What makes people click?

Yeah, the prudes would be kicked to the side by me quite fast.
I've never dated a girl that was insensitive but have a feeling I'd be hooked until I got sick of it. I'd give the hypothetical relationship a couple of months and a lot of remorse. (And I always wonder how my girl friends let it happen to them )

 

I think most of my friends are very different from me. One of my best friends, Vicki, is a Christian. We're opposites. I don't think I'm friends with anyone because we have things in common. There are more things we don't have in common than do. Vicki is 51, married, and has grown children. But I'm friends with her because she's kind and she accepts me for who I am. She like a second mom. She's a good person, and we always have something to talk about.
One of my work friends, Judith, I haven't known long, just a few months, but I like her 'cause she's got balls. She speaks her mind. She's always so nice and very respectful. (For instance, she called in sick one day and I was expected to stay over 2 hours because of it. The next day she let me go home at 10 and stayed to 12 for me since I worked for her the night before. Very sweet. ) I don't have much in common with her either, aside from working together, but I think having things in common isn't always important. Chemistry is what counts, and I would consider chemistry 'getting along well,' whatever the reason for it.

 

I click with a certain type of honesty that says that someone isn't trying to impress or be something they're not... and at the same time civil and respectful- person to person eye contact. It adds up to respect and class. There are a number here that seem to have that- of course the personal contact facet is missing but I get a sense of who a person is by posting back and forth and through the occasional PM and I am drawn to some folks.

 

I've been with exactly ONE insensitive woman. We had the greatest sex, multiple orgasms and so on. But after a month I had enough.

The funny thing is we both loved each other. To tears. Literally. We were both hurt, but that's one of the things that make people click to get back to the original topic:

sensitivity levels. I'm mushy and it's impossible for me to be with someone who's not.

 

The more I think about this, the more I realize, as sweet as she is, I think my girlfriend coul definitely be considred insensitive in ways.

I am certainly way mushier than her. I'm basically a chilled out version of the stereotypical girl.
I carry about the phone when she's suppossed to call, get bothered if I miss a call. Write her poetry. Do sweet things for Valentine's Day.

My girlfriend is a kinder sweeter version of a stereotypical guy.
She recognizes my need to hear her voice and keeps up with the phone calls, but wouldn't mind if we spaced out the calls a couple of days. She reads my poetry and tells me it's sweet; she doesn't seem to actaully care other than the fact that I did it. Valentine's Day is just another day; one she happens to get treated a bit special on.
I even react way more to movies (except The Notebook, I thought it was lame and she cried).


So, I guess for me, it's not so much the sensitivity (or how it's dealt with); but more the general kindness of a person.

 

A bit to add, I'll know in the first few moments if I'll get along with someone. Every other "message" aside, thats the one that never fails...

What it is specifically? A twinkle in the eye?

Duno, impossible to explain but easy to recognize...

 

Aw, Duck - she better treat you right. You're an awesome guy.

 

Lol. I am not hooked on cuddling yet. I just cant.

 

depends on what the're cliquing on i would imagine.

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Im the biggest softie ever. I want to cuddle all day.

 

I'm not a cuddler or a hand holder. It irritates me if a guy tries to keep doing either. I mean like I had one bf that tried to hold my hand all the time, and because of that I have a habit of keeping my hands in my pockets....and if I don't have pockets I pick at my fingernails just so my hands can't be held. haha Oh and I will cuddle for about five minutes max. I just need my own space.

I just realized that my best friends and I share very little in common.

 

I think you get into cuddling when you meet the right cuddler for you, ahaha

 

I doubt it. Even when I was a kid and my parents would try to hold me, or cuddle with me while watchin Winnie the Pooh - I would push them away. haha

 

TreeHugger, wanna come over and watch a movie? Snuggle on the couch under a blanket and do fondue?

 

haha sure. As long as there is a bit of space between us - I'm good. I don't want you taking advantage of me. :tongue:

 

Damn

 

I took the OP as referring to friends in general. As for women, it's most definitely a look which catches my eye but I have yet to click with any that I'm attracted to.

 

I dont cuddle. I want to but I cant. Its too personal.

 

Well I'll cuddle for five minutes. :tongue:

 

Scooooore! I dont like sleeping by myself.