What do you think about trust?

Op--you said it didn't work with that guy,so you made the right decision. You protected yourself.
You can't really know how trustworthy someone is until giving them some time with you. Anyway you always have to save something that is just for you,IMO. Trust and loyalty have to be shown and then can be reciprocated.

 

I've never trusted anyone. Mostly because I've been back-stabbed one too many times.

People will turn on you at the flip of a coin, my friend.

 

I agree with that...
Fortuantely however, that isn't true of all humanity.
I've had the good fortune of meeting a few trustworthy people.

 

doesnt everyone look out for their bests interests number one?
now maybe you could manipulate others into thinking your looking out for their best interest, gaining their trust ;p i mean not in a bad wayyyy lol now would you back stab someone you trusted was looking after your best interests? i mean unless it brought them more.... bring something to the table

 

no - i've not commented on anything you have said.

we all have different perceptions

nobody is right or wrong.

i've stupidly had to defend my own convictions.

 

who knows.

 

for the record

you're right.

but you trust someone

then they break your trust

then they become the wrong person.

just felt i should clear the english up

but it doesn't matter anyways.

 

Beg away!

You are comparing apples and oranges so to speak. Trust and indifference are not in the same vain.

How about securing confidence?

Doesn't mean it is legitimate.

Like I say, indifference is not in the same vain as trusting or suspicion.
Of things of like kind, the alternative to trust is suspicion.

 

i'm not sure you can really be back-stabbed without first trusting the person.

 

There is great benefit in trusting the right people, and therefor you will lose out if you are not able to trust them

There is great harm in trusting the wrong people, and therefor you will benefit from mistrusting them

It's probably a mistake to be so fearful of being hurt that you are super vigilant. It's also probably a mistake to let your guard down too far. I think it's a matter of finding the right balancing point

You can also try to seek out relationships with people who are from a generally trustworthy pool. Maybe a friend of a friend, somebody that you've got some background info on.

Maybe try volunteering. Volunteers are generally nice, trustworthy people. And if you don't meet anyone, you will have at least done something nice by volunteering.

Beyond that, if you really want to find a loyal, trustworthy companion, get a dog.

 

^This is exactly how I feel about trust!

 

I still disagree with your reference to indifference. You just don't get it and it's no longer worth my while to respond.

 

i think we should discuss indifference more.... apathy is described as a result of the individual feeling they do not possess the level of skill required to confront a challenge. sounds like an indifference to trust, is just setting yourself up to be back stabbed..... not that youd care right ( An apathetic individual has an absence of interest in or concern about emotional, social, spiritual, philosophical and/or physical life.)

 

To an extent yes, but in the case of trust, an apathetic person expects to be back stabbed... almost looking forward to it so an "I told you so" episode can come forth.

 

expect makes it so

 

indifference to trust is not setting yourself up, at least not in my case.

i have no reason to trust or not trust most people. that was the point!

 

typical female reply...and not true at all...no way you can make that blanket statement...people change colors all the time...sure its true for some but it doesnt mean every dude should have that sin on their soul until the likes of you baptize them with your trust blessings

fuck that

the rope in his reply is the ''trust''......kinda obvious

 

indifference may not be the right word for you then.. perhaps neutral?

 

Really? REALLY?

 

typical female reply, eh? nope. it's from the experience of having a husband who works in a field with the highest divorce rate in the country. over 85% of all employees. and almost every divorce i know of was because of cheating. and the cheaters still continue to cheat. men and women.

and i can make any blanket statement i want - and do so based on my own observations and knowledge! (within and outside hubby's profession)

fuck that? no, fuck them! trust blessings? what are you on?