What tricks have you picked up over the years, that has enhanced your orgasms

This is probably an over simplification, but the number one thing I've done to increase my orgasmic experience was to fall in love with sex. If you have little interest in it, it stands to reason that you won't get much out of it.
It took me some time, and at first I had to work at it. It used to be wham/bam and we were done. I didn't get into it. Once I'd had enough, I took control rather than abandoning it. In taking control, I varied sex, how it was done, who it was done with. It became fun, and we both enjoyed new levels of sex and play. Now I can't live without it.
Like they say, "Practice makes perfect."

 

Great point, MayEye. ^^^^ You're right - to get something good out of anything, one must invest some time and effort. Glad you're having lots of fun now!!

 

Take you time. Don't be in a rush to reach the orgasm, like you're late and running to catch a bus. Let it build and build and build. Imagine you've started at sunset, and you'll let it come like the inevitability of the sun rise.

Let your partner control your orgasm more than you. That means they control the build up, they control the action, they decide when you are cumming, they decide when you are done. Don't give them direction, let them work out and decide what they are going to do; each time you'll never quite predict what she's going to do next. You'll issue gutteral moans, raggedly breath and give the game away in places but don't tell her what to do. Never let it become orgasm by numbers. You know the destination is orgasm, but you don't know the path your partner is going to take to get you there, or how long it'll take.

Let your wife or partner use their fingers, mouth or a vibrator / butt plug on you. Let them massage your prostate. Let them feel, massage and hold your erection from the inside. You may find you can have multiple orgasms and that they will be the most intense you've ever had.

Have your wife or partner hold your testicles firm, so you can't retract them. Have her very briefly loosen her grip then tighten again so she can feel your attempt at retraction. It'll delay the orgasm till you're bursting, your penis and testicles will be even more engorged, and when she lets go and you finally cum it'll be like a tidal wave of ejaculation, washing over your entire groin area.

Lie on your back, legs slightly apart to give full access. When she's giving you a blow job, again have her insert her fingers, hand, or a vibrator in your anus. When you orgasm your penis will push and pulse against her fingers, arm, or the vibrator and you'll have some of your most powerful contractions, your legs and stomach may tremble, you may issues a loud gutteral moan for quite some time. Once you've cum once, then have her keep going to bring to a second and more orgasms. Have her continue as long as she wants to, even when you think you are spent. You'll cum again.

During intercourse let her control the motion more, let her do the thrusting. If she's on top, facing you, place your thumb where your penis enters her and gently strokeyour thumb (or fingers) from there to her clitoris and back. Vary the pressure, rythym, and direction and tempo. Listen to her responses.

Pursuit. Play a game of pursuit where it's your partners job to make you orgasm, and it's your job to resist. Reverse, your job to make them orgasm, and theirs to resist. You can move around the bed, but you can't leave it. You can change position as often as you want, but you can't use your hands to stop them. Everytime you can feel yourself approaching orgasm try and move, to interrupt your partner. It's like edging but you must try and actively resist as long as you can.

Have sessions where you are passive, and you let your partner explore your body. How it feels, how it responds, what generates a gutteral moan, what generates a sigh, what makes you tremble, what makes you twitch. Set some boundaries and then be open and relaxed about what they do within that. Our rules are generally no pain, be slow and gentle, plenty of lube if exploring anally. If the passive partner says stop, you stop no questions. Remember no spoken directions, no helping with your hands, no moving or thrusting your hips; you are passive. Your only movements should be involuntary, as in your partner caused them to occur. It'll feel incredible for both of you, you'll both discover new things about your body, you and your partner will discover a myriad new ways you can be brought to orgasm. When you both understand each others bodies, through these sessions, then the sex where you are both active will be electric,varied, and the orgasms intense and multiple.

Lie in a spooning position with your wife in front of you. Let her reach behind and begin to stroke your penis and testicles. Let her gradually move backwards until your penis is touching her bum. Then let her gradually manuever herself, and your penis with her hand till you are inside her. Let her decide whether this is her vagina or anus. Once inside begin gently thrusting but let her control most of the motion. Once in this position let her reach behind and insert a vibrator or butt plug inside you. You'll instantly grow longer and wider than you felt possible, and you'll both feel that expansion. Continue like this, gentle thrusting and rocking, whilst she works you with a vibrator, or her fingers if she can and chooses. Do not speed up, or change the rythym. Just let it build and build and build.

