Why are guys so fucking complicated?

He's A Man......He's Genetically Complicated......Deal With It...



Cheers Glen.

 

Yeah, you're right..that Y really is something special .

 

Guys aren't complicated, we're just to simple for women to comprehend....

 

Not to mention lots of girls like to flirt and get attention from guys they have No Interest in. Guys have to train themselves to ignore "hints" in order to avoid constant disappointment.

OP it sounds like you are shy too. All you did was pull away? Why not say something like "you're supposed to ask a girl before you kiss her?" I mean how do you expect him to take it if you just clam up and pull away without saying a word?

 

the first sentence was pretty accurate.

 

I suggest you write a book on how to do this then, because most men can't read the non-verbal between hints that mean something and false-hints of flattery when a girl is getting attention from a guy she's just not interested in. Girls seem to be able to sense when other girls are doing this, but men don't have that telepathic wavelength...expecting them to tune into this frequency like their gal pals can, is not logical, hence why guys have come to the conclusion that girls are crazy. (exceptions: gay guys seem to be able to read this frequency)


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@OP, being a guy who has been in this guy's shoes I can say 2 things:

1. He took you pushing him away as complete rejection especially if he genuinely liked you. Especially since you didn't give an explaination.


2. He's a player regardless
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Decision you have to make; you can go after him but depending on how much time has elapsed since the initial event occurred, this might not be a viable option.


Or you can let this pass which is what you've communicated you are planning on doing.

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Personally, if I were a girl and in your position I'd go after him. I would be really flirty, warm, and just open with him, might even slip a note to him to meet you. And if you were to get a private moment with him I'd say "I'm sorry for giving you mixed signals and make the first move of a kiss".

To me this seems direct, and classy and not slutty. It only becomes 'slutty' if it turns to sex super fast. You'd have to communicate gently you want a relationship with him not just some fling.

(But keep some condoms in your purse at all times just in case things get...heated. But I recommend not turning things sexual super fast, but kissing and cuddling need to be used fast)

 

no it is not . (sorry but i am not an english man ).
I once had relationship with an doctor . it is true . we men use only 10% of brain .
women 12% .
Male are more strong (body for war ) but less strong emotionally. we cant think with emotion, but with numbers and what our eyes see . not feeling like female .
Women are more stronger emotionally.

 

I'm a woman too, but I could understand what went wrong in that situation. He was pissed off. You two were flirting through the whole party, and you were giving signals that you wanted a kiss. Then when he went to give you one, you rejected it. If I was him, I would have been like WTF? I don't think it was right to just find another chick to mack with, but I think he just did it out of anger.

 

That's not how the brain works at all.

 

i disagree. men can be exceptionally strong emotionally. men aren't emotional much, and women are. that's the difference.

and humans, men or women, don't use only 10 or 12% of the brain. that's a pseudoscientific myth cultivated by ignorance and a drive for mysticism.

 

im a guy:
he probly thought you were a "dick tease" and not worth the time. and guyz ARE NOT INTO MIND GAMES, HUGE -- HUGE FUCKING TURNOFF MAN.

so what's a guy to do? go for someone else w/out so much as a thought. you messed up, but you can get him back.

 

a dentist? obviously not a brain doctor.

 

Men are not complicated maybe ur just not smart

 

FYI: The whole the brain uses this % and that % when doing (fill in the blank task) based on (fill in the gender) of a said person is all false.

I don't think any scientific journals on psychology and the brain use that method of measuring and categorizing brain activity and behavior.

All the professors I've ever had for Psychology also say the above example of the 10% and 12% is bogus.
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The only thing I learned and remember vaguely was that emotions CAN BE different in intensity between men and women purely on the basis of the corpus callosum and how it functions are slightly different in males versus females.

However this my no means dictates that men or women feel more or less than just because they are of a specific gender. There is no 'one size fits all' when it comes to individuals and their biology.

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Side note: In my view the whole point of the Christian faith is about learning how to be chill in life by learning the art of forgiving people despite their bad actions and acknowledging your own faults and so all parties involved can move in a positive direction henceforth. Bibilically speaking I've found that to "bear good fruit" (aka: bring about positive good things)

Situations like the home with your parents "bear bad fruit". (aka: More emotional turmoil, like self-esteem issues, and hurt go around to both parents, child, siblings, and extended family and friends)

For instance, I bet your parents are wondering why they 'failed as parents' because they set up an unrealistic standard of what a perfect christian daughter was supposed to be...it's their own fault, but this is my point of that way of thinking hurting everyone involved....again bad fruit outcome.

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Ok well I don't know if anybody enjoys reading my long posts...I hope someone found them comforting to read. I'll shut up now, I feel like I'm ranting and I don't like it.

 

You hurt his feelings, massively. Men are really, really sensitive, in a way more so than women because they don't sit around and rationalise why they have felt a certain way, they just make the connection and move on.

You HAVE to be really careful with them

 

no she was nervous doctor . i dont know in english . but in this kind of doctor have to be very stable hand and precise , focus . something with nervous system ect . the get paid lot of money . this is the truth . people actual use only the 10 % of his brain capability . you like it or not .

 

please quote your research and/or scientific source, not just recycled street opinions.

like it or not you're an idiot.

 

google it .

 

done.

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=people-only-use-10-percent-of-brain

http://www.snopes.com/science/stats/10percent.asp

http://faculty.washington.edu/chudler/tenper.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/10%25_of_brain_myth

http://health.howstuffworks.com/human-body/systems/nervous-system/10-brain-myths10.htm

and that's only the first 5 results on the page. sorry to tell you, but your girlfriend was just making fun of how gullible you are and how little of your brain you apparently use.

 

Guys aren't complicated - they are simple and can be charmed by the gentle allure of a woman (or I guess a.n.other)
Your choice seems to be of patience and wait until you genuinely catch his eye, or be blunt and say "can I have a word"? = be honest with your feelings and; as you look into the windows of the soul, gauge his response as being equally honest - that way you'll know one way or the other
Good luck