Vegetarians and Dating

There should be a "hug a vegetarian day!"

 

I think I'm one of those people... one that would never get it out of their mind. It's their decision... but the thought of it would haunt me and leave me to ponder constantly about everything related to meat consumption...

 

Well on an entirely practical level, the smell of cooking meat makes me feel ill, so that'd be impossible to be around. If was dating a meat eater, I'd always be worried that I was imposing my values by not wanting meat in the house etc. Oh, and kissing someone with burger breath (did it once when drunk) is the grossest thing imaginable for a veggie.

 

Yeah... that's the type of thing I think of... plus I'm always wondering what they've eaten and how long they're going to live and artery blockages and... etc... not only that... I always wonder (every time I meet an omni) how many animals they've contributed in torturing and killing... I don't think I could handle an omnivore though... nothing against them personally (unless they were an anti-open-minded-asshole) but I just can't stand meat... plus I'd always have to worry if they used the same spatula, fork, spoon, utensil, etc... to cook with meat... I like to cook though, but whatever works. I'd probably be too paranoid if I was ever with an omnivore.

 

so ideally - i'd be with the above train of thought - not only is veg*ism a really sexy attribute, it's also practical to have two together.

Yet - to be realistic you can't choose who you fall for, and futhermore, there is a severe shortage of decent guys where i live, let alone decent vegie ones (and by decent i mean not an asshole ...yeah, i'm picky )

anyway, i am basically saying that it's not essential that they be veg - it would be nice, but it's not everything.

 

Hehe, I became a vegetarian because of my boyfriend. I wrote an article about it, it's up on vegetarianteen.com, here's a link if anyone cares:

http://www.vegetarianteen.com/articles/natalie.shtml

 

Lets pretend this was a meateating forum....and people were saying they could never date or be with a veghead because its gross and wrong and nasty ect. Would we not be offended? You can't talk about being open minded and in the same thought put down someone for eating meat. Did we go from being assholes to saints cause we switched out diets? not a chance.
im not saying wanting to only be with a veg*n is wrong, not infact its what I want, but not for a second would I brush someone off cause they weren't
Wheres the love?

 

It's not a case of judging people for what they eat though, it's simply whether your lifestyles and ethics are compatible. Would you expect a christian to date a satanist?

I think it's largely a natural process anyway. In the 17 years since I went veggie, I've never once dated a meat-eater. I never chose not to, it just ended up that way. All the people I was attracted to also happened to be vegetarian. I guess maybe it's easier for me than some coz my social circle includes a reasonable number of veggies, but my point is we tend to find ourselves naturally attracted to those with whom we have things in common.

 

I think we should be open to people evn if they're not veggie, because they could become a very important person in your life.

 

Did anyone say we shouldn't?

 

I live with an omni. We don't have any problems. I do the grocery shopping, so we never have any meat in the house anyway! But, he does want the occasional steak, so I let him have it, just as long as I don't have to cook it. I don't have a problem with him eating meat. And he doesn't have a problem with me not eating it.

 

I was pretty lucky that when I first met my husband it turned out he was a vegetarian too. so that made the course of our relationship pretty easy. Now I am in the process of going vegan (been animal free for 2 weeks) and he is still stickin with vegetarian.

 

I'm just saying...

 

I am dating a meat eater and I hope this won't be a problem for us. But the fact is that it's bothering me, this is a major difference between us and I don't know what to do. I just can't understant how he can say he loves animals and still eat them! Plus, he hates what I eat.
Some of you probably live with a meat eater. How do you handle it?
Are we really that incompatible?

 

I really dont see a problem. My boyfriend eats meat, love the stuff. Unless your into carnivore bashing, I dont see why it would be. You cant really expect someone to have the same beleifs as you , or like the same food, he cant expect yyou to eat meat either.
As for living with one, I live with two and we just eat different food, I cook when theyre not home so there isnt extra dishes, freeze the food and heat it up later they have their meals and I have mine.

 

I guess this could work. I can live with that as long as I'm not the one who's cooking the meat.

 

No offence intended, but this is bullshit. You have to recognise that a lot of people feel differently on this issue. Personally, the sight and smell of meat makes me feel ill - not because I'm being reactionary or extremist about it, but just because that's how my body responds after not having eaten it for so long. Therefore, dating someone who ate meat would be practically impossible for me. It has nothing to do with 'carnivore bashing'.

Also, some of us find meat eating to be extremely morally repugnant. Again, this is nothing to do with 'carnivore bashing'. I respect the fact that people grow up in a society where meat eating is acceptable and so it's unrealistic to expect others to share my moral perspective. But that doesn't mean that I'm not morally disgusted by meat eating. Doesn't mean I'm judging anyone, that's just how I feel about it. I couldn't date someone who praticed something that disgusts me so deeply.

No, but it's not unreasonable to look for similar outlooks and ideals in a partner. Would you, for example, date a racist? I think it's a lot easier for those of use who move in circles where other veggies are easy to find, and so for many people dating veggies might just not be an option. But it'd be nice if you'd try and understand why, for some of us, dating veggies is the only option.

 

it seems to be very difficult for me to fit in meat eaters groups.. and a lot of my friends are meat eaters. In Romania vegetarians are considered freaks and I'm tired to be a freak..
So, I think (hope) this could work if I really want it to. And I know how you feel, the smell of meat makes me sick too. But I have very few friends that feel this way, and to my other friends, I am the weird one. I am weird for caring about what happens to the animals, for refusing to eat them after they die, for not wanting to close my eyes and ignore that.. I'm just trying to fit in, that's all. And I would like so much that one day he would wake up and realise that's the way he feels too, that eating animals is wrong. But I think I'm just kidding myself. And if you can date a vegetarian then it's great, and you are really lucky.

 

My dad still eats meat and did when I first became a vegetarian. What really bothered me was the fact that he kept hassling me about what I ate. Saying it was gross. Finally I told him one day that he did not have to eat what I had to eat. And I did not eat what he had to eat. Just let it be that way. As long as it does not enter your body let the other person do what they want. Free will and all.

 

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my boyfriend eats meat but he doesnt care that im a vegan. I just get pissed off when he goes "i love meat" although hes only done that once. At first he didnt know what a vegan was, and thought vegetarians ate fish.

And I also make him wash his mouth out after he eats a dead animal if he wants to kiss me.