what options do I have?

I have so much shit I have to pay for...


Tickets, rent, food...


It isn't all its cracked up to be.

 

fuck your boss if you're too much of a ninny. just find a different job - if it doesn't work it doesn't work. you HAVE to have your own job to pay your bills and find a car.

just save your money up at your current job, buy a car and move the fuck out - it's simple

(Drew: sure it's nice to have someone pay for your shit - my parents do help me out with a lot of stuff, fortunately they also give me my own leeway - but you have to grow up and start paying for your own things if you want them. he's 19 and still obeying every last rule his parents set out for him? he needs to act like a grown adult (or atleast somewhat) and MOVE OUT if it is that big of a deal to him)

 

i am fully willing to pay for my own shit. i can't because i don't have a car to get to my job that's 40 minutes away, which pays 10 bucks an hour 40 hours a week for the rest of the summer. i'll def be able to get a job at college, but that doesn't help me now.

because of my scholarship though, for school i'd only have to pay for living expenses,which i can def cover with a job over the semester though.

 

Why don't you just not get caught? If almost every 14 year old can do it I'm pretty sure you can do it too.

 

you have no idea how my parents are. even before the whole pot incident that night, when i came home my mom had literally barricaded the door because she didn't want me coming in that late in the morning, and i had to spend a while convincing her to even let me in the house.

 

Life is a series of trade-offs. Looks like your best bet is to abide by your folks' conditions for continued support. Otherwise you're faced with moving and all that goes with it. So- which would you rather whine about?

 

^this too...

but for real, you talk about not taking this BS deal, but you aren't willing to make sacrifices of your own?

sounds pretty naive to me.

 

Well that's pretty fucked up. Just slap her in the face and tell her your 19 and an adult... No don't really slap her. But try to talk with her.

If she doesn't listen to you just fuckin' move out. It'll be fun.

 

what would you do in this situation?

moving out is clearly an improvement, but a logistical nightmare.
staying here sucks, but it's convenient. but if i stay here basically i'm just gonna be sitting around doing nothing for the next month and a half.

 

You should be careful saying things like this...


You never know, he might just be foolhardy enough to do it!

 

do you plan on moving back into your parents' house every summer and after you graduate?

seriously, if you aren't going to take initiative, there isn't anything else you really can do but suck it up.

and that is all the advice there really is to give, and that is what everyone here will say - i am pretty sure

 

I already did say that...


In my first post.

 

It's just a month and a half! You mean to say you aren't creative or resourceful enough to amuse yourself until the end of summer? How about getting a bike for transportation to and from work and finding a place that's closer to your job? Have you stepped back and looked at this objectively or have you kept marinading in your whine sauce?

 

i'm not sure where you got the idea that i'm a dumbass, but i'm not. i had no reason to expect that she would decide to search through my clothes. that's a fucked up thing to do.

 

no way am i coming back here next summer, that's not a problem. i'm already planning to get an apartment either here, or near my college, next summer.

it's finishing out this summer that's a problem.

 

bike trip to work: 40 miles
bike trip back from work: 40 miles

how am i gonna find a place closer to work? the only way i could see this possibly working out would be if i asked my boss if i could pay him rent and stay at his house and i don't want to impose on him like that.

 

Not any more fucked up than bringing something they want nothing to do with into their home.... and doing so little to secure it. You created your own problem here I think.... you're 19- surely you know of your mom's propensity to search through your stuff...?

 

we never said you were a dumbass but things like:

are making it hard to believe that you arent. just SUCK IT UP. semester starts in a month anyways - you can go with not smoking pot for a little while it seems, too

 

Of course we all knew those details.

It's people like you who give pot smoking a bad name.

 

what do you mean so little to secure it? I keep my shit in a little tin, and then i throw all my stuff into a pocket on my guitar case, which no one would think to even look at because i don't have my amp here so i don't use my guitars. i was planning to come back from brushing my teeth and move all the shit from the jacket to the guitar case, but i didn't want to go to the bathroom, change into pajamas and still leave a jacket on because that's even more sketchy. obviously i would have been fucked either way if she's willing to search though.