versatile guys

well, it's not a preference arising out of my conscious reasoning or anything like that. it's just something i've noticed -- namely that out of all my sexual partners i have had i've tended to develop a better connection with those who identified as bottoms rather than tops. doesn't mean i never connected with tops or that i shun them because of this tendency. i don't. my preference is just an afterthought.

and, of course, my dick doesn't have a preference other than gender.

 

Yeah, yeah I know, dont really pay attention, doesnt really matter at the moment, its only something that kind of starts to stick out after 30

How old are you now BTW?

Comes down to even just what your definition of 'connection' means there. Cos most of the 'tops' are assholes, its just about sticking it in a hole, dont really care what, just that guys are a lot easier, developed a certain persona and body image to make you think they are gay, but never really want to go out with you anywhere before or after. A better connection with the 'bottoms' becuase they are more likely to go grab a coffee with you or clubbing. But then you realise some of them only ever want to go to clubs with a lot of girls, spend too much time touching their boobs, the ones that make the girls say 'gay guys love boobs' , your spidey sense is like "huh, what?".

Its also the ones that could win an academy award for gay acting, they are the ones that really throw you

Compared to all that, is the one guy that comes along every so often, that, forget anything to do with buttsex, 'top' or 'bottom', cos most of the time he wont get that far, get too hot and bothered, too focused on your arms or your chest, get you alone with just try and rape your face or wont last all thag long once youve taken your shirt off, but still have your pants on

Also usually the guy, that when encounters ANYTHING female, is like "OMG, stop talking", so the girls never actually see them, or when they are out on ghe hunt anyway.

Compared to that kind of guy, all this talk about top and bottom sounds like nonsense, and it is a red flag....becuase any guy that speaks like that....isnt one of those guys

Which is why 30 is that magic number with gay guys, more like around 27, once its not just about hormones, those not interested enough in guys in the first place either drift off into suburbia , or whine becuase 'gay'guys from websites never meet up with them and they are not interested enough to bother with anything in real life

 

maybe i am missing something, because i can't make sense of what you said.

i am 32, by the way.

 

No, a firm preference as either a bottom or a top.

 

*raises one eyebrow

Mmmm hmmmm

 

yeah, i can't explain it either. i've always loved the fact that guys can do both, fuck and be fucked. tha's the beauty of it. as a man who loves other men i want to share my body with another man, and i also want to have his and make him feel good. i am also comfortable with the emotional dynamics involved with either expression. it adds a whole more depth and dimension to the relationship/interaction.

 

I feel exactly the same way! So many people ask dumb shit like, "But who's the MAN in the relationship?" You're BOTH men, that's the point of being gay!

 

I'm a total bottom. I've offered to be versatile in an attempt to get some reciprocal "hey, you can top me too" action, but it's never panned out. If I went into a fuck session knowing I was going to just be a 100% top and not get plowed, I think I'd just pass.

 

not at all

Yeah - me too..........I was mostly a top throughout my life until the last ten years and now consider myself versatile - i also love to fuck and be fucked - flip-flop, but I do tend to pick the sorta guy i like to fuck nowadays, I've got a bit more selective and sometimes feel i should describe myself as versatile bottom. There seem to be a helluva lot more bottoms on the meat-market nowadays than tops that's for sure. Guys waking up to their prostate!

Simon

 

I will take it in the ass also. Love fucking ass for sure! But I've had a cock in my ass it was awesome. So your not the only one. I'd would rather fuck a Versatile guy. So I could get anal orgasm. Once I get screwed in my ass my cock stays hard and throbbing for more ass. Flipping back and fourth 3 or4 times. I'm so fucking high from sex.

 

I love taking it in my ass. The same way I love to swallow. My partner is the top and I'm submissive and that's fine by me.

 

Top or bottom?
Hard to say I've never had any cock as of yet! Idk I believe top. But till I fuck a guy or get fucked versa all the way.

 

Is sucking cock/cum tasting considers bottom ?

 

I'm not into tops or bottoms sexually the parts I like are closer to the middle.;-)

 

I liked bottom but topped too. Think it was about what they wanted and what turned them on

 

I always considered myself a total Top until the curiosity of what it must feel like to bottom got the best of me. First of all...I'm Bi...so I play with TS as well.

Well one night I hooked with a very passable TS and we ended up going back the "her" house with my sole intention of topping. It's funny how things happened because for some reason we really clicked and were playing around and talking while I was giving "her" a blowjob. It was getting to the point that I was getting ready to fuck and then out of nowhere she told me that she really wanted my ass. So as mentioned...out of sheer curiosity, I agreed to let "her" top me. It was my first time that night and what can I say...it felt wonderful!

Having always been a Top...I always used my cock in a sensual manner BUT it was for my own benefit. Now that I have bottomed a total of three times now, and know what it feels like to receive, I understand now how pleasure can be given and taken in more of a versatile sense. I still very much enjoy topping men or TS...but now I'm more inclined to use my cock as a tool of pleasure for the bottom as I watch them melt more and more into the mattress with every stroke...as opposed to being mainly concerned with my own satisfaction.

Give or take...its hard to understand unless you've tried both.

 

That's a really interesting way of looking at it. Hadn't thought of it that way before.

Thanks. Take care,

 

Having been a top most of my life I can agree with Styx.. once you start to experience the sensation of being fucked and appreciate the other side of the coin.....i love to give pleasure to the guys fucking me ....a real turn on, and if they have a nice thick solid cock....mmmmmmmm
Simon

 

I'm 100% versatile but it seems like I top 99% of the time.