Spooning but this time your pay attention to your partner, gentle carressing her, stroking her shoulders, stroking her bum, stroking her hips,stroking her breasts, gentle running your fingers through her hair. Snake your hand over her hips and down to her pubis. Stroke her public hair then withdraw. Continue with the caressing. Use your other hand and gentle push it between her legs. Lube helps if the gap is small. Cup her mound and labia but do not stroke or insert any fingers. Just cup her and see if she is wet. Withdraw the hand and continue carressing her. Keep doing this for the longest time. Then after an unspecified amount of time, reach over her hips down to her pubis. Run a finger down the outside of her outer labia lips and back a few times, then withdraw the hand. Continue with the caressing. After an unspecified amount of time, the other hand between her legs and cup her. Run a finger up the outside of her labia, with a very slight left to right zigzag. Then withdraw. Continue like this. After a while, alternate between stroking the pubic hair, running a finger down the outer lips of her labia, cupping, and her running a finger up the outside of her labia. From now occassionally reach down, and stroke her clitoris then withdraw. From below, a finger along her wet inner lips to her vagina, and just gentle wriggle the finger at the entrance. Then withdraw. Do this a while, letting it build. Each time make the time you spend stroking her clitoris or your finger at the entrance to her vagina last just that little bit longer but don't make it predictable. Then let the finger enter her vagina a little more and leave it there. Then withdraw. Keep caressing of the rest of her body. Let your finger from above move the length of her labia stopping at her vagina then withdraw. Do the same from below, with the other hand, from her vagina to clitoris, then withdraw. After a while insert a couple of fingers in her vagina, and bend them towards her belly button, gently stroke and reach until you feel a ribbed area. Stroke away slow and gentle to start, change the rythym every now and again and see how she responds. You may need to ask her, if you haven't done this before, don't be shy. But if not, or she doesn't like it, move back to the entrance of her vagina and clitoris and her labia lips. Be slow and gentle, slower and gentler than you can imagine, and take your time. If she wants more pressure or for it to be faster or firmer she'll say. But don't be afraid to ask. If she has a vibrator you can use that as well, but decide beforehand whether it might come in to play; nothing more frustrating for her than you stopping whilst you bumble about looking for the vibrator. Have it easily reachable within the bed. The aim to to tease out her orgasm for as long as possible, till she can't contain it. That means being slower and gentler than you can imagine. If you tease it out long enough, and she may reach a gushing orgasm where she ejects a lot of liquid, and tembles all over. It's a sight to behold. But continue after that, see you you can get her to orgasm again and again.

Your partner on her back and you go down on her. Licking and sucking motions varying between the length of her labia lips, her clitoris, and her vagina. Sucking on the clitoris really does wonders for my wife. Don't forget left to right motions as well as up and down. Slow and, gentle, it's sensitive, particularly when it's engorged as she become more aroused. Drink and swallow her juices and make sure she knows you are doing that. She'll taste great and there's nothing better her knowing you will swallow for her as well. Try hands free and reach up and gentle stroke her breasts and nipples whilst you are down on her. Find her hands and hold them. Squeeze and release them in motion with what you are doing down below. Hold her hips and stroke in rythym. Take your time and let it build slowly.

Spooning but this time with your wife or partner behind you. Your legs should be slightly drawn up. Best if you start limp, but if you're erect, no problem. Have them slowly bring a hand over your hips, eventually making contact with your penis. They'll stroke and caress you from limp to erect. Let your partner fully explore your penis when it's limp not just erect. After a while have them with their other hand, push it through your legs and insert a finger or thumb in your anus and with the other fingers take hold of your testicles and massage those. Make sure she uses lube on you. All the while still caressing your penis with their other hand. Have her continue like this, she may decide to insert more fingers in your anus, she make decide to insert a vibrator, a prostate one specifc to the job. As you approach orgasm have her completely cup your penis in one hand, whilst the other works your prostate. You'll have nowhere to go, you'll push against her fingers or the vibrator inside you, you'll swell even more and push and pulse against her hand holding you; . You'll ejaculate a lot, and they'll be that warm liquid oozing on your stomach and pubis, and her hand. Next turn over on to your back and have her lick all the ejaculate off your pubis and stomach. Then share a warm, sloppy, passionate kiss.

