What Makes One A Loser?

"Loser" is just something other people pin on you. You've got your own two eyes to see out of. Don't even think twice about bullshit like that.

 

Totally giving up on life & blaming everyone but yourself for your lack of success/happiness is what I see as loserdom.....I mean, many people have been there man (certainly when you are you are young and have certain issues)..just keep fighting & keep an open mind about how to change your situation and you can probably move forward. Many of the wisest, most successful, determined, compassionate people have been through all kinds of fucked up shit & ultimately come out the other side smilng. Chin up buddy, it could be a lot worse!

 

has anyone said spelling it as "looser" as the main symptom of a loser?

 

the fantasy that winning or losing are states of being.
also trusting anything that wishes to be feared enough to elect a mafia don to the most powerful office on the planet.
or simply hating logic, and then wondering why the universe is always picking on you.

 

The definition of a loser.......

 

I hate to say this, but honestly, I feel the biggest losers in life are those who have all the answers strait away. They sit in their house, with their kids, their wife makes the dinner, they pay their bills. saturday night comes and they watch the latest version of "reality tv". probably like celebrity fly fishing or something. they are 25

to me, they have already lost so much. so many opportunities wasted. all in good time my friend.

 

I think I feel better about my life now.

I have had a good job now for nearly 14 months, my student loans are nearly half ways paid down (I had 60k!), I'm still doing my side passion that I make some money for at a pretty productive amount (that is, my music, playing in orchestras, etc). I've been losing weight lately, about 10 lbs in the last month, and I had already lost and kept off about 60 lbs.

Things are going mostly well. I did just have another string of unsuccessful attempts at dating. I was seeing a girl for a while, but broke up with her because she wasn't taking the relationship seriously, and I had some chances with some other girls, but I both backed out of it and I also got passed on by some other women. The most unsuccessful part of my life right now is social/dating. I do still have a small but good group of friends, and I have a support group and family around me who care. I just can't seem to find love, but I've officially given up on that. After these last attempts, I have gotten rid of my online dating apps and all that, and I haven't asked a woman out in two months or so, and I don't plan on doing it ever again. I'm OK with where I am at, and I've accepted loneliness and sexual frustration (although nothing masturbating here and there can't alleviate) as just the downsides of my otherwise great life.

 

The grass always looks greener in the next field, but when you get there and look back it then looks greener in the field that you left behind.
I am sure that you know guys who got married to the wrong woman, or simply to young and children benefit from mature parents. It would be great if you could get a job that involved music, even if the pay was not too good at first, since you would be good at your work, making you more likely to get promotion.
To me, a looser is a person who has never developed any skills and/or drowns his sorrows in alcohol or drugs. Just think of Rachmaninoff. He became depressed with his life and was convinced that he would never write another note. The cloud lifted and his opus 18 piano concerto was born. Listen to his feeling poring out in the slow movement, then look forward to your opus !.

 

If you play me on a pool table you're gonna be a loser.

 

I'd take you up on a game of pool...I'm not too shabby myself.

 

0o0o0 them sounds like fighting words! I'm ranked top 100 in my state.

 

I knew you're pretty good...I used to be, esp. the more beer I drank, the better I played!
But it's been a while, you'd likely clean me up. hehe...
I would enjoy a game if we were a few hundred miles closer. I love playing pool but nobody to play with these days, and we don't have one here at home anymore.

 

"What makes one a loser?" - - when one stops trying. Though no one is an all around loser.

 

It's been about two months for me since the summer league finished and we don't play again until early next year. I really should be practicing by now and getting into focus so I will soon enough. I just need the spur, I don't feel like, if I don't have pool on my mind then I won't practice well and not practicing well will just reinforce bad mechanics and I do myself worse. Every day I sink one ball when I'm getting a drink out of the garage. Sometimes it is one shot, sometimes it is 6 or 7. Which pisses me off and that's it's own problem, some ok waiting for the correct opportunity where I'm confident and I'm enjoying pool.

 

Great update, thanks for sharing. Hey, A loser is one who treats others like shit, and lacks self respect. It doesn't matter what you have or don't have- that doesn't matter. And the right girl will eventually come along, it always happens when you stop looking.

 

People who don't take care of their damn kids, yet are constantly trying to convince other people that they're the world's best parents (aka "Full-time Mommy" on Facebook with 8,000 selfies/snapshots of them at a bar with their friends).

 

It's understandable...I am guilty of this with playing guitar...sometimes I spend more time online reading tips / watching youtube vids on others playing, when I should be playing.
But I've learned a lot of things that way too.
Enough that if I ever build my own (soon), it's gonna be a killer setup...but because of that, will not be the best looking guitar. I've found that using old hardwood out of a barn and finishing with Tung Oil gives a very long sustain! But it won't look very professional. But that's okay with me.

 

Posting on Hip Forums is probably a sign

 

At least it's better than 8,000 selfies of them in a bar doing shots with their kids