What is your definiton of Bi?

Yeah, I agree that it shouldn’t be that complicated. I’m definitely not in denial of my bisexuality but don’t know if I’m eligible to wear that label. I’m just not sure if I’m truly bi. I only have feelings for women but can definitely appreciate a good looking penis and man ass.

 

"Feelings" are different from sexual behavior, and bisexual behavior does not necessarily mean having biamorous feelings.

 

But bisexuality can include those feelings; it's not all about the sex but it's the more well-known aspect of bisexuality.

 

Yes, people who engage in any type of sexual activity can have amorous feelings or not.

Many married men who repeatedly have sex with other men defensively claim that they are not bisexual because they do not have amorous feelings for their male partners. In reality, all they can really claim is that they are not bi-AMOROUS. Bisexuality just means that you engage in sex with men and women, whether or not you happen to have amorous feelings for them.

Similarly, men who only THINK about having sex with both women and other men are bicurious at best, because they are not involved in actual sex. Once they start getting it on with men and women, they are then involved in bisexual behavior. And, if they graduate from having amorous thoughts about both men and women to actual amorous behavior, then they are the involved in bi-amorous behavior.

Let me put this in basic behavioral terms. When you go to a STD clinic, the working definition of bisexual is having actual sex with both men and women. Being bisexual for a very long time, on the occasions when I've gone to a STD clinic, I just tell the clinic workers the truth. The subject of feelings never even comes up. They want to know about my sexual behaviors, not whether I "self-identify" as straight or bi.

I never went through a bicurious stage, because I was seduced by a man before I ever even seriously thought about it. I don't regret that a bit. I started having sex with both men and women, and soon a no-BS clinic worker explained that this sexual BEHAVIOR is called bisexuality.

 

Well, no - clinicians don't care if you were in love with the guys you had sex with - did you have sex with them and how did y'all do it? Let's draw some blood and would you mind peeing in this cup? Cool. Just a little pinch... and would you mind opening your mouth so I can swab the inside of it? Thanks.

And you're right; a lot of guys who have sex with guys will tell you that they feel nothing but lust for them and... they're not always telling the truth about that but I get it since for as long as I can remember, if you have romantic feelings for a guy, um, that means you're gay. It's bullshit, of course, but a lot of guys... in 2025... believe that tired-assed lie that was created to protect one's masculinity. "I'm not attracted to men" means that one isn't attracted to men like they are to women - and that one's even way older than I am - to which I say, "Who says you have to be?".

You like men. You like women. You have sex with both, and you can be romantic with women and men if that's how you're feeling. The medical profession really doesn't care if you love one, the other, or both; if you're having sex with men, you need to be routinely checked out and that's that. But when you leave your checkup with a bandage on your arm and your bladder emptied, how do you feel about your FWB, hmm? And does it matter to anyone other than yourself how you feel about him?

If you have feelings for a guy that isn't just lust, it's okay and does not ever make you any less of a bisexual... but, again, it's the sex that people pay the most attention to.

 

To me it's all about the sex. I don't have to have love or emotional attachment to the person I'm having sex with. I've have sex with who I could hardly stand to be around but the sex with them was great. I have sex with a male friend and it's great also. Heterosexuals enjoy sex only with the opposite sex. Homosexuals enjoy sex only with the same sex. Bisexuals like me enjoy sex with both sexes.

 

I love to have sex with both men and women .

 

I don't (define it). Haven't given the issue much thought. You (royal "You") can fool around with anyone (consenting, legal, adult and willing) you like. Gender is irrelevant unless it isn't to you. The only opinions that count are those involved.

As Seneca put it: “We suffer more in our imagination more often than in reality.”

 

I define (pure] homosexuality as only desire for sex with your same gender. I define bisexuality as desire for sex with either/both/all genders equally.

I'd say I am bi leaning towards gay. I like sex with women but my desires and fantasies are exclusively MM. Especially me sucking cock, being penetrator and swallowing all the cum I can get. Any F in my fantasy is there to get turned on watching or telling me what to do to the other guy or him to me.

I don't know if we're born certain way, buy I believe our early sexual experiences mold us. They did me.

 

After my wife became ill and sex came to a halt, her recovery was premier, however I was left on the sidelines sexually and she knew it. We have always been mature and open about sexuality and it eventually led to a bi experience.
It was a cool experience and even shared with my wife watching. While I did it and would probably do it again, Im still addicted to the desire for women.

 

By definition, bisexual is not "penis only".
All kinds of men have an attraction to a good clean dick. They look awesome, but they can't bring themselves to possibly find the man attached to it attractive and sure as hell not cuddle/kiss etc. And could never feel romance like they feel for women. By definition - they are not bisexual.
They are heterosexual with a cock fetish, which is pretty damn common.

 

I refer to myself as "just straight of bi." I think everyone has a preference. You either like Coke or Pepsi. Even if you can get down with both and enjoy it plenty, everyone's going to have a slight default. So, I define bi as someone who could date and hook up with a member of any gender with unequivocal emotional attachment and lust. That's why I don't consider myself bi. I'd never feel the same emotional connection to a man, and it would really depend on the individual if they have a different gender but still a penis. And even just for the purposes of hooking up, I'm still much more circumspect with anyone who has a penis. I need to feel a lot more comfortable with the person based on already knowing them or trusting them for some reason, or if the circumstance and mood is just right. With a cis-woman, I still have things that make me more or less attracted to an individual but it's not as hard a line when it comes to just fooling around. And to me, I could go out right now and suck 500 dicks and shove them up my ass (hey, that sounds like fun actually...) but it would be audacious and foolhardy for me to say I was bisexual when I know in my heart of hearts, I could never feel the same way about those guys or 90% of trans females or N/Bs as I would toward a cis-woman.

