Unless you both have been giving each other orgasms it will be very quick for him the first time - try to have enough time and privacy to do it more than once. Being nervous can make you dry either use saliva or a lubricant if you need it. If he has been fingering you their should not be pain but you never know. Go slow and remember that it just keeps getting better. Be sure to use that protection and see about a better method of birth control than condoms.
You don't need to do all the kiddie stuff, like anal, triple, double penetration, rimming, using monsterdildoes, face-farting, scat-squatting, etc... Just do the mature thing: ordinary lovemaking, and make sure he takes things verrrrrry sloooowwwwllyyyy, so you can rub your clitoris gently against his pubis. This is the most difficult thing. Sitting on someones face and shitting in his mouth while jerking him off is too easy. Try ordinary lovemaking - something very few people are really good at. Learn the difficult, real and good stuff first. Later you can take dumps on command, no prob. Good luck. PS: if you're going to use a condom, make sure you have lots of lubricant, and ask him to rub it onto your vulva for a very long time, until you're about to cum; then ask him to gently try to enter you. Make it very messy down there, before you allow him in.
when i was getting ready to lose my virginity, i went around asking people the same thing you are now. when we got around to it, i was so frusterated trying to "do things right" and think about all the things people told me, that it was no fun. its much better to just let it go and do what feels right. there might be some awkward moments, but just laugh it off and keep going. it makes the experience that much better when you're both trying to figure it out. ;-P
*sigh* We still don't know what do to. We have the right idea in mind but we don't know where to go with it. We might also wait til I'm 18 (I'm 17 now, he's 18 turn in 19 next month) cuz if word gets out that we've done it, he'll get in trouble cuz since I'm not 18 yet and it's considered some kind of rape whether or not I wanted to do it or not....
i think its called statutary rape??? if you're both nervous then i would wait till you're 18, it gives you time to make sure you're confident that you want to go through with it.
Nothing is wrong with condoms - I did not make myself clear - condoms are the best we can do for preventing STD's but they should be supplemented with another form of birth control.
I would agree - the statutory rape is not used much anymore and is hard to prove unless you are caught in the act. If the female is ready to swear blind that nothing ever happened and they were the only ones who were there it is hard to get a conviction and most PA's will not mess with it unless the woman’s parents swing local power. However, all that aside neither of you should do anything that you are not 100% comfortable with doing. You got lots of time ahead of you, better to be sure.
We will. I'm even thinking of telling him to wait til marriage, then if anything should happen, it's still ok....
hey dont worry and dont be scared.. its ok to be nervous.. god my first time i was really nervous..but we were both virgins and he was nervous too dont worry about what to "do" your body just knows its an awesome feeling but you have to be sure that its what you want.. dont do kinky shit on your first time there are many many other times for that just focus on the moment and enjoy it.. dont worry about all that rape shit its not rape iff you are concenting.. here in australia we can be 16 and its legal.. dont know the rules where you are but iff its what you want the rules dont matter.. hope i've helped... peace
You have to be 18 for it to be legal in the USA, but noone seems to want to conform to the rules anymore. Just like regular hippies.... On Sunday we both admitted it's driving us up the wall and we're trying to think of a location to do it. Can't at his house (he lives with his mom), not at mine (dad), back of truck bed, etc. We can't think of anything. I also told a friend of mine at school what we're gonna be doing and she's happy for me :/ and said she'd help me and if I need anything that she can get it for me. Yikes! Wow. She opened a compartment of her bag and there was a condom in there! That thing was huge! Omg! She knows a guy who has a whole box full and a drawer full of them, so I guess when the time comes I'll just let her know. I'll have to talk it over with my bf. She lost her virginity to a 22 year old and she says that my bf and I should do it sooner than waiting for me to turn 18. *shrugs* Making love on my 18th birthday wouldn't be such a bad present....
Yeah, dude, fuck that. It doesn't matter if you're 17 and he's 18. I'm fucking an 18 year old. I'm 15.
If that doesn't work, who knows of a good location to do it. Also what's the best type of codom to use. My friend recommended spermicide lubricated condom....
Good choice on the condom- as far as where - it is worth waiting to find a good comfortable place with no chance of being caught. Neither one of you want any more stressors that you will already have on the first time. Just make a careful pick there is nothing worse than someone walking in on you and having a major fit while you are both trying to put your clothing back on.
Not to sound funny, but you said you wanted to go up a level to sex.... What did you do at the previous level? If you are unsure about what to expect, watch a few hours of Jenna Jameson porn and then give it a go....