What does it feel like for a women to have an ORGASM ?

Come on girls and guys !!!

There has to be a female out there that has experienced what my orgasmic girlfriend experienced - what I am specifically looking for is what I call very intense orgasm with a sporadically convulsing vagainal barrel muscles and a large amount of what initially appears to be sweat all over their body !!!

So do read my post again and if that is you exactly, please feel free to respond !!!

http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=265511&page=10&pp=10

GB.

 

I'm patient ...

Well its painfully obvious that the orgasm that I'm looking for is indeed very rare.

Common you guys lift your game !!!

Stop watching porn and start reading books !!

Reading is knowledge - knowledge is power !!!

I wonder if I will ever find what I am looking for ?

 

I've been looking at other posts in this topic area, and I noticed some sensational headings, I think we all need to take a long hard look at what orgasm really is, because the feeling I'm getting is just to have an orgasm is very rare indeed, let alone a real intense orgasm.

I think the first thing women and men need to understand is what an orgasm is !

How many of you out there know what a real orgasm is ?

If you have never had an orgasm well how do you know that you have actually had one ?

I think too many people are confused by terms like multible orgasms, clit' orgasm, vaginal orgasm or whole body orgasms.

As far as I know there is only one real type of orgasm, forget about these terms, you have either had an orgasm or not.

Maybe you got to the what they call the "plateau" or maybe even the threshold of orgasm, but that is not orgasm.

This idea of squirting Is strange to me, I think people have been watching too many pornos.

Because mostly the squirt is just water or urine.

I'm not saying that squirting is not real, just very rare.

(I'm aware of the Skeens Gland so I'm not going to say it is impossible.)

I think most people need to aim for just a gentle orgasm before they get unrealistic ideas about "squirting" and all this other nonsense.

 

Well I have just about given up in finding an experience that was similar to something that I experienced once.

Intense Orgasm R.I.P

 

Ill bet it feel like GOOD though.......

 

Yeah it was definatly a one off.

I don't think I can re-experience something of that intensity again.

I can even remember thinking along those lines at the time.

 

I imagine a person who anticipates disappointment might have a self-fulfilling prophecy going, and in turn be a disappointing lover. Every person you make love to is an individual. Lovemaking should be approached with openness and spontaneity. Having a preconceived notion of exactly what an orgasm should look, sound, and feel like is probably going to have an inhibiting affect on a partner....or a thread.

 

Women clearly can have multiple orgasms, while we guys just get one, with six to nine ejaculations on average, then we have to wait some minutes until we are ready to go again. Some women I have been with have had thirty+ separate G Spot orgasms in one session, each one having several orgasmic contractions. Exhausting, but memorable, if you can reach that plateau.
---The G Spot Master

 

Well if all of the women that I have been with had never had an orgasm I would indeed believe you.

"Lovemaking should be approached with openness and spontaneity. "

I agree with this statement.

"Having a preconceived notion of exactly what an orgasm should look, sound, and feel like is probably going to have an inhibiting affect on a partner....or a thread"

I have been on the end of a womens orgasm, so I think I am qualified to write what one is like.

If the truth offends people because they have never had one that is there problem, the whole point of this thread is to enlighten people on what is the truth, and what is not.

Its hard to believe that envy and jealousy are not some how involved in some of the responses I have had in this thread.

I don't want women to be mislead into thinking that orgasm is easily obtained, because from what I know this is certainly not the case.

To achieve orgasm of a high intensity is no easy task for the majority of women for whatever reason, it could be because of one of the partners, or both.

From what I can gather its not because she is not physically able to have an orgasm, its to do with the mind, that is the key to unlocking a womens potential to achieve orgasm.

The trend today seems to be that a percentage of women are having women as lovers, now one would have to sit and wonder why this is ?

 

From what I know myself, women don't really have multible orgasms, its the same orgasm that is prolonged by affective and constant foreplay that keeps them in the orgasmic state for extended periods of time.

When one of my partners had this highly intense orgasm, it took approximately 7+ hours to get there, and that is continuous foreplay for a prolonged amount of time (no penetration, until the onset of orgasm) only when she was close to orgasm did she then allow me to insert my penis.

When you are at a heightened state of arousal you are not the least bit tired.

This is a strange and true phenomena.

 

You know... I just finished reading all 15 pages of this thread. I've got to say it has been quite interesting. Lots of good points and experiences have been brought up along the way.

A lot of the descriptions were quite erotic just to read! Never mind experiencing the actual thing!!

I'm also very interested in finding out what a female orgasm is like from description. It would be perfect if there was some kind of formula that could be repeated every time to give the same results, but I just don't think that is the case (from what I've read/experienced so far).

I think the main point of Ben's thread so far has been an effort to compile many different women's experiences so that he (and others) can have a rough idea on what is generally effective or not.

Of course, its always best to ask your partner these questions to get the most specific information on how to please them, buut... listening to many different experiences and finding similarities between them (if there are any) would definitely be helpful at least in my case (my girlfriend is about as new to all this as me, so its hard to talk with her about what she likes when she doesn't know yet!).

I think its out of love/good intentions that Ben wants to find out what pleases women in general so that he can both become a better partner and help newbies like me

This thread has been pretty reassuring to read though. I was pretty upset the other day because I was thinking back trying to figure out if my girlfriend had an orgasm (of some kind) and couldn't find a clear example. After reading some of the ladies' posts in this thread I'm pretty sure that my girlfriend has had some, even one pretty intense one!

