why are men like this?

I have to respectfully disagree. It probably depends on the degree of your chronic pain. And if there are any other treatments (for most of us this is the end of the line) if you really have CHRONIC INTRACTABLE SEVERE pain, which is usually what daily pain meds are prescribed for. If you pain keeps you from functioning, keeps you in bed 3 or 5 days a week, doesn't allow you to read, work, have sex, take care of your children, or even make yourself some toast to eat to keep you going, you need the meds to live!

If prescribed properly, pain meds do not "cover up" the problem, they actually cause biochemical changes which can be beneficial to the sufferer. Pain feeds on pain. Untreated pain actually causes damage to the neurons and nerve impulses which will lead to MORE PAIN. Untreated pain damages the sufferer's body MORE than any pain pill can do. This is a proven fact. If the pain is bad enough, and actually CHRONIC, then treating the pain is the most responsible thing to do, for your family, your freinds, your employer, and yourself. You are no good to anyone if you can't function. Of course, if one is able to actually function without the pain meds, why were they prescribed in the first place? Most doctors are very careful, and try every conceivable option before daily pain meds. It appears vinceneilsgirl may be in the catagory of people, like me, who have unrelenting, nearly untreatable pain. There are only a one thing which can make these patients able to function, and treating the pain is that.

 

I agree. The same goes for antidepressants too. Some people don't understand how bad it is though.

 

Amen, brother.

 

I'm going through the exact same thing with someone special sweetheart..

 

wow i know how u feel vinceneilsgirl. but i get like that with my man too. so i guess i deserve it when he does it back. jus try to be patient. or talk to him when hes NOT in a bad mood. u obviously love him, uve been with him this long. make him understand that u arent a punching bag for his emotions

 

My boyfriend does the same thing! He gets very stressed, and when he's like that, he barely says "I love you." It's hard, but you should try talking to him about it. Tell him that you're there for him if he needs to vent.

 

you know, i've actually had to just learn to deal with the pain because my husband was a serious addict, and the introduction of any sorts of pills into this household (like when i was severely depressed/anxious) is cause for a major freak out. he doesn't understand what it's like, and after 7 years, i've come to accept that he will never be able to make that leap. i give up. i've lived this long with it, i'll continue to live with it.

 

Yeah, all men are like that.

And no women act that way...only the men.

 

guys are dumbasses they think things out more then we do and if they think to much and they get the wrong idea and start to freak out cause they don't know what we're trying to tell them cause there trapped in there heads trying to find the answer they'll never get unless they mellow out