and later find out that doing so means that you have to surrender to a drug test and are compelled to do so because of "implied consent" in your drivers license contract you signed with the state.
This is a way to circumvent "implied consent" when you sign anything

On the signature line just use any to the following statement

ALL RIGHT RESERVED
UCC 1-207
ARR
WOP
With out prejudice

Using this means that you do not accept "implied consent" and reserve your rights.
However the marriage license does not use "implied consent" because it cites your stats marriage law on the document.

Now to your statement for me to leave...... no I will not, I'll have my say and will not be pushed away by someone who thinks that his opinion is all that matters.

Peace
Dan

 

the government becomes involved when you ask them to become your bully to enforce your contract.

 

i got married because i got pregnant and needed medical insurance. true statement, yes, but i know we would eventually have gotten married, or at least still been together had we not done it then for that particular reason. everyone gets married for different reasons, i was young and didnt really think much of it other than i knew he was the one i wanted to be with forever, but it sounds more official "husband and wife" than "boyfriend and girlfriend" and it just makes things more committed somehow, i dunno why. it doesnt seem like it should, just a piece of paper and some rings, but it does.

 

Reasons:-

convenience
fear of loneliness in old age.
Family expectation
peer group pressure
financial pressure
social pressure
immigration status
probation benefits
professional respectability
covering up homosexuality
tired of the "chase" for sex
guaranteed sex
tired of the "drama" in relationships.
novelty value
course of events
sympathy for someone/ the chance to be a "rescuer".
monetary greed
status / to avoid stigma
employment benefits
religion

Oh and apparently some people still marry out of "love".
Whatever that is defined as these days..

What healthy societies we must live in...

PS I forget a key one from yesteryear but still "popular" today.
That is, she's "up the spout"...

 

Yes and where is the problem with that? If two people agree on something and one does not keep up their end of the bargain then the courts are there to enforce the private contract. How is it bulling to expect someone to keep what they agreed to ?

I guess you love the government, that's OK I guess if you swing that way, but for me I'll take less government.

Peace
Dan

 

and you use them as a bully when you don't get your way. you are a hypocrite.

 

I think people get married for a variety of reasons, some actually love each other and believe marriage is the ultimate commitment and way to prove their love to the world, some people do it for financial reasons, some do it because of religion, and some do it because the girl wants a fantasy wedding and the guy wants her to shut the fuck up about all this shit and just get it over with already.....

there are many more reasons im sure, and I'm sure everyone has their own personal reason why or why not it's for them.

I dont think its that big of a deal, but I can understand why some people think it is.