What does it feel like for a women to have an ORGASM ?

She loves me too much to leave me.

If only you knew.

Its 32 pages isn't it ?

 

Some of the myths about a women having an orgasm.

The room doesn't have to be warm, in fact the room was freeing cold.

Orgasm only from long relationship, not true the best sex I ever had was with a partner that I didn't know that well.

But I did have some strange rapport with her ?

No dildos, no oral sex (me yes, her no) and no kissing.

So to go over old ground, the factors that I think really do help:

No unatural light, only moonlight.

A lot of foreplay over a prolonged period of time. 7+ hours.

Gentle handcaressing of the entire body.

She dominated me not the other way around, so really she is controlling when I entered her.

After hours caressing her and her licking me down there, I developed "lover's balls" in fact it was quite painful at the time, but she wouldn't let me enter, until she was ready.

 

Any more wonderful story's to share with us girls / women ?

 

OMG.

I just read that women can get clitoral nerve damage from a vibrator.

Another good reason I only use my gentle soft hands to caress a women, no nasty toxic bit of plastic or nerve damaging vibrators.

 

Are men in general really interested in getting their partners to orgasm or is it generally true that most only really care about their own sexual needs ?

 

So any new orgasmic experiences since I last visited ?

 

If there were, someone would have posted.

 

Hmm I guess your right Sarahrei !!!

 

To begin with
Heart rate speeds – heart thumping against chest - gently touching and cresting waist upper body etc – then firmly grabbing - letting go – repeat gentle and firm touches – deep uneven breaths – slight murmurings – more light panting – temperature elevates – light underarm sweating - soft whimpering noises – slight stiffening of abdomen and thigh muscles – increase in clit sensitivity – clit grows in wetness – swelling of outer lips – growing ache in lower abdomen – small virginal contractions -

Phase 1 – Floating in the Clouds
Back stiffens and slightly arched – tension all over –– restricted movement – internal aching builds – steady half breaths – dryness of mouth - sweating increases on back, thighs, neck, hair, temple, chest and armpits – clit fully lubricated – lube spreads down inner sides of thighs – heighten pain in thighs, knees and lower legs – full swelling of inner and outer lips - tightening of virginal entry – slow pressure built up of virginal wall – gradual feeling of lightness – floating feeling - mind overwhelmed with current feeling rather then any thoughts

Phase 2 – Free Falling to Earth
Back arches further - decrease in breathing – gentle shortness of breathes – twitching of body – head drifts back – breathing stops - continued pressure build up of virginal wall…… pressure pressure pressurrrreeee..… whole body rigid in current position – occasional short light breaths – strong wave of contractions one after the other – tension holds…..holds holds and holddsssss….. - tension released – body is washed with peaceful blissful feeling … body relaxes as it drifts back to earth – breathing becomes easier and deeper –

Phase 3 – The Aftermath
The senses return with intensity causing involuntary trembling of torso and hands - severe aching feeling in chest like your heart has just been broken - uncontrollable breathing like you’re hyperventilating – this goes on for a few minutes and disappears -


Ok you didn’t say orgasm through sex or not. The description above is not with a partner. I know with a partner this experience will be heightened beyond my comprehension. To think that one day I’ll share something on the level you experienced GentleBen really terrifies me, as you can see how intense it already is for me. But I cant wait either

Ps thanks for sharing your experience… that’s how each encounter should be !

lol and the only way I could possibly tell you this is the fact that I feel anonymous

 

Hey that's cool, if you didn't feel safe you probably wouldn't respond.

Wow what a little gem this post is !!!

The good thing is that you've had an orgasm and that makes it that much easier to have an orgasm with a guy.

Finding the right guy ain't easy I'm sure, you gotta get a guy that turns you on and thinks enough of you to go the hard yard to get you off.

In one of my other threads it shows you the techique I use to get them there, and believe me its no easy feat.

Oh and before I go any further don't worry its all natural you don't have to fear the unknow because its just wonderful and amazing for a guy.

If I felt like I did what the women feels must be out of this world.

And thats putting it very mildly.

I'm sure there is no pain it just pure 100% pleasure beyond your wildest and most erotic dreams.

My biggest dissapointment is the inability to re-experience it again.

I don't think it makes any difference I think an orgasm is an orgasm, you have either had one or not.

I think there is orgasm or nothing, I don't believe in multible orgasms, just one continuous orgasm.

I think a girl/female can have a mild orgasm which is not quite as good for the guy.

I don't belive in clitoral orgasms, I think an orgams is an orgasm, and thats not dimminishing it in any way it really is an incredible experience.
I do believe that orgasm is better if you prolong the foreplay, I think its like a rubber band the more you can pull it back the better and more intense it is.

