whats the hardest part about being a chick

- we're jugded by out looks before words get spoken
- females techinally still get lower saleries
- females are still looked upon as "sex" things.. gah
- our safety...

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But out of all that, if you want a simple answer, the "harderst" part as NOW is blowing dying my hair... life of a girl. pfft.

I think PMS is somehow a lie.. this I mean within the mood swings, and the emotional level.. I mean we're always told "Im crying/angry/sad cause Im PMSing"... But if someone didnt tell you this when you were younger, i doubt you'd be freaking out. I never went through emotional up-downs during that time.. Using it as an excuse is lammmmmme.

 

- Being physically weaker.
- Menstrual cramps.
- Being unsure how to express emotions and femininity in a modern setting.
- Feeling insecure about my body and worrying if on some level a size 2 is too fat for me.
- Worrying I will not flawlessly balance my career and motherhood and being a wife and I'll die with regrets.

 

i like when men are honest...i view them as MEN. I got one of my friends who never show their emotions at all. acts all tough, i got him to open up to me. that was a extreme accomplishment for me..

being judged is a high one too. but really, fuck what others say or think. anyone is weak if they start giving into what they are not.

but i do agree that women have it worse in that department

 

What department? Why do women have it worse?

 

i think for me it is the way women can be judged if they have had a lot of sexual partners, nevermind the circumstances....

i also think that women have a harder time than men when they don't achieve absolute physical beauty.... this is only a perception however and may not be entirely true... the pressure is there, nevertheless...

 

Its not actually that odd, its the traditional Conditioning differences between the two genders. That has now finally starting to collapse and change shape currently. But it was still not long ago, where it was highly viewed as a boy crying to being weak and being punished for. My old school advocated that in a situation where the boy was crying, it was considered guilt to whatever occurred regardless of the facts ~

And even before my time it was, Men are "supposed" to be the achievers of the family and bear all the weight while not letting emotions sway you and always keeping positive growth .. Then we wonder why men going to bars and drinking away was the norm O o ... and anger being the only emotion that was really seen and accepted as the norm ~

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JhlWddAXSRA"]YouTube - R. Lee Ermey GEICO Commercial - Therapist Sarge

I believe though we are in a transition stage, where many are just stuck in a in between and not knowing how to deal with old values being forced to new values and not knowing how to cope/control emotions so look for a mid ground which ends up being dishonesty that leads to quite clear contradictions :X

and sorry for hijacking the thread

 

Ok here's my bit:
This is from my point of view and my own experiences from MY country, my society.
Chicks have it better because:
1) Having your period sucks, but on the other hand you have a free pass to being a bitch the entire time of said condition. PMS is a real psychiatric condition, but I can never mention it because I would be the asshole. So it kinda balances out.
2) You can HAVE kids, actually HAVE kids, if the marriage goes wrong, the female AUTOMATICALLY gets the kids no matter how great and caring the father is, she can be the devil, and still get the house, just because for the man to leave the nest is the right and appropiate thing to do. (Can't believe nobody mentioned the divorce thing)
3) In my country women are old school, they will NEVER ask you out. So it's up to us to do all the work. They never risk anything, not like us, we risk our egos and confidence 24/7 just to get a cup of coffee with you gals. I know that my ego shouldn't depend on getting rejected or w/e, but after being said "no" 20 times it kinda starts to hurt.
4) Girls can talk about their feelings in public, with friends, they can get much more comfort than us guys. I have great friends, they listen but that's the problem, the inability of men to communicate and making someone feel better is just awful. So when I get my heart and soul shattered in a thousand pieces, the best thing I can get is a "well... better luck next time" because men are afraid of looking gay by expressing something really heartwarming.
5) Having said number 4, men can't talk about feelings, they can't be sweet, if we're gentleman we get stepped on, we can't admit that we're petrified sometimes (like in violent situations) or we're labelled as pussies, and all these just because society and basically everyone including chicks, would think we're gay.
6) If a woman cries it's like "OMG what happened, poor thing", if I cry "damn, a man crying... what a pussy", and to the people that don't think we're pussies for crying, they still freakout because seeing a man cry is a very rare and at the same time not quite accepted event.
7) Men have to struggle and restrain themselves from having an orgasm because they have to wait until the woman get theirs first, and at least one. Women can go on and on and on and on, multiple orgasms and still go on. We have only ONE chance, and sometimes after waiting soooo long, it's just an ejaculation without an orgasm whatsoever. Being FREE, being actually FREE of feeling whatever you want and letting your body go wherever you want it to go it's bliss. Fighting and struggling against your body urges not so much. Although you get used to it after a while.
8) It's alright for a woman to be a homemaker, if we do it, we're leechers. If our wife makes more money than us, in the long run we loose value, and people/society look down on us. Doesn't happen the other way around.
9) If we haven't lost our virginity we get ridiculized and mocked (personal experience), even by chicks, women being virgins is ok, even at late ages. Men consider many times virgins as actual "gems", I have no idea what women think about virgin men, but I don't think it's something good since where I come from the alpha male thing is what really works.

