Why are we ashamed for our bodies?

I'm not ashamed of my body, I cant stand it when people are it's so pathetic. I think everyone is beautiful inside and out and when I hear people downing themselves I get upset because it's the way you feel about yourself and if you dont feel good about yourself others wont feel good about you either. It's a shame people feel like that so often.

 

i love my body it is strong and has taken me through hell my body kinda reminds me of those roman paitings of the women who partied too much but i think i am beautiful and that is all that matters to me

 

wouldn't it be nice to be able to go out in a form fitting spaghetti strap dress or shirt, braless, without someone thinking you're a hooker?

 

Hell, yeah... survival of the fittest. I'm not happy with my body, so I have to diet and work out. Am I where I want to be? No! But I'm going to, I have a girlfriend who likes guys with washboard abs so now I have a good reason to lose the rest of the flab *grin*

It may sound insensitive, but fat is not sexy. And the majority of the world will agree with me (except in countries where it snows a lot, they like meat on their women there).

 

It has taken me forever to NOT be ashamed of my body, but now, I am sooo not. I mean, I don't run around nude in public, but I don't mind not wearing a bra, baring my unshaven legs or arms. I know I don't have the tiniest tummy in the world, but I got my belly button pierced as a symbol to myself to accept myself as I naturally am.

 

Too much Tv . = were the world is perfect .

 

Love your body!

I heard about an island where they had no tv and the women were quite big and happy. After the introduction of T.V eating disorders occurred in the women when they had never been encountered before, along with depression and anxiety and body image disorders.

Life is too short to worry about your size, just try and make yourself as healthy as possible and love yourself. Confidence is the biggest turnon. If someone is happy and comfortable in their own skin, it attracts others like a magnet.

 

That's the attitude I like to see evil lesbian! You go girl!

 

I have to admit that I am a shameless ham.

 

Okay, maybe I'm not posting pictures of my ass online, but I do like to show off my body.

 

Shame on you.

 

At the beginning of this thread Lib made a key point (paraphrased): "People are only ashamed of their bodies due to social conditioning."

Imagine that you are alone by warm, clean and beautiful pond; and you go swimming without clothes. Imagine the peaceful feeling. Now, realize that the only reason for a drastic change in your psychic and physical state due to the presence of others is because of how you respond to information; because of how you respond to the knowledge of anothers presence. Now, realize that you will actually look different to others if you act with the relaxation and freedom as if you were alone when in their presence. True, there may be practical considerations; but, acting with wisdom, 'clear your mind' and, given the oppourtunies, and you will be given these, you will see that by acting with courage you will actually look different; you will change yourself and it is likely that you will change others. Appreciate your form, all your sense and feelings about it; acknowledge your rejection of your form; acknowledge your acceptance of your form, and acknowledge your hopes and dreams; acknowledge your thoughts including jealously and pride; when one does this incessantly, that is constantly throughout the day, you will catalyze, or 'cause,' profound good change to occur. This is akin to the Buddhist meditation called Vipassana, and it really works but it requires faith and patience.





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I'm not ashamed of my body, but that's because nature gave me one that is "socially acceptable" I guess. I'm a runner and a swimmer so it comes with the teritory. I don't know how I would feel if I had something different. I may not like, I may embrace it. But I feel if I didn't like it enough then I would just work out a lot more.

 

it's the fucking media.

 

i'm definetly not ashamed of my weight.....im only 125 lbs....but i am ashamed of my tanlines and blemishes....this cause me to never take off my shirt....therefore never getting to go swimming....i hate it....but i have to be this way....people are so cruel......) :

 

Extremely. I'm putting myself on a strict rigorous diet/workout plan for a while.

 

i struggle with an eating disorder, and im extremely timid about my body. i sometimes shutter when people touch me, and the thought of wearing bathing suits literally have made me sick.

though the issue roots ALOT deeper than "being pretty," it does play a big part for me.

 

I think you look amazing. Be strong sister, love yourself first. My body doesnt make me do flips of joy sometimes, but its mine, and the little things i dont like about it can be fixed easily.

Youre beautiful.

 

I had an eating disorder when I was your age. When I was in my 20's I decided I
wanted to live. So, I stopped the behavior with help. You need to learn to be more comfortable with yourself. I know that is easy for me to say. You are a beautiful..person inside and out. If you need to talk find someone you feel confortable with and share with them. It may make you feel better...Good Luck ...Girl.

 

I don't like the fact that people on here have labeled other people as "pathetic." Don't blame people for not liking their bodies -- blame the external sources (significant others, media ... mostly the media ...) for setting such a ridiculous standard.

I am rather uncomfortable with my body ... and I don't even watch TV. I was chubby from about age six until fourteen, and was ridiculed for my weight between third grade and eighth ; so I never knew a positive body image.
Also, my last lover left me for girls who are stunningly beautiful -- slender, long-haired, big-eyed, etc. I often (probably ridiculously) blame my physical self for our break-up, and that makes me depressed, which leads me to crack out the ice cream ... bad cycle!

For a time (about two months) I was very thin, and for the first time felt so FREE ... then I had a one-night stand with a man who said if I would "lose five more pounds, get rid of the glasses, and grow out my hair" he would be "proud" to take me out in public!

I gave up, and now I have slightly pouchy thighs, a little extra meat on my biceps, and a little roundness about my tummy. At times I feel rather ashamed and discouraged about it ... but at the same time I feel ridiculous for feeling bad! I think the cultural standard of beauty is unrealistic, and think other people are beautiful -- so why can't I feel the same way about myself?!