Why are they (straight guy) so mean?

^ Exactly! We don't have to understand each other to be friends . The haters live a boring existance because they think everyone should think the same ways, want the same wants, need the same needs etc. Sounds like a shitty colorless life to me. What makes this world so exciting is all the variety in it.

 

As far as the OP's delimma.....I've only seen one thing actually work better than ignoring. Although I would like others input on it because it seems like it would have the potential to make things worse as well.

What do you think would happen if you flirted with the a holes (no pun intended) when they start bothering you or your girl? Not in a spiteful way, but jokingly act like you and the ringleader are having a hot affair. It may be hard to keep calm and on top of your emotions though, I think in order for it to work you would have to remain unheated and lighthearted.
There's nothing that can throw a homophobe off than someone complimenting the way their tongue feels in your ass.

Just a thought, as I've seen total hardasses back away completely when faced with such flirtation. But thinking about it now it seems like it could be a risky move.

 

the way that would go depends a lot on the people involved in this situation, the OP and the bullies. some guys would blow a fuse and get physically violent for this while others would, yes, back off. also, not everyone can pull off such a move. if it's completely out of character for the OP to do something like that, then he wouldn't be believable anyway and it would have no effect other than possibly making matters worse. and you can't drop a thing like this on just any situation either, it has to somehow follow naturally and make sense as well. so, it's tricky.

another thing that would get them to back off is, if you, the OP, somehow, made it look like you were hot for the head of the group. nothing makes a guy run for the forest faster than when he thinks someone has feelings for him. but, again, this too is a more sophisticated move to pull off.

the simplest thing to do is to just ignore them. if that doesn't work then some alternatives can be explored, if needed.

 

Sorry all, I didn't mean to start a argument among us here. Please don't argue. I just need to tell someone and hope for a advise.
To make it clearer, those people that bully me now already knew who I was and my sexual orientation. Most people in my town knew about me and what I have done in the pass. But they didn't complaint back then! Only when I started to date my gf then they start to make those bad comments. Of the gays and bi that I know of, none of them are bad to us, we both are welcome to their house. Only those in college, only a hand full of them, a group of them as if they own the school - you know what I mean?
Anyway, I don't go to straight bar or club, if I do, I'll go to gay bar coz ppl are much nicer there. When I walked into a straight bar (once only) they through peanut at me when I was not looking, but nothing like that ever happen in gay bar. But now i have no time for that, I work part time so I only go there after pay day.

Anyway I thank you all for giving me the support and advise, I really appreciate it.

 

U seem like a sweet boy and that girl is lucky to have u. Just live life and enjoy yourself don't listen to people who want to paint u their choice of color.