 

I have always identified as bi-sexual. In the first few years I had sex as a teenager it was with males and females. I always knew that I would get married and have kids (which I did and have 2 boys and 4 grandkids).

So I say that I am a hetero-sexually practing bi-sexual. Happily, faithfully married for 38+ years.

 

I'm Bisexual because I enjoy both Hetro and Gay sex. Simple.

 

Agreed.

I came to this thread wondering what the consensus was if having sex with a trans women is considered a bisexual act.

Please don't respond to me on the above. I am not coming back to this thread.

 

I've always understood it to be a sexual orientation (just like straight or gay/lesbian), not a description of lifestyle or behavior. It you are sexually attracted to both men and women, you are bi - regardless of who you are having sex with at any given time. Even if you are not having sex at all, you know whether you are straight, gay/lesbian, or bisexual.

 

I've had sex with numerous partners of both sexes, mostly women. I love both sexes but lately I prefer men. I'd definitly say I'm bi.

 

I think there are some shades of gray here as well. Or maybe gradients. My former neighbor at some point became my first FWB. Loved me. Considers herself heterosexual. Loves to suck cock, give handjobs and get herself a nice long fuck. She ALSO likes to receive oral but from both men AND women. And she loves to give oral to both men AND women. When it comes to giving to a woman, she is fascinated by the look, feel and taste of a pussy. Wants nothing to do with the partners boobs or ass or anything else, especially kissing or being kissed. And she doesn't want a woman playing with her boobs. But she gets wet thinking about eating pussy or watching anyone....man or woman...spread her legs and go down on her. Her very best friend has a husband who simply refuses to go down so my FWB visits now and then so that she can give oral satisfaction. Sadly, that woman doesn't like pussy so I get the "job" of going down on her when she's finished and is squirmy. It's better than masturbation. I say, she's BI. She flat out denies it. Says she isn't even curious. She just likes giving oral to either sex and getting oral from either sex. I her mind, it's just satisfaction and a tongue is a tongue. She'll tell you straight out that she just doesn't mind pussy but has no particular preference. She'll eat pussy or suck cock. Just loves oral. I still say she's BI. What's everyone's thoughts here?

 

I'm not surprised that she'd categorically deny that she's bisexual because social engineering shit has convinced many a person that unless you're in a loving relationship with someone who is the same sex as you are, then you're not bisexual. As such, if she loves giving and getting oral from men and women, in her mind, she's not bi... because what she's doing is just sex. That same social engineering bullshit would have you believe that just like heterosexuality, the only sex that you're allowed to have is relationship sex, that you cannot and should not ever just have sex with someone to be having it, that you should be more about the person themselves than what they have between their legs or "hearts, not parts." Indeed, a lot of guys catch a raft of shit because they like dick... but not the guy it's attached to in that way or, it is presumed and being put out there that if you're really bisexual, then you'd have sex with men the same way you'd have sex with women and vice versa for the ladies and...

...that's not how it really works. If you believe the current definition of bisexual, you're being misled and it's been defined by people who, interestingly enough, aren't bisexual - but they're operating on the same misconceptions that have been around for as long as I can remember. The definition I learned - and the one I will always stick to - is "having an affinity for both men and women, either physically, emotionally, or both." Even at the age I was when I stumbled across this definition from a dictionary, I took it to mean that if I liked to have sex with guys, that was fine and that I didn't have to be like the one gay guy in our cadre who liked boys like girls liked boys - but it was okay for me to like girls physically and emotionally so, okay, let's go with that and see how it works.

Giving that I do not buy into the way bisexuality is being looked at and defined all that much, I would say that the woman you're talking about is, in fact, bisexual - and with emphasis on the sexual part... and not unlike how a lot of guys are about it. But this is how society and our social norms have mindfucked everyone into believing that you can only be bisexual when you're romantic with someone who is the same sex as you are - and you will note that I did not use the word "gender" - this word did not exist in the definition until 'recently'.

It's the same as a straight guy who likes having sex with other guys but if you asked him about his sexuality, he'd tell you that he's straight and that he's romantic with women and not with men and since he's not romantic with men, there's no way in hell he can be bisexual - and it sounds like she's saying the same thing. No kissing, no playing with the boobs? Not unusual from where I'm sitting but, yeah, I'd still say she was bisexual and I wouldn't even argue the point with her because it's also and always about what makes you sleep easy at night regarding sex and sexuality. No romantic interest? That means I'm heterosexual.

No, it doesn't... but if it makes you feel better about what you're doing - and also to avoid the gay label - then, okay - handle your bizness...

 

Bi is just a prefix meaning two. What matters is the action word that follows that prefix:

Bisexual refers to people who engage in sexual activity with both men and women.

Biamorous refers to people are attracted to both men and women as romantic or erotic lovers.

Bicycle is a means of transportation with two wheels.

So, for example. I started out being strictly bisexual, meaning I liked to have sex with both men and women. But then I found out I could fall in love with both men and women, and realized I was also biamorous.

Later I found out that riding my bicycle with others was a great way to meet bisexual AND biamorous people.