where you whipped/spanked as a kid?

Thats exactly right. I havent had the need to spank my 6 year old in well over a year and maybe even two. My two year old however is in spanking central. She does'nt go a day without one. Granted there butt thumps designed to grab attn whereas nothing else does.

 

After reading more I realized I should have let this die. My apologies all.

 

I am not totally against spanking children. My mom told me I was spanked a couple of times for things like running in the road without looking and trying to touch the stove and fire or lying.
But she also said there were times she did and wish she didn't concerning things like homework and book reports (I have dyslexia and no one knew until I was in high school, so my mom would think I was being sarcastic or stubborn). She feels really bad for it and I guess it was pretty bad because I blocked it from my memory.
She actually apologizes for it often and starts crying, but she was a single parent, working full-time and going to college at night. And who the hell doesn't make mistakes?
The thing is that young kids have such short attention spans that taking somethng away from them isn't very effective. IMO sending them to their room for long periods of time is a bit abusive because you are isolating them from the family and if you do it too often they can develop reactive attachment disorder.
I def think spanking a kid after they have starting developing is inappropriate because there are feelings of shame and modesty, but for little kids it is totally appropriate if talking doesn't work.
I don't have kids, but I am a trained child behavioralist and am going back to grad school to be a child psychologist, so hopefully that will help me be a patient parent who can talk everything out with kids.
But, knowing that won't always be possible, I know the issue will arise, but I won't be the one doing it because I can't even swat our dogs or speak harshly to them when they pee in the house right in front of me.

 

no, my daddy would shotgun me

 

I was spanked a whole lot when I was little, deserved everyone of them too. I once saw my uncle take a belt to his then 19 year old son in front of his son's friends. That was pretty funny.

 

Mine too.

 

I think the psychological and verbal abuse were worse. I dont remember the pain of being beat every single day, but I remember the words and actions my mother did. Telling your child you hate them because of who their father is and allowing that child to be sexually abused because you dont like them is unforgivable. Thankfully I dont think about it every day. Id have gone crazy. Thank Ganja for that. I remember my sister used to hit the top of my legs with serrated knives.. that was fun.

 

hilder, what the? thats beyond....

 

psha... yeah,.. and thats nothing.. but I aint going into it. It made me who I am today, and I like me. Remember i told you about you being my sister as a woman? All I saw from my mother is that I was Her competition. Her own daughter. Now that I am a strong woman and she cant control me, she gets furious. Really. Livid. All I can do is stand my ground and smile while watching her squirm .She toughened me up alright. Its all irie..

 

OMFG. I just realized something. Shit.. up until now, I hadnt even thought to try and figure it out.. wow.
As a kid, especially a girl, you want affection from your parents. My mother never showed affection, because to her, Its being weak. When My step-father came around, He was nice to me, and at 9 years old, that was great. I felt like someone loved me. He turned it sexual, and accused me of 'starting it' when I confronted him. At 10 years old, you dont know about sex. Least I didnt. Oh my god. thats what happened. It was like blocked.. up till now. wow. I hope he rots in hell. I need a bowl.

 

See, that kind of shit happened to me all too often. My friends were terrified of my father more than I was in those situations and it was horrible to have friends over at my house because of it.

My dad enjoyed humiliating me in front of people by kicking me, hitting me with whatever object he could find and it's not funny it's abuse.

He liked to do it front of other people because he wanted them to also feel like I was helpless. He used to make my friends feel helpless to do anything for me. It in turn, made me feel even worse about being abused.

I don't think you understand what it's like to call the police on your own parents, to speak with someone from Children's Aid when you're a teenager or any age about the terrible ways your parents beat you and strike you.

 

I should have added that my cousin who got the belt was a mouthy punk back then.

 

For the most Pointless of Things...

 

This turned out to be a great thread. Spanking/discipline is a very interesting subject. Growing up my dad was an alcoholic and very strict and even worse when he stopped drinking. I did hate the whoopings..I used to put folded up paper in my pockets, to help the pain, cause he spanked hard and I always cried..hahaI hated him and unfortunately I hate him now..I do believe that spanking your child is not the best form of discipline, there are so many better ways..I have 2 daughters, I have spanked them both once for the same thing..about 6 or 7 years ago cause I was having a hard time getting them to brush their teeth consistently..I made it quite a production and they cried their eyes out before I did it..I let them sit in the room 20 minutes before I did it..they were balling and pleading for me not to do it..then I came in and gave them each 2 swats with my hand on there bottom..they wailed..now, they have the shiniest pretty white teeth..so for sure, I believe that one spanking helped...but I have used other methods that I think worked better..time outs, standing in the corner and exersize (pushups, crab walk, jumping jacks, leg lifts) all kinds..hard exercise can knock the rebellious spirit out of anyone.

 

if i mess up, my dads going to beat me
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cool, alright
co-cool

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQp7Id8iRA4

 

kids don't have nearly as short attention spans as most people think they do. just because they're off doing different things does NOT mean they don't remember what happened 10 or 15 minutes ago, or even an hour. i'm not talking about taking away tv for a week when a kid is two. it has to be appropriate to the age.

and sending kids to their room does not mean LONG PERIODS OF TIME, nor is it going to cause reactive attachment disorder. that happens in extreme circumstances... i appreciate that you're in school for this stuff, but the world and every action and behavior does not immediately turn into a disorder.

so when does a child exactly start developing? from my knowledge of anatomy and physiology, it's the moment of conception, there is physical development. and if you're talking about mental development, well, the minute they have a brain, yeah... so you just proved that spanking is always inappropriate, because kids are always developing.

 

You know exactly what I mean.

 

Also, do you have kids? Do you work with kids?
As someone who gets paid to go into people's homes and tell them the best way to parent and has a degree in this stuff I think I have a leg to stand on here.

 

hahaha i remember watching that. i love derrick comedy.



anyways, i remember my dad used to have this paddle that he made,
and when me and my bro were bad as kids, he would get the paddle, find us,
and tell us to "assume the position."
we then had to put our hands on the couch and stick out our butts.
it would sting pretty bad, and we were scared to death of the paddle.
but when my mom did it, we would laugh and laugh.

i remember she broke a brush over my ass, though

 

i like smacking ladies asses with a frying pan