What if................

He wants to have sex with a virgin. He got you drunk in order to make that happen and to also provide himself with an excuse if he went to far. I know you want to romanticize it but there it is. You already know what you should do.

 

no that is you because you are young and inexperienced and don't know any better


the wise person learns from other's mistakes
learn from other girl's mistakes
do not trust guys that like him

don't let him fool you again:
fool me once - shame on you
fool me twice - shame on me

 

my friend talked to him last night and he says he so sorry and he doesnt know what happened and that he hopes i can forgive him because thats not what hes really like and he didnt want me thinking that.... he said that he will just drop it because he knows i was upset and he didnt want that...

should i take him back and spend time with him when we arent drinking...

should i say to him that its just best to be friends and keep it that way

......

 

The thing is, there is no way of knowing how drunk he really was and that is definietly the way to approach some1 you love.

I am 19, and it doesn't take a genius to know that touching a girl while she's drunk on the sofa is not a way to get into that girl's heart, it's a way to get into that girl's pants.

I suppose you could try talking to him, talking never hurts. Just remember that you can't believe everything people tells you. Especially not a 19 year old ... I would know

And yeah, only talk to him while you are both sober. Bad things happen when you are not thinking right. You know this by now.

 

thanks... next time i see him i will tell him... i hope it goes well

 

go for it.
your 15... you have time to experience and take chances.
if it doesnt work... then you will learn.
who cares what people think.
love rules over everything. its the best feeling in the world.
peace

 

I meant "that is definetely NOT the way to approach some1 you love" by the way...

lol, Good luck!

 

sadly, this sort've mentality is the one that gets you hurt the worst.

 

We all get hurt at some point in our lifes and there is nothing you can do about it.
Just enjoy life and don't worry about things so much. You can't live your life being scared of something that's gonna happen either way.
Joy wouldn't feel so good without pain.

 

no point in running to the pain when you can take a quick sidestep, miss it, and go straight to the good

and I conmpeltley disagree with that - wouldn't feel so good without the pain

sure, life is relative - but pleasure is pleasure

 

Nah foo' you take things way too seriously. You need to worry only bout the things that you have control over and let the rest take its course.
You can probably "sidestep" a couple of times, but it'll happen sooner or later, we all have our bad moments. It's in the bad moments, not the good ones, when you can see who you are and measure yourself.
You can't pass a test unless you get tested... and it's the bad moments when we get tested. If there was no such contrast, life would be obsolete.

Living life trying to avoid pain is like getting into a pool trying to avoid getting wet.

 

...thanks.. im still not sure what to do exactly though

 

more like walking through the rain and trying not to get wet
but the least you can do - is avoid the puddles

it's true that bad can be quite good, and that they stand as moments of truth of sort
but bad is still bad
and yes, bad is going to come anyway
but that shows all the more that you should avoid the bad that you can
and that way you can be ready for the bad that is inescapable

 

in the end, you have to do what is right for you

but if you do go for him
be very cautious

 

Like I said before, you only have to worry about the things that you have control over, and everything else will just take its own course.

You can't control his intentions, or how much he drinks, or how he talks, but you can control what you say, and what you do and how you react.

If you think on your feet at all times and you do what you think it's right then everything else will turn out ok.

 

so how does it prevent future upset if you`re already inlove, and going to end things.

the heart is a fragile thing.

 

it doesn't. but sometimes the heart will heal and you'll still prevent yourself from doing something you would have to pay dearly for...for the rest of your life. sometimes wisdom consists of knowing what will cause the most pain in the long run. it's up to the individual to measure that though.

 

if i see him sat im gunna talk to him then.. what should i say? :hysterica

 

Ask him why he would do such a thing to you? and tell him that it was pretty messed up.
Ask him what he feels for you, but pay attention to his body language when he gives you the answer.
There are several things people do when they lie, they are called "microgestures". At first it's hard to recognize them but they can be used to tell when a person is being honest or not.

For example, make sure that he's looking at you the whole time. If he says "I like/love you" but he looks away then he might be lying. If he starts stuttering or bitting his lip, or does something different when he answers you, that could also mean he's lying.

Don't tell him you like him right away. Play hard to get as much as possible... .

 

good idea im going t try that thanks 4 ur help