Some of the astonishing things that I remember is the amount of water on our bodies, I distinctly remember skimming the water off her back and having it splash all over me and looking totally dumbfounded and slightly shocked.

I have no recollection of what happened after she orgasmed because it was like a out of body experience or a state of unconsciessness.

If your fortunate enough in your life to experience it with a guy, you'll feel like your part of your partner not two separate enitiites if you can understand what I mean.

Soul-fusion.

And when you come out of it its so incredibly quiet and peacefull and the feelings you have for your partner are beautiful.

G.B.

 

Well, I am patient waiting for the right guy – I like the idea that the experience can only be heightened with a partner I really connect with. I like the way you described the feeling as ‘soul fusion’ – sounds so incredibility intense and wonderful. May I just add I also love the way you put this - “I remember thrashing my head from side to side with the almost unbearable pleasure” I hope I get the chance to make my partner feel like that - repeatedly. That would be most excellent !! lol

Don’t be dismayed about reproducing that experience again - I’m sure you will. You have tasted paradise and once someone has tasted it – there is no going back. You will spend the rest of your life seeking it until you reach nirvana, and really - should it be any other way ?

The knowledge that you have built up about the topic is significant, which can only be beneficial to you. Remember each female is different – so maybe it’s about adjusting the formula to suit your current partner. Look at it like an experiment – repeat what you do but each time change an element – take note and see if it was better or worse – make adjustments, one element at a time so you know what is working and is not. Thomas Edison conducted thousands of experiments before coming up with a working prototype of the light bulb - and just look at where the world is today because of it ! where there is a will there is a way

Not so romantic I know lol – but she doesn’t have to know what you’re up too

When you get there – let us in on the formula too kay ?

 

Firstly, thanks for the wonderful reply to my post.

Take your time there are some many people in the world to choose from and so many you just don't have rapport with.

I think you have to find someone that really cares more about your needs than his own.

I'm trying so hard to be objective here.

I do think some women are able to let go, as others are not able to.

I really think inhibitions get in the way, a women has to be able to let go and go with it, thinking negative thoughts will kill your ability to get there.

So keep that in your mind the fear of letting go !!

I think people are too worried about petty things like urinating the bed or making a mess.

The fact of life is sex is messy but who really cares about silly things like that.

So dont worry about it, if you piss a bit, the mattress gets saturated, you let air out or your vagina thats normal and its not a problem.

That seems to be half the battle.

I've read lots of things, about sex, and personally I think you have to go bare back with the guy because I believe that is an important factor.

I don't believe dildos or sex toys work, I never used them to get there.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that a woman has to be able to masturbate hereself with the help of a partner helping her to get there.

So you kinda have to use the guy as a human dildo or do whatever to get your self to the threshold of orgasm, when you reach those gates its then and only then do you allow him to insert himself.

Thats what happened to us she wouldn't let me in and I was raring to go, but she wouldn't let me in.

So you can imagine me I'm actually in some pain before she allowed me in then with me inside her and the added internal stimulation was enough to kick start the orgasm.

When one is on the end of a womens orgasm its just incredible the feeling for a guy, its like a perfect pressure and stimulation that is almost too much to handle.

I couldn't handle the pleasure it was too much my ... was so sensitive thats why I was thrashing my head from side to side.

And the shock of having my ... clasped by a womens vagina was initially quite frightening, as I didn't understand what was going on, but I just thought - I'm just gunna go with it !!!

The other thing that surprised me and I found astonishing is the amount of sweat or water coming off our bodies, its like being in a sauna for an hour, which makes making love so easy, as I she slid up and down on me like there was warm oil between us.

Soul Fusion - yeah the feelings and the thoughts in your mind are like nothing I have experienced before, its hard to describe it its kinda like you no longer feel like your you, you feel like your one in the same because I was inside her and your saturated in sweat so your really slippery against each other.

In my mind I could feel my ... inside her vagina and when a women has an orgasm the vagina becomes a vase the far end is ballooned so a mans ... or the head of his ... is in a cavity, which is very hard to withdraw from, I think the head of his ... expands because the base is constricted by the spasmodic vaginal barrel contractions it this that leads to this incredible ejaculation that a man has.

Something happens to our brains when we experiece hightened sexual arousal, its almost like your unhooked from reality, I must say there was a period of time that I don't remember what happened - i just remember awakening to or it being so quiet and still and the feelings I was feeling.

A contentment, completely relaxed, high as a kite, complete trust in your partner, and your feel wide awake. I just remember staring into her eyes that were dialated pupils.