For me, I was upset thinking about my girlfriend not having and orgasm because I'd like to know shes enjoying sex as much as I am. After reading the thread I'm sure that she is (nearly) at that point, and probably with a bit more time and experimentation (alone and with me!) we can have that amazing experience that Ben described.

After all, how would the ladies feel if after sex the guy didn't ejaculate (ever, even after dozens of sexual experiences)? I think its only natural that it would concern a guy especially if that guy didn't know what a female orgasm was like!

 

"Thank you snipez !" it's nice to hear a positive post !!

I have learnt some things that I'm sure do work, and that is foreplay with my hands, it seems to have a cathartic affect on women it not only relaxes them but also arouses them, and I think prolonged and affective stimuli of the entire body is very important, most men are just too eager to get that cock in there, (even me ) I think one really needs to be very patient.

The reward for patience and affective foreplay over a long period time is one hell of an orgasm that will really rock your world, like you never imagined !!

You have to tease them over a long period of time gentely caressing them for hours on end, I know for the aching arms and shoulders that the foreplay was long and drawn out and you have to be so gentle with your hands.

I kept kissing her mouth and kissing her around the neck and ears ever so gently.

Also it was a moonlight nite which also means it was close to when she would menstruate every month.

I know she was more than wet in the vagina but i just kept teasing her for hours and hours ...

Armed with this knowledge you should be able to achieve it.

Make sure she's not overly tired physically or mentally.

 

I'm quite drunk tonight ...

If your taking some one home tonight whether it be your GF or some one you picked up, be really gentle, when you make love to them, women are so precious as is life.

Your born into this world, which as far as we know is just one life time.

Live every moment like its your last.

When you make love to a women realise that you are going to die one day and life is so precious, cherish your partner as you would have her cherish you.

Ones body is one thing their mind another, getting what you want is up to that partner, if hes/she is ignorant, selfish, insensitive or arrogant you won't get what you want, and neither will he/she.

For a women to achieve orgasm is no easy task for a man, the hurdles are many, not only yourself but also the women/girl, like they say it takes two to tango.

I think for a man to be a good lover he not only has to be attractive to the opposite sex he has to want the partner to experience orgasm and know what to do to achieve it, and then there is the partner and her own baggage.

So you can imagine some of the problems that one is up against when one tries to stimulate a women to orgasm.

It's not hard for me to understand why most women don't have an orgasm.

The only reason I even bothered stimulating a women to orgasm is because of curiosity.

I don't think most people ever sit down and ponder a human beings mind and realise just how complex and wonderful it really is.

It's this mind with its immense complexity and power that must be aroused and stimulated.

Everything you say and do is being perceived and processed by a womens mind, her mind is more perceptive than a mans, her periferal vision is superior to ours, her ability decipher our body language is better than ours.

So what hope do we have of evading her radar ?

I'm may never know what it is that makes the difference between a women being orgasmic and not being orgasmic.

I have some theories.

I think negative body image is one of them.

Primary sexual dysfunction.

Dyspareunia:

Poor stimulation or no stimulations leads to uncomfortable or painful sexual intercourse.

Vaginismus:

Sexual trauma (rape, sexual molestation, etc) cause a serious psycho-sexual problem, that manifests itself as locked vaginal barrel.

Secondary sexual dysfunction.

What a person thinks of their own body is so important because that affects performance, in a womens case it affects whether they are able to "let go" this letting go (from what I have been lead to believe and my own theoretical assumptions) is not something you do physically, its letting go psychologically or perhaps emotionally.

In a guy he can't get it up.

If one stimulates the body effectively and for long enough orgasm I believe is inevitable, the barrier I belive is the psych' barrier "those negative thoughts about ones own body" or whatever is causing one to not be able to have an orgasm, until these things are resolved orgasm is not possible or very difficult to achieve.

If you were constantly told that touching your genitals is "evil", "dirty" or some how perverted or not good or wholesome or whatever it may some how psychologically block orgasm.

I also believe the media (t.v, pornography, womens magazines, etc ) cause secondary sexual dysfunction.

Haven't we all heard it - oh my tits are too big, too small, one is smaller than the other, I don't like the shape of my tits, etc.

Stretch marks, I'm too fat, too flabby, too skinny, too tall, too short, my ass looks fat in those jeans etc, etc, etc.

Most people are not perfect, and also understand why your worrying about yourself they guy is worrying about his cock, his hairy back, "his" fat ass, his pot guts, and his sexual performance.

At the end of the day what does it matter.

Your with whoever you are with, make the most of it, and try to understand each other and the bigger picture.

 

Has anyone done anythng different recently, be nice to hear from anyone that has decided to do something different.

 

OH SHIT Ben!!!! You just got verbally RAPED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lady of the Freaks GRILLED your ass!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :hysterica :hah33: arty: Sorry this is coming so l8(thats what she said)but I just read this all now.

 

LOLololololololololololol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :spam: :jester: :jester:

 

my body goes tingly and numb,and my eyes become glassy.

 

That's probably because testosterone increases as they get older.

Also they may feel more comfortable with a women as they get older.

 

Wow ! - you say so much with so little, about something so wonderful.



Your living proof that one can describe orgasm simply and effectivly.

 

Way back then, you only mark my losses and not my wins.

Anyway this is not about jealousy, its about self education and enlightenment.

It's OK for her to be that way, we all feel jealousy, its so human.