What if................

i definatley agree with you. i know what it was like when i was that young, that's all the older guys ever went after young virgins. it's not surprising that men still have not evolved.

 

she was taken advantage of by some "kid" claiming he was drunk, so it's ok for her to continue because that will happen in her life at some point anyway.....?????yeah great advice, hey why don't you go out and get raped it's going to happen any way eventually.isn't it ridiculous.

 

See what you're doing is taking something that I said and making it sound extreme.
In what part of my post did I say it was ok to get molested/raped? Did you even take the time to read my other posts regarding this matter?

That was a reply to a user named "Duck" and it basically means to not be afraid of getting hurt emotionally. You can't live life being afraid to take chances. Just to be careful and smart about it.

I suggest you read my posts again and understand the real meaning of them, instead of quoting me and making it sound like something it's not.

 

you know i find most of your posts to be very helpful but god forbid someone have a disrepency about what you write, i am entitled to my oppinions, assumptions, and my mistakes, so don't get your balls in a fuckin tizzy and relax......

 

What do you mean they aren't right for you?
Do you believe this, or is this just what other people believe?

Only YOU know what's right for you... don't ever let anyone tell you who to love.

If you feel they aren't right for you... that's a different story.

 

Andy's friends hate me even though they've nver met him and one of my former close friends dislikes him for a stupid reason. I really think it's just jealousy bcause for once in my life I feel beautiful without all that armour (make-up and designer digs) on and am the happiest I have been since like high school.
Basically I could give a shit what my friend thinks and I am very polite to his friend, perhaps overly nice but that's just because I feel secure in knowing if it came down to it he'd always take my side.
don't let each other's friends fuck things up. If you guys do then take it as a learning experience that if he can't have your back now what's going to happen when you really need him to with larer problems?

 

also, what do you mean about the not right part? Do you feel comftrable around him?

 

no i dont.. lol

 

who do you feel comfortable around?

 

Always trust your insticts.

 

NEVER go out with someone you arne't comfortable with

shouldn't logic tell you that?

 

then end it. trust your instincts. I was in a long relationship with a guy and for some reason I would flinch whenever he went to touch me and I got freaked when he drank a lot, felt so uncomftrable around him tot he point I would get sick to my stomach and spend the whole time he was home from work throwing up int he bathroom. I had no idea why other than things didn't feel right when we were together in person.

After about a year and a half into things he physically assaulted me and my initial instincts were totally right and I kicked myself for not listening to them.
never go against that instinct

 

I am not even close to being upset and I don't have my balls in a fuckin tizzy .

Believe it or not, I enjoy it when people have different opinions as mine... that's what makes the forums interesting. I just don't see anything wrong with trying to prove your point... especially when you're telling me to go out there and get raped haha.

It probably sounded harsh, but all I was doing was suggesting that you read my posts again to see that u got the wrong idea. That's all

 

sorry

 

this the matter of the two ppl
if they are in love, nothing can really matter

 

Nothing to be sorry about

 

Ahh a hopeless romantic.
That's sweet and all, but incredibly naive.

I'm insanely idealistic when it comes to just about everything except romantic relationships...
Love is wonderful and powerful...the most powerful of emotions, really---

But, love is NOT the only thing that matters in relationships.
You can trust me on this one.



However, that's completely unrelated to the OP.
Being comfortable with someone, can sometimes take time... I don't think that a situation like this is so incredibly black and white as it seems everyone thinks...

Take your time, sleep on it, feel it...and then make an appropriate decision. Don't let anyone sway you, from what you think and feel is best for YOU.

 

That's true. A relationship can't survive on love alone... there are so many things that come into play to make it work.

 

it may prevent being messed up more. but pain from things ending with a loved one is the worst.

 

hmmm...have you ever had the needs of two people you love come into conflict? talk about painful...