What would you think

tell him that you think it`s great that he has such high value`s, but that you view sex as an important part of an intimate relationship. ask him to level with you and explain that this problem is affecting your self-esteem.
this may sound harsh, but, if he keeps avoiding the issue, then perhaps it would be better to move on, find yourself a guy that makes you feel like a princess.

 

I'm not really all that worried about it, I mean I accepted the fact that we would only be friends along time ago, but he keeps bringing it up and I am confused as to why.

I mean its not like he is telling me that he had once made a decision no tto fuck me and no he thinks he wants to, he jsut keeps telling me that he won't but that doesn't mean he doesn't want to.

I think maybe he has lost his mind?

 

maybe he wants you to want him.

 

thats a good explaination.

he doesn't want me exactly, but he wants to feel wanted

 

right...he knows you have a bit of a thing for him...so when he feels needy he comes to you for a little shot of self-esteem. i've had guys use me this way too. you just have to learn to make decisions based on this principle: if you're not getting what you want, it's not for you. for example, it doesn't matter how much i like a guy, if i ask him out and he turns me down...especially if he does it more than once...i have to assume he's only flirting cuz he likes attention.

 

He probably does feel an honest connection with you, it's just not a sexual one. I've been very attracted to men before, but moreso to their personality and intellect, sometimes to the point where I can be horribly attracted to who he is, but not sexually attracted to him. I hope that makes sense.

 

Makes perfect sense...thank you

 

You don't hear guys complain "We just met and she doesn't want to have sex yet!".

But when they do they get a ton of flak for it.

STOP GENDER INEQUALITY.

 

I don't think I was complaining about not getting sex, sorry if it came across that way....I didn't think I was complaining at all, just hoping someone could help me understand what he meant by what he said.

 

Maybe you're just ugly.

 

I am, thats what I think he means 'you're a decent person, but looking at you makes me feel sick'

 

looking at your first post, that wouldn't make a lot of sense. guys don't tell girls they really want to have sex with them when they don't. but i can't help but wonder, why are you wasting time on this? i'm sure you have better things to do. treat yourself better, you should spend half so much time thinking about what YOU want. it's obvious you're not going to get what you want messing with this guy.

 

Well, are you ugly?

 

Yeah, but I think I have already said that several times

 

Ok, so to add to the confusion.....I am moving towns and this guy has asked if he can come with me??

 

This guy is worse than me! lol. Completely indecisive and will probably stay that way. You need to be straight-forward with him, and ask him directly what he wants. No more games that he can hide behind.

 

don't even less to him, he is being a total asshole. thank goodness he is gone.

 

It was a valid point though

 

what was?

 

asking if I was ugly