What would you do??

Speaking of good energy---I feel this has a lot to do with why the cats are acting out.

I try to project as much positive energy into the apartment as I can, because YOUR energy will affect your pets attitude, completely. I feel like a big problem is the fact that my roomie is always so tense and agitated with everything---the cats seem to fight most when she's home, and my cat tends to become tense as well when she's home. He doesn't seem to dislike her, because he puts up with her scooping him up and carrying him around and what not... but, he just changes when she walks in the door, he almost seems as if he is immediately on guard.

I hate to say it too, but I see it in her cat as well. Her cat seems very relaxed and at ease when she isn't home, and the second she walks in the door her cat gets this attitude. When she isn't there I can pet her cat, and she purrs, but when she's home, if I pet her cat she just grumbles all crabby-like.

She is far too rough with the cats too, and doesn't understand that they don't like it... when her cat grumbles she just always says, "Oh yeah, she always does that, she's happy, that's just what she does"---

I don't have the heart to tell her that she's probably not interacting with them in the most positive way, but it bothers me nonetheless.

Most cats are over-stimulated very easily, which is why its good to be fairly gentle with them... they aren't so much fragile, as much as they just seem to hate being pet for long periods of time, or in a rough manner...and this is the ONLY way she ever goes about it.

I think woman needs a dog, or something. Instead of a cat.

I tried telling her from the very beginning that if she projected such negative tense energy, that's what she would receive from the cats as well, but she doesn't seem to get it... she cut down the bitching quite a bit, but she needs to work on her general energy as well.... animals can sense when you're tense, and she doesn't get that.

I don't know its hard to explain.

But the first time I brought my cat over, she was so dramatic about it, and wouldn't drop the subject. He was adjusting to new people, a new environment, and a new cat, and was quite crabby. So if she walked by and he growled, she would stand there in front of him, talking to him angrily, like "What? What's your problem dumbass? I can't walk past you? God cat, you are weird. Shut up. You have issues" etc. for like 10 minutes at a time. Then she would proceed to sit on the couch and bitch about how stupid he was, and I kept telling her "If you don't calm down and let it go, hes not going to calm down"

She still doesnt get it.

 

wo! sounds like she shouldn't have animals at all! what she's doing to your cat is cruel, shaimful, and out right disrespectful to you too!, she really has no idea does she?... when people come round to our house we always get complimented on how friendly and well behaved our cats are. if your nice, jentle, and patient to your cats then you will get love and afection back and your room mate should know that as she has one her self, sounds like her cat would do better having a new owner! as for lockin your cat up and lettin her one roam free, that's fuckin out of order! that's really riled me! not only winding him up but shouting at him too, no way! get out now b4 your cat gets more distressed and unhappy its totally not fair to have him go thrue that or you iether! this is my opinion. hope your birthday went well and you wern't too upset... its my birthday this friday.eak! hope you can resolve this situation. xxx, good luck. give your kitty a big hug from me please and tell him its all right, and that things will work out. i talk to my cats too its perfetly normal for me to do that, i wouldnt have it any other way. :-d

 

this is why i refuse to ever move in with a friend. ever. i hope you're able to move out soon. she doesn't seem to have the faculties to be an adult about the situation or be diplomatic. what if you guys had to face a worse issue than this? how would she react then? would she continue to make snide remarks and catty (pardon the pun) comments? trust me, if you want to keep a friendship with her and your sanity, i'd move out ASAP. plus, for your kitty's well being and sanity i'd get out soon, as well.

 

oops, i'm really tired and i just realized how dated this thread is (hehe in my sleepyness i forgot that i was exploring older threads for fun) - my response is probably not relevent any longer. how did that situation turn out, apples? i hope everything turned out ok!