When did you know and how did you come out?

I am bi when I was 14 or 15 years old I came out to my best friend but didnt tell anyone else and once I started high school I was more open about it and told my closest friends. I am 19 now and am very open about it, all of my firends know and are fine with itand I told my cousin but I chosen not to tell my parents yet. I plan to tell them sometime this year but just havent found the right way to yet.

I am in awe of anyones strgnth who comes out to everyone, especially at such a young age!

Congrats to all of you guys!

 

I was 15/16 when I told my close friends and inevitably most people in my year found out, and plenty of people from other years at school.

My siblings found out when I was 17 from a friend who'd heard some gossip around school.

My parents still don't know...I wouldn't deny it if they asked, but I doubt they'd ever ask because they'd be too ashamed in case they found out I was 'that way inclined'.

 

Hi Have Come Out As Bi The Age Of 36 To A Str8t Mate He Cool With It. I Have
All So Told A Long Standing Gay Frend. He Told Me He New That I Had A Gay Side Yer's A Go. Lol . Lot's Of Respeckt For Comeing Out So Yong

 

I'm glad this post came up.
Latley, I've been confused..
In a way I'd like to come out, as bi-but I'm not sure if I am, and if it was a phase, and I came out, and decided I wasn't..god, it would be a mess.
I'm confused.
I am attracted to girls, yes, but not in the way I am to guys.
With guys, I feel like I could have a relationship, and with girls I'd just want to have a good time, nothing relationship. So, I don't know if that's solid enough to claim that I am bi..

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As I said in another thread, most bisexual people have a stronger attraction to one gender than to the other. Only a fraction of bi folk are drawn to both genders equally.

Only time will tell whether that changes.

-- Skeeter

 

I had the chance to come out to my parents yerterday but decided to wait til a better moment comes up. eventually they'll know. I have only officilay told one of my mates, who's really cool about it. The rest, well, I only have like one gay friend and i know other gay guys at my uni, they know too. My cousin also knows about it, cos he saw me kissing a girl once hehehe...but everyone seems to be cool about me being bi. I dont care anyway.

 

I am lucky that where I live, homosexuality is highly tolerated by nearly everybody.

As for the girl who was unsure about coming out, a couple posts up:

Just give yourself time to get used to the idea that you may some day "be" with a girl someday...once you accept that, you will cruise for a month or two...but then...this feeling...this annoying nagging feeling, telling you to do something, anything. This feeling is telling you to TELL SOMEBODY. Soon, you'll have chosen who you think you will, and wont tell...but you have one certain person picked out to tell first...you are extremely nervous, horrified as you realize you are about to tell that person- then it spills out of your mouth-" Im bisexual," and the rest is history.

Just two things- when finding someone to tell, make sure you "test the waters" i.e. get a feel for how that friend tolerates gays. Once you find someone who seems cool with it, then work on what you are going to say.

Another thing- living in secrecy isnt healthy- thats not to say RIGHT NOW you have to come out, but get used to the idea, and then...try and tell atleast someone.

Best of wishes to ya,
Cheers,
Dylan

 

I came out the first time at 13 to my mother. She screamed at me until I was silent.

Same thing at 15.

And at 17...

Then I did at 19. In front of both my parents. Finally, they believed me. My dad swears I'm a lipstick lesbian... Mom lives in denial. My friends I always told immediately and were cool with it. My brother and I are both bi and he came out after me. (He's older.) We're both pretty much best friends.

 

I came out earlier this winter. Actually there were some rumors around our school so my parents asked me about and I told them I was Bi. My mother was a suprised but I think deep down she knew. My step-dad thinks the "goverment schools", that is run by liberals, put the idea of being a bisexual in my head. Most of the people I know are okay with it.

I prefer having a relationship with a guy as opposed to a girl although I find a girl more physically appealing than I do a guy. Thats just me and all bisexual women are different in some way. There is no set of rules that say all bi women are like this and if not then they are not bi.

 

I was 17 now am 24
jesu

 

I came out as bi to my best friends when I was about 17. All the friends I've had since then have known rather early on. My husband knows, but also knows that I'm monogomous. Had my best friend been as open then as she is now, I probably would have tried to date her...I was in love with her for a good while, but she was staunchly against homosexuality at the time. It was hard enough to come out to her, I have yet to come out to my parents, and I honestly don't think I ever will. A part of my thesis is a few pieces on the gay marriage ban, which I am so against, and my mom got really upset when I told her that..... :/. She'd never understand if I told her I'm bi...especially since I'm married now...she'd just think I was lying and trying to get a rise outta her. So I feel like there's no point now with them anyway.

 

I never came out; just like I never went in. I started questioning my sexuality, and realised I was attracted to both men and women, so I just talked about it whenever the subject actually came up. I didn't feel that it was a breakthrough that needed to be hidden/announced.

 

well.. i never really came out to anyone.. just was open about it. i dont like hiding. actually i asked my parents if my "friend" could live with us cause she didnt want to live at home anymore.. they eventually figured it out. my mom still tries to play dumb..its funny.

 

well.. i never really came out to anyone.. just was open about it. i dont like hiding. actually i asked my parents if my "friend" could live with us cause she didnt want to live at home anymore.. they eventually figured it out. my mom still tries to play dumb..its funny.

 

was rather late coming out was 27..

 

im bi and ive just turned 16 i cam out last year to my closest freinds and i introduce myself to most people as bi a lot of guys know about it, I know one lesbian a couple of other bis and heeps of bi curious, ppl have come out about it since i did, i told my parents im bi about a week ago they sed they loved me no matter what etc but i know my mum was a lil disappointed. there are so many ppl im yet to tell tho like the rest of my frends and my dad (i told me step dad not my reel dad) and my sis knows i think my bro over herd me telling my parents but yer ive had a pretty breezy run ive been reely luky o yer n i have the most boodiful gf in the world!

 

Man if i came out my whole world be turned upside down, just the idea makes me shiver. i love doing sports which i do all year long. I don't think it possible to bi/gay and be on sports with stright guy, maybe i wrong any ever get through that at a high school level maturity. Well at least my mom probaly be fine about and my home life. But i be defineitly ostrazied at my school
woops this is when did you come out
not why aren't you out
any ways i'll post for any comments
or similar situations

 

Wow surfhipE i feel exactly the smae way, execpt i a gay and i feel i can have a relationship with a girl and with a guy just a good time. It feel werid, good, and really coll to hear someone post my exact feelings and ideas out of my mouth thx

 

I came out in 8th grade to one of my friends, then in 9th grade (maybe a few months ago) I told all my friends. then I told my mom. She was cool with it she said 'I'll love you no matter what. But if you ever dating...a girl I wont support the relationship' And like a few DAYS ago my father found out on accident and he was like 'damn' ah well, he hasnt made a big fuss over it.

 

I'm bi and still haven't come out mainly because I don't know any one who is gay who I could hang out with. Plus its hard, very hard, to be gay where I live. It's kind of a bummer.