What's it like to be in love?

happening to me right now, was promised time and time again they'd never get together 'he's like a brother i'd never do it haha' (heard that line over 10 times)

Nasty stuff.

 

yeah, happened to me. i used to a right softy, but what they did broke me, when considering relationships.

now i won't commit.

 

Worst part is i'm probably gonna have to give up two of my closest friends because if they can do this to me i don't feel comfortable being around them at all.

Think the girl is playing games with me as well fucking bitch, she can't keep away but always speaks of him and that's all she cares about. sickening!

 

Its surprising you are still with her if you know that it is "happening".

 

If this is directed to me i'm not with her, i just hang around with her now but now i'm trying to completely cut her out of my life.... not gonna be that easy as she's moving just round the corner to me in 3 weeks

 

I went through that with my ex boyfriend. He was obviously flirting with her one night and I called him out on it. He made me feel like the biggest bitch in the world, told me I was crazy and it was wrong of me not to trust him.

They started dating not even a month after we broke up.

I was just aquaintances with the girl so I didn't really get mad at her, she wasn't breaking any friend codes. I eventually became really good friends with her and now the three of us hang out sometimes. She can have him for all I care, he treated me like shit and now he treats her like shit.

 

isnt this called ''revenge sex'' ?

 

Seems like it :devil:

it's also called a big fucking mistake on her behalf cos i am bitter as fuck about it.

 

the trick is to not become bitter. You're giving her too much power over you by allowing yourself to become bitter over it. Just write her off as a shitty human being and remember that not all girls are going to do that to you.

 

She's pretty much fucked up a 23 year long relationship i've had with a mate, maybe i should be more pissed with him but he hasn't instigated it like her and he never promised me countless times like her.

This is not something i can just get over in a short space of time sadly.

 

I understand, but still. I've had my heart broken to the point of becoming bitter only once, and after a few months I decided that I had a choice not to be bitter. I hope things get easier with time and I hope when you do start to get over it, you won't let it effect the way you feel about future relationships.

I hope you work things out with your friend. 23 years is a time to be friends with someone. Your friend must have really liked this girl to risk a 23 year old friendship for some booty.

 

I doubt it'll effect future relationships at all, just affecting me badly mentally at the moment!! GRRR

 

I don't get how you can say you're now really good friends with her yet you don't care that he treats her like shit

 

Someone like you? Lots of people feel that same way; that they shouldn't be able to develop those kinds of feelings. Truth is it happens often, to lots of us.

 

I meant it feels very unfair that Im able to develop those sorts of feelings when there's absolutely no chance of them ever being reciprocated by just about anyone. It does happen to a lot of people, but most of those people probably will find love at some point in their lives. I will never find it, so that makes it different for me. Its highly unlikely I will ever find someone who will love me, so it just seems immensely cruel that Im able to feel love, but will never know what it's like to be loved. The feelings of love I get are no different to what any normal female gets. Yet it's very unlikely I will ever find a guy who will see me as that and love me for who I actually am. Which is soul destroying.

 

I've seen you write things like that several times on here. true love is about the soul. The body is what initially attracts, but people fall in love with souls. I think if is something you wish to experience in life you should be open to the possibility. Love will never find you if you really believe that it will not find you. If you believe in the possibility, that means you will be open to it if and when it does happen. It is the possible that keeps life exciting for everyone, no matter what their position in life.

As far as I'm concerned, being a hopeless romantic is terrifying on an equal opportunity basis. I don't really ever admit this, but the thing I want most in life is to find a crazy, mad, passionate love that lasts a lifetime. This rarely happens to anyone, but when it does it is because people are lucky to find another person that can see through their body and all their walls to their soul. Your body won't prevent two souls from recognizing each other.

I'm so ashamed of being a hopeless romantic sometimes. I'm fighting to resist the urge to apologize for sounding so cheesy and mushy lol.

 

no one can really answer this question. and if they know they can, theyre really not that wise

its all on you, babe

 

Im not saying I'm not open to the possibility, Im just facing up to reality by knowing it's something Im highly likely never going to experience. I'm only adding to the pain I feel by desiring something I know in all probability I will never have. Im sure being rejected for any reason if you love someone can be hard to take. But being rejected only because your body isn't "normal", and you don't feel like a real female because of that... I wish I could describe how painful that actually is, but it's impossible to put into words. Ive been told a few times that personality wise, Im everything a decent guy would want in a woman, which only makes things even tougher for me to bear. While you are right that people fall in love with souls... I know it would take a very special guy to be able to look past all my physical flaws, and still be able to love me simply for me. And the chances of finding someone like that is very slim, and I think for me to think anything but that is only going to make me feel even worse about the situation.

I'm also a hopeless romantic, which I think is part of the trouble. lol I think this would hurt far less if I wasn't like that. But I can't help the way I am. Yes, I would need to find someone to whom my body may as well not exist, because it's my soul he's in love with. But again, people like that are in a big minority. If I was able to find someone like that, Id count myself as extremely lucky, and would start believing in miracles.

I'm just as bad, if not even worse in that department. Although most people have certainly never seen it, I'm about as cheesy and mushy as they come when it comes to being a hopeless romantic. I just keep that side of myself mostly hidden. Which for others, might be for the best. lol

 

I'm never ashamed of being a 'hopeless' romantic and having that craving. Why would I, because it is unlikely? Yes, it's not really practical but I'm used to that. It would still be great to find someone where it seems like it could be possible. If you don't try it's only sure you never run into someone that fits your need/personality/body etc.

Anyway, what does sounds familiar is the fear of sounding cheesy and mushy (especially when typing it out on a forum indeed)

 

I'm not ashamed of it either. lol I just feel like having that personality makes it harder for me to cope with certain things.

I dont really have a fear of sounding cheesy, if other people don't like my mushiness that's their problem.