What are the chances that she's pregnant?

Thank you, that means alot. It wasn't easy figuring things out, but I know for sure i'd feel even worse than i do now if Bernadette and I went with any other choice.

You've been more than helpful through this whole ordeal. Every bit of advice and assistance i've gotten from you and everyone else has done so much for me nd I really appreciate it.

 

Even if she doesn't seem to notice, I'm sure she appreciates the effort you're putting in, keep it up. It's good you're talking to her and going to her appointments. There are lots of other things besides just food she should eat that can help the baby be better off. Have you told your parents yet?

About your girl, maybe you need to let her go. You're young, you got time. Maybe she's not who you're supposed to be with, and hell, maybe she is, but it's not the time. You never know, but people come in and out of your life for a reason so try to remember that. I may have said it already, but it also sometimes takes time to figure the reason out.

By the way, if ya'll were broken up like you said in your first post, it's not cheating. A little trashy, but not cheating. Please do not take offense by that, just couldn't think of a better word at the time.

You're welcome, friend.

And seriously, AmyBeachGirl, go clean the sand outta your vag. You're rude comments are not necessary.

 

I thought her rude comment was funny. I mean op did say she looked like an oaf. I think that was more rude.

Take the girlfriend as a loss. Maybe this whole thing is a lesson to always be faithful to the ones you love. Teach that to your child, don't let him/her down. It's gonna be tough but it sounds like you'll get a handle on it.

 

You're a better man than I am. I wouldn't be doing shit until I had a paternity test proving I was the dad. I don't mean to be harsh, but this was a 1-night stand. Unless you know for a fact she's telling the truth about you being the only one she slept with, she could be pulling you along for the ride and taking advantage of you. Not all girls are honest and good hearted you know.

 

With work and school, I haven't seen them much during the week. I've been avoiding them as much as possible when i get home. When I talk to them i cant say more than a few words in passing because of how guilty i feel around them. I keep thinking of how angry and letdown they'd be if i told them. I know i don't have a choice though. I have to tell them immediately

Bernadette already told her dad without even letting me know. He wants to see me and her tomorrow after school cause he'll be off from work then. I'm scared to death. I don't want to meet her dad without telling my own parents. He'll probably want to talk to them next. I really dont want to but i'm gonna have to tell my folks tonight when they're both home.

 

I feel guilty about it nonetheless. At the time we weren't broken up as much as it was giving eachother some space after the fight we had. I shouldn't have been such a piece of shit to put her in that position in the first place. looking back, I've never been much good of a boyfriend to anyone i've been with and I deeply regret it. This is the one girl who really meant alot to me and I still took her for granted. God how I wish she knew how sorry I am.

I hope she can forgive me. I don't want to think that it's over between us, but If it is at least i understand why and am trying to accept it out of respect for her.

 

Trying can't hurt or anything, you'll need the sane support once you have a kid with oafgirl, but.... your girlfriend's a loss, dude.

As for oafgirl, don't let her get you down, especially once you have a kid, especially in front of said kid. If she bickers, be like yeah, that's nice, or whatever.... make sure your kid sees stability on your side, and can choose to model their behavior on the stable, positive-minded parent.

Get a paternity test, of course. You're obviously being taken for a ride by a total bitch anyways, so, while maybe no-one else would bang her, if they would, she'd still be a bitch and take you for a ride. Anyways, the point is to determine that you're being taken on your own ride, and not somebody elses.

Also, you better tell your parents, and get their support, pronto.

 

Let your parents know you understand what you've done and now you need their support to still make the best out of a kinda crappy situation. They'll be disappointed, but they love you and hopefully will be able to help you a lot.

And you still may have to let her go, but if you think she'd be up to it...try being friends later. Give her a while to get over her anger and such and so you can focus on what's going on.

 

@Roorschack

We've gotten into some arguments over the past weeks. I know i've got a short temper so i'm trying to work on that so things don't get outta hand with this girl. But i have not and will not let anything she does or says put me past any point.

And i agree, the paternity test is definitely a given.

 

"I named my child Asphalt because it was her ass and my fault!"

 

@whitterbug

I love my folks too and don't want to let them down, but you're right, I need their help and have to be honest with them.

Likewise I only wan't what's best for my girlfriend. If she was open for even a friendship, I'd do my best to make things up to her.

As always, I appreciate your advice and support. Thank you for being a friend through this.

 

I can't even lie, that was a good one. Lol.
Anyway, good luck with talking to your parents. And like I said, you may want to give it a while...but definitely try to be friends. It's worth a shot, the worst she can do is say no. When you do, let her know you understand if she doesn't want to be friends, but maybe you two could just talk one more time so at least the last time you talk won't be such a sucky memory for the two of you. Tell her if she's not going to be in your life, you'd rather say goodbye on a better note. Good luck with talking to preggo's daddy. Just stay calm, even if he's a butthead.

 

I shouldn't have been so insulting towards her in my first post, I know. I was just really pissed and scared at the time when i wrote it. I still am but that's still no escuse.

I'll do my best if only for this child. I wont make make such bad mistakes again.

I'm trying. Thanks man.

 

That's probably the best chance i've got at this point. I'm be praying that things can turn out that way in the future.

 

Again, good luck to you! I got my fingers crossed that things go well for you.

 

This is exactly why you don't do shit until you have a paternity test proving you're the dad. Who needs all that extra stress in their life, for something their not even sure is their responsibility?

There's nothing wrong with stepping back and saying, "if I am the father, I'll do everything I can to help take care of and raise my child. But I have the right to know first." So fuck going to doctor visits, meeting with her dad, going to lamaze classes, etc. You're not her bf. You're not her husband. You're at MOST the babies daddy. Nothing more.

I don't know the court system there, but you go through all the motions taking the role of that childs dad, even if a test proves you're not the dad a court could still possibly place responsibility on you. I would get a lawyer if I were you and be VERY clear of what rights you have in this situation.

 

Don't. You have got to tell your parents first. They are going to find out anyway, they will be more upset the longer you hide it.

DO NOT go see this girl's father without your parents. He is likely to be pissed and try to bully you. He may even think you are this girl's boyfriend and try to force you to marry her, or agree to things you don't want to do.

You need a paternity test for sure, she'll need one to get child support from you anyway. Does she sleep around? What are your chances?

 

suck it up

 

If what he says is true, she's a piece of shit.

If it's his child, he does need to make sure she doesn't fuck it up.

He seriously fucked up, and needs to cover his bases.

I mean, maybe he's a piece of shit too. But he doesn't need to be encouraged, just as he has a chance to change that.

OP, talk with your own parents before anything. Maintain that you want a DNA test and don't trust oafgirl for shit, but just the same, you need to see things through until you know one way or the other.

All I can say is, this is what abortion is for. She thinks she's got you good, make sure that you're there for the kid, and not for her. Never ever ever agree to date her, or touch her even a bit sexually again, or anything like that. Don't settle and don't let her fuck things up for you, just take care of you and your kid. Don't be manipulated and don't let her bring everything down to her level.

 

I completely agree with this.