And she smiled and the feeling of closeness was amazing.

Maybe some women can get to orgasm faster than we did, but I would definatley say that the longer you can prolong the foreplay the better the final result.

 

This is from another one of my posts.

This is my technique and what I know can get your there in time, assuming you can let go.

Your technique is poor, you need to understand just how sensitive their clitoris is.

All this stuff about g-spot is all wrong.

Wipe the slate clean forget everything you learnt about sex.

You need to educate yourself with scientific information not info from pornos or from what other people are saying.

Women and Men in pornos are paid actors, and I doubt very much that they actually enjoy sex whilst they are on the set.

You need to learn about foreplay, kissing, cuddling, and romance.

Women need the emotional thing to enjoy sex.

Its a womens mind that unlocks the ability to have an orgasm, if you don't satisfy that you can forget about orgasm.

I'm extremely gentle with women I like to caress them all over with my hands for a long time, when I say caressing you have to have hands that are as gentle as the wings of a butterfly that glide all over them for hours on end.

One should not even think about penetration before a women is socking wet, otherwise your going to have probelms or create problems.

So do take her out and do things for her not in a robotic kiind of way but in a honest, kind and sincere way.

If a women is tired, take the load off her.

Take her out for dinner and just have fun, cuddle her, kiss her ever so gentley on the mouth and around the neck, near their ears and even on their ears.

Don't think of yourself, don't be selfish, take your time, if you see that she's getting aroused, then go with it.

Keep the foreplay going for a long time, keep teasing her, and teasing her.

Women aren't stupid, you have to be genuine and kind and loveing.

Caress them all over their body like I said very gentley, repeatedly over and over and over ...

And when your arms are aching, switch to the other arm and keep going.

Understand that you have to know that your stimuli is effective.

If your hands are rough, dry and cracked you have to get them soft and smooth if you want the foreplay to be affective.

I think the thing to remember is let them take the clothes off, don't push them, use the carrot not the stick.

Lure them into passionate sex like you would lure a fish to bait.

If she's tired avoid it just fall asleep caressing her.

Guys sometimes wonder how to get a women into bed.

Its easy because they enjoy good sex just as much or more than you.

I remember one GF years ago, I didn't say lets fuck, I just started playing with her hair ...

I made it so pleasurable that she turned around and then of course I started to caress her shoulders, I watched her nipples grow and stand up erect ...

I didn't go straight for the kill, I just kept playing with her back with my fingers, I could feel her skin and the goose bumps ... it was relaxing her and at the same time making her feel aroused ...

This went on for an hour until she took her top off after awhile she pushed my hand down to her ...

But still I didn't go there ....

I just kept caressing her thighs, the back of her legs, the front of her legs.

The sides of her legs ...

Her tummy, circling my fingers in cirlcing motions around her back, her sides, and still didn't go anywhere near her vulva or breasts.

Finally after awhile a ever so gentley brushed her vulva, I could tell she was really begging for it, again I didn't go there ...

She takes her panties off I had a "frog in my throat" so to speak, then I went up to her breasts and gentley brushed them with my fingers.

Around and around my hands went with this constant caressing ...

Then I caressed her breasts but not for long, back to her back, her sides her tummy ...

By this time I can feel the heat coming off her body and her vulva she was really damp on her vulva and wet in the vagina.

so thats basically what I do to get them there, if you can do that you've gone a long way to getting them aroused and ready for penetration.

To get them to orgasm its a long hard tiring journey that very few I'm sure have ever set out on.

But of course if your willing and you persist maybe just maybe you can get her to orgasm.

I guess its like anything, nothing comes easy.

Its hard work and experimentation over a long time that gets you to that place that very few ever experience.

 

The other thing I would like to say is women like to be dominated to some extent, that doesn't mean tied up and denigrated or tortured it means to gently and passionatly slightly agressivly (but not hurting them) make love to them in a masculine kind of way.

Go slightly wild on them passionaly kissing them, and kissing them more all around the neck and ears, sucking their tits, gentle nibbling up and down their arms ...

Women like masculine men, the iron man in a velvet glove.

 

Women are not all the same. For the love of god please stop generalizing and saying that all women want the same thing. Everyone person is different, and one of the joys of loving someone is being able to offer what that particular person wants most.

 

:leaving: arrrrgh !!!

 

i think you're wasting your breath, so to speak.

 

Has anyone tried the techniques that I use ?

 

We need some posted video footage of female members describing and demonstrating their orgasms in order to get the real essence of what they truly mean.

I'm all for learning more. :hurray: