What should I do?

Bella, don't write her.

 

Bella is like that, though.

 

-jumps in that boat with vig and praxi-

 

I do think your friend and her husband are being idiots about the whole thing. He can get a less than honorable discharge, and if considered AWOL, he can be imprisoned. Well, he's in the reserves, so I don't know about them, but I do know active duty. A good friend of mine's husband went AWOL on active duty marines and he's not waiting it out in prison.

I don't think you should push any further than you already have. I'm not saying it's bad that you care so much, it's just bad that it could ruin a friendship by letting your best friend know the facts.

You could always call his superiors or the MPs and let them know what he's saying, then when she comes crying tell her "I told you so."

 

Leave it alone Bella. It's not your place, even as a friend to get involved with their lives like that. How do you know his real motive? Guys say stupid shit when they don't want people to know what they really think or feel. Get off their case - it's their life. Pay attention to your own.

 

Sigh...well they're car got taken away today, while my friend's husband was on his way to work...I don't know why. Most likely because they never paid their registration. The husband was negative in their vacation hours, because they went to Virginia Beach for a week, so he's prob fired now and they have no way to pay their bills...
it would be so much easier to not advise her, if she didn't try and boss me around all the time and give me 'money saving tips'...

 

I paid very close attention to my life and that's why i have a wonderful marraige, education, home and buisness. It's hard to sit back and watch your friends suffer the consequences because they live in fantasy land.
I don't care what his motive is, if he's a desserter, which he is, then he can't get another job. That affects both his child and wife, not just him.

 

I need to not be their friend anymore, because I can't watch that happen without getting up in their buisness, which I know is not right (yes, you guys were right-ignore my previous posts, sorry).
So basically, I am going to be a nag, or no longer her friend because I can't take this level of irresponsibility.

 

Sounds like something they will have to find out for themselves. If you insist on it, you'll just lose a friend and they still won't take your advice.

 

I think I agree with everyone else by now. They've made their bed, let them lie in it.

 

word.

I'm sure your friends understand the consequences of their actions and you stepping in to remind them is only going to cause more unnecessary dramz.

U think ppl r stupid?

 

I just got off the phone with her...their car registration was 9 MONTHS overdue and they had fake stickers on it...they have a fucking child! WTF? why? why live life that way?

 

There are regulations which cover such action

Reservist who has accrued in any one-year period a total of nine or more unexcused absences from scheduled drill, or who misses Annual Training (AT) are considered "unsatisfactory participants." What happens then is up to the unit commander. If the unit commander feels the member still has to potential to be deployed, the commander can transfer the member to the Individual Ready Reserve (IRR). The commander can also impose a grade reduction in conjunction with the transfer. If the commander feels the member does not have potential to participate in deployments, the commander initiates discharge action.
Most such discharges are characterized as other-than-honorable conditions (OTHC).


Hotwater

 

She can't visit, I am going to tell her that next time she brings it up. We've taken out quite a bit of loans lately and aren't going to be able to pay them off compltely until October, so we have to budget. i can;t pay for her ass everytime we go somewhere like I used to during her dramas.
She had no one to drive her to the DMV today because she wore everyone out, even her parents. She had to walk on a highway with her infant to get there.
I can;t give my emotions or even another baby blanket to her kid right now because I am so put off by the way she lives her life.

 

A lot of people probably think the same thing about you. I am sure of it in fact.

 

and the feeling would most likely be mutual, as most people who would make that judgement spend way too much time here and don't seem that capable of making repsponsible choices.

 

Should i email that to her? I don;t care whether or not we stay friends anymore. I only care abotu their child at this point.

 

and doesn;t shit like that piss you off after you've done your time, in the Army none the less? The Army's not a fucking cake walk. fuck awolers who VOLUNTEER for the military.

 

Don't start that. This was in response to you judging the lives of others in the first place, as you have done once again and probably will do again. Refer to highlighted text.

Apologies if I am being relentlessly harsh, I am just in that sort of mood. Still, I would rather be friends with a fuck-up than a nosy know it all.

 

That's fine, people like to hang out with their own kind