In conclusion men can't be vulnerable, sensible, weak, we can't display our emotions too much, can't talk about them either too much. I love being a man but sometimes it feels like an emotional prison, I can't really be myself 100%. If women are vulnerable it's cute and accepted. Women can be emotionally FREE, uncriticized, unmockable, accepted FREEDOM, and I think that's golden. Women get sexual and emotional freedom, we get restrain.

And now a bunch of trivial things:
10) It's just weird to go to the movies with a male friend to watch a romantic movie or a romantic comedy, but If female friends do it it's more than ok.
11) Some types of music we listen to makes us look gay and completely unattractive to women, women can listen to absolutely anything, if they listen to Britney Spears it's ok, if they like Metallica they're boys magnets.
12) We can't like gardening and roses except in the UK or we're absolutely gay.

I could go on . Byeee all.

 

I would just like to be a guy. there are no women, I mean not 1, that I relate to or who when you hang out with them it's like hanging out with the guys. women always try to be sooooo mature. I wish I could just throw on some baggy ass jeans, fuckin boxers and no bra and have that be the end of it. If I was a guy I could get drunk wherever or with whoever without getting hit on. my anger would be more acceptable. there's a ton of reasons why I would like to be a guy. I hate being a woman. Its not even about childbirth or periods, cuz those don't bother me.
I can't live up to the expectations of being a woman. I fail miserably at it.

 

although if I was a guy there is no way I would be able to commit to a woman. sometimes they expect way too much from their boyfriends. way too may head games and manipulation.

 

Everything! But I feel like women are awesome because we put up with nearly anything and everything.

 

go read some 3rd wave feminism

 

People might want true answers that aren't full of baked statistics and faulty logic though..

 

Surely it depends on how hard the woman herself makes her life.
What is there that one entire sex must go through that makes being that sex so hard?
Periods aren't bad at all.. eat healthy and exericise, and they're nothing other than a couple days of eating more than usual

But if anything, I suppose the sexism. But there is now and increasing amount of sexism towards males. Although, there is definitely unequal pay still, discouragements for pursuing political or other male-dominated careers (though, scholarships offered to women are trying to change this), sexist 'jokes', etc.

But losing sleep for putting on make-up? I never wear make-up. Most of the females I hang around with don't either. Childbirth? That's more or less an option... Holding back emotions? Why should somebody do that under normal circumstances?

I love being a girl, and I would never, ever have it any other way!

 

I've decided I have one small complaint.

I hate being expected to partake in discussion of woman topics. I don't give a fuck about your laundry, how dilated you were before the doctors got the forceps out on you, how terrible your husband is and therefore all men are (I hate that sexist bullshit) whether your kid is top of the class or what kind of nail varnish you use.

These are generalisations in themselves, of course, but you do get the odd woman who will only ever want to talk about these kinds of things. You rarely hear a group of men talking about pregnancy or makeup. And I don't want to either.

 

I'm glad it was just one small one.

 

haha... come not between the dragon and her wrath :mickey:

 

I dont want to hear another word about footy.

There is always that one guy and thats all he talks about, which is fine when we are younger, but 20 years later, season after season after season "Are the doggies going to get up again this year?" Who gives a shit

 

I don't wanna hear about how wonderful your boyfriend is, or how shitty he is the next day. I've been around women that literally talk about nothing else but their men. Men don't sit around and talk about their girlfriends constantly. Thats one thing I appreciate about most of my close girlfriends; we actually talk about things of substance. I don't really know the particulars of their relationships nor do I want to know.

 

I read once that PMS is a cultural phenomenon only found in wealthy, industrialized nations.

 

That was a bit on the stupid side wasn't it?