where you whipped/spanked as a kid?

And I totally will. Just for you...

 

Okay. Its not 'hitting'. Its a Spanking. From the parents. Someone to look up to. The people who bring you into life and educate you on right and wrong. Why is there a punishment system such as jail? Because you need to bring people to attention sometimes, in the error of their ways, hopefully so they wont repeat the same mistakes. Kids in class are the childrens' equals. You dont spank your equal. Its totally different.

 

thank you i would enjoy to see that

 

i'm thinking more from a child's perspective here. if you are trying to teach children the difference between right and wrong, why do it with such a potentially confusing tool? especially one that leaves long term lasting emotional and sometimes physical damage? i'm not saying all "spanking" leaves permanent emotional or physical damage. but it goes dangerously (in my opinion) close to a line that really should never be crossed, between establishing authority and simply abusing someone. i just think there are better ways to parent than by spanking. like you brought up jail... it isn't physical abuse to punish someone by removing from them the things they enjoy, so long as you are providing the necessities for life... sending your kid to their room, putting them in a time out chair, taking away tv or game times, etc. etc. are parellel to putting someone in jail, whereas i see spanking as a parallel to beating someone who broke the law. but again, just my opinion.

 

Hell yeah, I got spanked every day for the smallest shit. both by my mom and by my sister. they both took their frustrations out on me. When I was 15 my mom hit me and I hit her back. Hasnt laid a hand on me since. She told me when I was like 19 that i was gonna piss her off so much one day she was gonna hurt me.. hahaha I laughed in her face and told her if she hit me id break her arm. bullies.. I hate em.

 

I think the problem here is that when I say Spanking Im thinking a rare tool to use once in awhile when deemed necessary to parent, and it is NOT abuse. And all you think of is abuse. Its just simply not, used purposefully. And from the perspective of a child? A normal child who is not perfect? They will probably HATE it and hate being grounded or whatever entails after. But thats the point DUH. When you become a reasonable rational adult (god willing) you can see the best interests of your parents. Assuming we are speaking about normal, head on shoulders mommy and daddy.

 

I agree actually.
As a mom.. I've never hit/"spanked" my kid.I don't think terribly of those that do... I just don't see it as the best method.

I want to lead by example and what example do I set teaching her to solve problems with hitting.I want her to learn its not ok to hit someone- I can't spank her and prove that.

 

Didn't realize there were so many of us who were abused by our parents...

 

wellllllll mayyyyyyybe you shouldve been better behaved

 

i enjoyed some of the whippings i've got

 

Haha, omg, I am sorry Ari but that made me laugh...

 

Youre welcome fitz.

 

cate is a spanking machine

 

Its in my top five fave activities.

 

can you blame me, given some of my experiences? i'm not trying to play victim or be a bitch about this, but your flippant, jokester attitude about some things that are really very emotional and very personal are kinda off-putting.

i'm not saying that children should not be punished. i'm not saying that i will turn you or any other parent who lightly spanks their child in to child protective services. i just don't think it's necessary, which is the ONLY thing i'm really interested in discussion. just because i don't believe in spanking doesn't mean you have to convince me it's right. it's not right for me. if it is for you, great! i'm not telling you you're a bad person. i'm only stating my opinion on the matter, and discussing things that are going to be extremely relevant to me in *hopefully* the next few years.

babyhellfire - right on, mamma! i knew there were others out there who have had success with this method! nice to know that there are moms (and dads) who can find the balance between being the parent and being nice about it.

 

Aw you think Im flippant and jokester? Cool.

Now to the issue. I didnt read about your issues...im sure youd be a fab momma anyway really. I just hate extremes. So I feel the need to be like "HEY PEOPLE! ITS NOT WRONG AND/OR RIGHT! TALK AMONGST YOURSELVES NOW!"

 

No problemo. Glad to help my fellows.

 

and see... i kinda figured that's what was going on... i know you like to keep everything light and happy and flippant discussing things...

but sometimes a really deep conversation can be good too. and spanking can be a really deep, emotional issue. or it can be a lighthearted one... it started out lighthearted, and turned a little deeper, and then there was this flippant comment, that just kinda hurt my feelings a little... cause i'm just like that sometimes. but no hard feelings, right?

 

I'd have to agree with the point made that "you're a shitty parent if you have to resort to hitting your kid."

I got mad beating when I was a kid, and I'd like to think I turned out fine. It's just, now (literally right this moment) that I think about it I don't know how my dad could have hit me the way he did if he truly loved(s) me. I can also not imagine myself hitting my kid, even the way my dad hit me. That's not to say I will not punish my kids, I just think that rewarding good is better than punishing bad.

 

yeah, totally. big hugs, cause i know how much it sucks.