What to do? good friends of mine getting into dope

I just recently spoke with a professional in the addiction field and she said, "Yes, people can have a predisposition, just like they can have a predisposition to Diabetes or Heart Disease. You have to know what is in your genes and avoid the substances involved just as some need to avoid french fries and ice cream."

 

Smart drug use has never existed in my life. Probably because I consider myself an addict. Today, I would never begin to tell someone that they do or don't have a problem. That's for them to decide. While I agree that CERTAIN PEOPLE can use drugs "successfully" and "function" and not make a total mess out of their lives, those people are few and far between as far as I am concerned. I can count on one hand the amount of people I have known personally who use drugs and are able to have some semblance of a life.

My point is, in MY EXPERIENCE AND FROM WHAT I HAVE SEEN, I have met or heard of a heck of a lot more people who have realized they have a problem and have chosen to either seek help or continue to use than "successful" users. If you think your friend has a problem, it's definitely not going to hurt him/her to hear that they have a friend who loves, cares, and is worried about them.

Good luck. It never hurts to care.:2thumbsup:

 

they will just go in the bathroom or other room and get high.
Thats whille they respect you. Give it a few months and your "boy" will think your a putz/ easy $ machine. Ive seen it to much.

 

Yeah, I was about to say he could just think of you as a resource eventually. It also doesn't really help to talk about it, even in the most easy-going way possible, because it just makes people mad. It makes them point things out about you, saying you're not perfect either. It makes them defensive, and it doesn't really work. It IS good to voice your concerns, but I'd have to agree with a lot of people with what has been said here and that to give him his space, but let him know you'll help him get off dope (and absolutely never help him get any dope). The "just experimenting" thing got me into a couple year oxycontin phase a few years ago, until I realized "what the fuck, I feel like shit more than I feel good" so I quit by using smaller amounts of oxycontin lol.

 

I hope that your friend gets through this and I will have good thoughts for your friend.

When you are talking to your friend about this try not to be judgmental, or lecture. That will get you no where. At the same time you have to be strong. You will also need a thick skin. They will at some point say hurtful things. Don't take it personally. Also keep in mind that this is going to take some time so don't try to be the master of his recovery. Things will likely get frustrating because he isn't getting better as quickly as you hope. This is where you will need to have patients. Your friend will become a person you don't know. It's the drugs talking not your friend. If you are unsuccessful don't take it as a failing on your part. He has to want it for himself. It's good that you are his friend because he can't do it alone.