What do you think about trust?

Please Allow My To Quote An Old Saying Which Throughout My Life I Have

Found To Be True....

"A Leopard Never Changes Its Spots"....



Cheers Glen.

 

I have also found that to be true. There are exceptions to every rule of course, but generally speaking, it is true that a leopard never changes it's spots. And the older that a person is, the less likely it is that they'll be able to change.

 

really? no drama here, it's a "heated" discussion.

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you do realize that you're most likely going to be "attacked" for that comment, don't ya? lol. and i'm sure you know who will attack you...

 

There are leopards here?

 

In leotards that conceal spots.

 

It Wouldn't Be The First, And It Won't Be The Last Time Hip Forums Has

Been Described As A Zoo....



Cheers Glen.

 

lol...you cant use half a saying followed by dot dot dot...add some more crap and then say you didnt mean the obvious conclusion of the original saying...nobody here is disagreeing with me except you...try to remember that I am not a mind reader and can only read what you type

my original point is that a person who cheats in one relationship doesnt always continue in the next...hence...not always a cheater as the lovely poppy said in half a sayinghttp://www.hipforums.com/newforums/images/newsmilies/3/set12_b/mickey.gif

nor does it mean that if forgiven that person will cheat on the same person repeatedly


some of us have the ability to learn from our mistakes


if anyone else wants me?

trust
that i will be in the stoners lounge where we all fornicate together and cheat as often as we can

 

If there were, I'd be trying to cuddle them! lol

I'll stick with my cat thank you. lol As long as you take care of them, and show them love, then you will recieve the same back in return... the same certainly can't always be said of humans.

 

But it certainly can be said about dogs

 

Of course it can! I'm definitely more of a cat lady, but I love dogs too.

 

I clearly prefer dogs, except those who are about the size of a cat I get along better with cats then. I hope I don't derail this thread this way but happily there aren't much animals that fit better in a thread about trust

 

Why do you get along better with cats than small dogs?

Well it isn't derailing the thread really... the fact that cats/dogs are more trustworthy than most people is just stating a simple truth!

 

Well, small dogs annoy me in general. They look like sausages on paws and their barking sounds like crap. Now I'm derailing it since my judgemental view on little dogs has nothing to do with trust

 

Well it can be said that as long as the animals needs are met then the animal will allow you to be close to them. The opposite can be said if you go all "Elmyra" on it.

 

Well, going "Elmyra" on an animal is more bordering on the psychotic than it is showing it love. But most dogs and cats like being stroked and cuddled within reason. The key is to give them affection when THEY want it, some people can be a bit overbearing with their pets... I've never had a dog, but a cat will let you know when it wants some affection.

@Asmodean: lol@ Judgemental views on little dogs

 

I think you're brilliant for being upfront and open about having trust issues. I don't think any reasonable person could be blamed for being reluctant to completely trust a person out of the gate. The only true way to establish trust with someone is to spend time and over a long period of time, the experiences gained over time will demonstrate trustworthiness.

On the flip side, I've personally been in relationships (never for long) where I was the subject of outright and unjustified suspicion. I caught an ex-girlfriend of mine going through (snooping through) my private journals and reading emails early (like the first week) in our relationship. That planted the seed of distrust that ultimately destroyed our relationship, because she couldn't stop doing it.

 

I do think trust is something that needs to be earned. But there is a fine line between being naturally and instinctively cautious, and being totally distrusting and paranoid. I may have never been in a relationship, but even I know that any strong relationship that's going to have any hope of lasting the long haul has to be based on trust before anything else. If trust isn't there, things will start falling apart sooner or later.

 

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