want vs. need

Quoted for emphasis :2thumbsup:

 

thanks for the great replies

so if basic wants are needed, then a person should definitely go after their wants..
I think.

 

Needs are the same as wants, but wants aren't the same as needs.

Needs are obviously more important, as most have said, because without them you would die. And nobody wants that, so most of the things that are needs are also wants, such as food. But then there comes the more greedy fun-side to life, where we want things we don't need... And those are also important, because those wants make us who we are... If we had no wants or desires outside of the basic needs of survival, we would be a very lame un-evolved species... Because those wants are what drive us to be successful and to gain what we want.

 

I think.
I feel.
I need.
I want..

 

I'ma gonna NEED a house as the old one burned, structure is not recoverable/rebuildable.



Shelter is one of the basic needs...



But I want a cabin it the woods...

 

see me.
feel me.
touch me.
heal me.

 

so in this case, the need is shelter, the nature of the shelter can coincide with what you want, but it is not necessary to have a cabin to satisfy the need for shelter. thats a great example. and i hope you find a cabin in the woods

 

I think it a good lesson to examine in an experiential way, what our needs are.
It is instructive to know hunger, thirst, cold, heat, pain, sickness and loneliness.

There is another category that confuses the line between need and want, and that is compulsion. If you have what you need there is nothing you want and are more inclined to give things away than lust after them.

 

RainyDayHype + Undies :love:

 

I think wants bring happiness and I'm not talking about material items (though I guess it can be argued that material items do bring some people happiness), I mean wants more along the lines in what you'd want to find in a partner or wants in our surroundings (like having the cabin in the woods) or the wanting to have a certain type of career.
I think people *need* to be happy or should so therefore they should go after their wants (what brings them happiness), correct?
This is sort of a conundrum for me.

 

ha ha
thanks for making me laugh today

 

...Maybe people need an equal balance of wants & needs?

 

and dont neglect contentment. you can be content with very little. needs satisfied, and not desire for more. the Dali Lama doesnt seem unhappy to me.

The four noble truths

Life means suffering.
the origin of suffering is attachment
the cessation of suffering is attainable
there is a path to the cessation of suffering

the eightfold path
right view
right intention
right speech
right action
right livelihood
right effort
right mindfulness
right concentration

 

you're welcome, but I wasn't kidding.


ok, I think you are single, hetero, and seem much concerned with love

undies is:

1. single (pretty sure)

2. hetero (I think)

3 funny (kinda)

4 has a fully functioning penis (from how he describes his wanking habits)

I'm not so sure how much undies in concerned with love, but his post on this thread sounded kind of romantic, in his own undies kind of way.

now, the downside:

1. he's a hardcore wanker (though that's all the more reason why he needs a gf)

2. he lives in ohio (somewhere) and you live in seattle

which is really the biggest obstacle

so I guess I don't know if you two would make a good item, but maybe?

 

If everyone had what they needed, it would be a very differant world.

If everyone had what they wanted,it would be a very differant world.

 

Yes, having wants is a great incentive, but not to only have access to those things that make you happy, but to think about what it is that truly matters. Wants make you try different things too, until it's fully discovered. I have numerous examples of how this has evolved in my own life.

 

@e7m8-
so he is what I need, but is he what I want?...

 

I don't know, but he just asked you to see him, feel him, touch him, and heal him. sounds promising

 

I'm not even entirely sure what I was trying to figure out with this post. Well, when I was high, the question came to me- "which is better to have? wants or needs?" Maybe it should have been re-phrased as which is more important. I think I've come to the conclusion that each is equally as important. I was specifically curious about wants and needs in relationships but I thought I'd post it as a more general question and see what you guys could come up with. I've caught myself in several relationships where I'd often say to myself, "this is Not what I want.." Needless to say those were abusive relationships (not physically, but emotionally and mentally). The mention of contentment has me pondering that now. Hmm..

 

I'd love to hear your examples if you want to share.