what a does a "good wife" mean?

i order them online and have them delivered.

 

if i can add something please woman themselves should admire themselves as a housewife to, sometimes i hear things about the big push that woman have to work (it's almost normal)...


Being a houswife is the oldest and i think most beautifull and most important job of them all (especially if you have kids). But i'm still thinking that you yourself know what to do the best with your life.

 

naturally, or wearing thigh highs.

 

i would say a good wife would involve a couple things. the wife should put 100% effort into the family as should the husband. doesnt matter if she wants a job or to cook and clean, just a good wife should be like a stone pillar keeping the familyup. but of course you need at least 2 equally strong pillars to keep it from collapsing so the husband shouold also put an equal amount of effort.

a good wife should love her family and kids with every ounce of her being.tthey shouold be able to listen to their husbands if he needs to talk and all that and shouls stick by her husband trhough thick and thin.

i would say thats all that matters and the same is applied to a good husband. samne basic qualities are needed. you dont have to be a good cook or a maid, and the husband doesnt have to be a rich buisnessman. so long as everything in your relationship is based on love and equality, id say you are a great wife. shit, if i get married ill be the one doing the cooking most of the time. im already learning tons of techniques since im a cook at a lebanese resturant.

but then again, im only 17 and havnt had a serious girlfriend so i could be completely wrong.

 

you're not completly wrong in what you said mr. morisson

 

i think you're the first truly evolved teenager i've ever met. brilliant post.

(i'm anti-teenager, )

 

I'm sorry, what everyone is saying sounds all hunky dory, but when I read this:

I'm just not having a Hallmark moment. Fuck that!

He's hurt and you're a team. I got it. But after you bust your ass to pick up the slack he talks to you like that? Fuck that. You should go out and order yourself a pizza, and a beer if you're into that, and let him wonder when you're coming back. What an ungrateful prick.

Does a good wife just let someone say mean shit to her because he doesn't feel good? Why? Is a good woman a codependent door mat? I don't think so.

He should be giving you extra juice because you're taking care of him.

You know, when my dd is tired and whiny, she sometimes says mean stuff that she doesn't mean. I treat it like background noise and I put her to bed. You need to do the same thing. Of course you're a good woman. He doesn't know what he's talking about. Try to ignore it. What a hurtful thing to say.

 

what Levi said is true, up to and including "Stewart/Colbert in 2008!"

If you feel yourself becoming "the old frazzled wife", just chill.....if everyone has to go commando in dirty jeans tomorrow because you didn't get around to the laundry, they'll deal with it. If the dishes sit in the sink for a few days and get a bit stinky, squirt some soap on 'em and do them tomorrow!

And there has to be trade-offs. I do the laundry, but he does most of the cooking.
I definitely do more around here than he does, but if I ask him nicely (usually2-3 times, lol) he'll chip in a bit more.
we both work a lot of hours, so if one of us has a lighter week, we will pick up the slack.

To be a good wife, i think you need to have a good husband. One can not exist without the other.
i'm not married (getting married in june) but we've lived together for a few years. i don't expect anything to change when we're married.

peace

 

if your husband said this to you take this a sign that he's concerned about the state of your marriage and you as a wife. he's being honest with you and deserves some respect for it.

if you have no idea how to change your ways try this VERY HUMBLING EXERCISE: (warning: this is a pride swallower but worth it)

first take some time to clean yourself up and make yourself look, feel and smell feminine. second, kindly ask him for a few minutes of his time. third have him sit in a chair and you sit at his feet. thank him for being honest with you. tell him you don't know how to be a good wife and woman anymore but that's what you want to be because you love and care about him and your marriage. tell him you're very sad about failing in your role as a wife to him. apologize for resisting and undermining him and your marriage and relationship. make a promise to try harder and ask for his guidance and leadership to do better. try hard not to cry.

get up and go cry somewhere else. most likely he'll come to you with open arms sooner or later. be open to his suggestions and DON'T BE DEFENSIVE. when your head starts to spin with *but .... * ignore it, that's called resisting and arguing. he may ask you what he can do to be a better husband. after this .... stop the nagging and complaining. be more pleasant a cheerful. NEVER say no to sex ... it's extremely important to a man and a marriage.

men are not bad terrible people. if your husband is a good man he will respect what you've said and do right by you. you will be happier.

no feminist bitch would do the above ... so if you want to drive her away, start with my suggestions.

signed,
reformed feminist bitch

 

Ugh... are you kidding me?

He's being a rather shitty husband, too, IMO.

And for the previous poster... What happened in your life to make you that way? I feel so sorry for you. I hope you find yourself again soon.

 

sit at his feet? don't question him, never let him see when you're upset? never complain, ever? you're kidding me.

i think you're jharyn.

 

lol. it is a bit extreme. but communication and asking how you can help your guy, while he asks how he can help you, is a good thing. just, yknow, thats not the approach id take

 

well, i wouldn't put myself at a disadvantage, like a loyal dog. taking criticism without freaking out is good, but not being able to voice your own? i'm not talking about nagging, no one likes to be nagged, but never putting forth your own opinions? i don't think so.

 

"Sweetdeviant" is not a girl. No girl would say that.

 

i'm laughing now.

i had a feeling you ladies wouldn't be able to swallow your pride.

why not sit at his feet .... it's shows a humbleness.

i didn't say don't EVER question him, i said don't resist him.

typically men don't appreciate a complaining nag ... so why be one. women have girlfriends to complain to.

who's jharyn?

i am a girl and it's a good approach. i know it sounds strange and is against what we've been taught by society, but it's probably the opposite of how she's behaved in the past and can give HER (the wife) a new perspective and the husband too. i've been married for 18 years and am happy and spoiled rotten by my husband who only talks well of me and about me to others.

why can't women be more humble? why do we always have to be *right* and *in control*? men are pretty damn awesome if they're given a chance. and if we can back off for a few minutes to listen to what they have to say WE can learn a thing or two.

 

I'd say being a good wife is just doing everything you can to make him happy as well as yourself (if you're not happy, you can't make him happy).. being able to compromise.. I like waking up everyday and trying to find atleast one thing I can do to make his day better.. I think being a good wife also depend on the guy you're with.. I don't think there's set rules to follow, everyone and every relationship is different.. just love him, care for him and do your very best in the marriage.. if you love him enough to marry him it really shouldn't be that hard should it??

 

my husband doesn't want me humble. he never did. he didn't marry me to change me, nor did i marry him to change him. i'm not a pet and he's not a dog to be raised, either. we're best friends and united alliance against the world. whenever he has a problem with me, he brings it right to me and vice versa. i'm not going to kneel at his feet while he does it. i'm his equal, not a footwarmer.

 

^^ *applause* preach it sister!!

I completely agree with you.. if I was that way Mike would have no respect for me anymore.. he'd be like "what the fuck is up with you?"

 

and that comment about not being able to swallow our pride was ESPECIALLY suspiciously like jharyn.