You may have read these as seperate sessions to do. But you can combine them, in any way you like, for one long marathon sex sessions with one or more intense orgasms. For instance we like to shift between me spooning my wife, her giving me a blow job, me giving her oral, or her on top, her spooning me etc. You rotate between each before orgasm, and let it build again. So lie on your right, lying on your back, lying on your left and repeat. If she wants to get on top when you're on your back, let her, but try and not get carried away the aim to to make it last as long as possible. You never quite know when the orgasm will arrive, during the gentle thrusting, rocking and motions of intercourse, during the blowjob, when you're giving her oral, or giving her manual stimulation, when you're getting the hand job. But when it does it'll be intense.

 

Practice makes perfect.

 

Hmmm, what are poppers??

 

WoW.... This thread is making me want to have sex! Haven't done it yet, but I masturbate a lot.

 

Choose your first sex partner wisely. Do they have the personality attributes and treat you the way you'd like to be treated the first time you have sex? Then have fun visiting your unexplored country.

 

Edging for me as well.

 

There are afew things I do while masturbating that can enhance my sexual delight when I start climaxing / orgasming.

I'm a male / have a penis & testicles

1. Tense muscles

As I feel the sexual pleasure start to turn into ecstacy, I tense all my muscles over my entire body as hard as I can. I then keeo them tensed all through orgasm and a few seconds after.

2. Do it on a (very) full bladder

It can be an -extremely- nice experience to arrange things so that a self-love session coincedes with having a -very- (actually -extremely-) full bladder. This puts pressure on my prostate which can feel amazing. Usually then a downside is that I need to take an extremely urgent, completely unstoppable pee, usually with a still-stiff penis almost right after orgasm.

3. Rub my penis head directly

I'm uncut and still have my foreskin. My cockhead is usually too sensitive to touch directly. Sometimes when I'm -really- horny I'll strip the foreskin off the head and use lube to rub the naked glans directly. Takes more patience though but if I do it right it can soul-searingly intense and horribly pleasurable.

 

4. Holding down a testicle

When I start to sexually climax, my testicles tend to lift up to nestle against the root of my penis. Gently holding a testicle "down" in my scrotum with my fingertips so it cannot lift up for the climax can enhance the pleasure to a very great extent.

5. Very firmly squeeze the shaft

I'm right handed so I use my left hand to very very firmly grip my penis shaft as my orgasm is at hand, then squeeze it as hard as possible as the orgasm starts, proceeds, and finishes.

6. Edge

If I have time I'll edge, trying each time to get closer and closer to cumming without actually cumming. I have done this a few times for up to eight or nine hours, combined with pornography. The eventual sensation when I cum after hours and hours of denial is -fabulous-.

7. Store up seed

I abstain for a few days, which lets semen build up in my body. My sexual delight is often directly proportional to how much semen I shoot when cumming, so having more to spew out for longer increases my pleasure and the eventual sexual ecstacy when I orgasm and spurt it out.

8. Do a tribute

Sometimes masturbating over a picture of a hot girl or woman can be -very- stimulating. I then record the act of masturbation and the eventual cumshot as I blow my load over the picture. I then sometimes send it to the girl targeted (some women ADORE this kind of thing) - it is a lot of fun.

9. Slow down

Something that can be torturously delightful is to slow down rubbing as the climax aporoaches, then kerp rubbing real slow during my orgasm and the ejaculation of my semen out of my penis.

10. Just rub the head

I masturbate by generally rubbing my cock just behind the head. It can be very nice to rub just the head through my foreskin as I approach orgasm. It can feel completely different.

 

Very true.

 

You have said it all. I totally agree with everything except anal because we have never done it.

 

I learnt to hold my orgasms until my wife climaxes. After foreplay, I enter her and keep thrusting gently for about 30 - 45 minutes until my wife is ready to reach climax. That way, I enjoy her vaginal contractions on my shaft fully, and she enjoys my throbbing shaft shooting shoot my load into her. When she was about to come she wants me to suckle her nipples and let me finger her fully erect clit while she holds my buttocks very tight with both hands. Once she reached climax she starts to massage my balls hard and urge me to release my load while both of our lips are locked tightly. This helps to enjoy each others orgasmic response in full.